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How OCD Hijacks Your Brain with Angie Greene

Sun, 04 Oct 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Angie’s OCD obsessions are that she has committed her worst, most insidious, fears.

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Officially diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) when she was 19, some of Angie’s earliest memories are of obsessions, compulsions and seeking reassurance.

Joining us in the studio, Angie talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the reality of living with OCD, how she navigates particularly bad episodes with her partner, and why she wouldn’t wish it on her worst enemy

Angie explains false memories, and the lengths she has gone to seek reassurance, and finally, why it is so important to her to create something that helps people feel less alone.

In amongst all of the OCD chat, Hugh asks Angie about her anti-discrimination work and the beautiful story of where that passion came from.

🧠If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with or thinks they may have OCD, these are some great resources. In an emergency, always call 000.

OCD BOUNCE - https://ocd.org.au
OCD WA - https://www.ocdwa.com.au
International OCD Foundation - https://iocdf.org
The Joy Thief, by Penny Moodie - https://bit.ly/3VJaKZ4
It’s Not What You Think podcast - https://bit.ly/4iZppcj
LifeLine - 13 11 14

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Penny Moodie - Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - https://bit.ly/4jxTPTd
Penny Moodie’s New Book - OCD & Finding Joy Again - https://bit.ly/4rGXkJa
Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4hxuLZY
Issac Humphries - Coming Out On Court - https://bit.ly/3VZDHQA

💻Things to check out

Andrea Wallace’s Website - https://wonderpsychology.com
Angie Greene’s Website - angiegreene.com.au

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Luke Bateman - Gambling With My Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Sep 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Mid 20's and $250,000 in debt. Gripped by a gambling addiction. How do you recover?

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From the outside, it looked like Luke Bateman was living the dream: a professional NRL career with ludicrous pay checks and sponsorship deals.

On the inside, Luke was battling a crippling gambling addiction, deepening depression and a widening chasm between the character he was playing, and his true authentic self.

With immense courage, honesty and vulnerability, Luke takes Hugh, Ryan and Josh through the ups and downs of his recovery journey. Luke unpicks the difference between unconditional love and conditional help from his parents, and why his time in rehab was the best thing that ever happened to him.

Luke speaks about how his journey with addiction impacted his relationship with his mum, and the gratitude he feels for her now, and how learning about internal family systems changed his life forever.

Luke, you are such a beautiful person. Thank you for joining us today.

This episode discusses gambling addiction and suicidal ideation. Please take care when listening.

This episode is part of the BE HOPE Podcast Takeover, bringing podcasts around the world together to explore the themes of hope and how we can continue to make progress in a rapidly changing world - https://globalgoals.org/behope/

🚨If you, or someone you know is struggling with a gambling addiction

Call LifeLine - 13 11 14
Register at BetStop - betstop.gov.au
Gamblers Anonymous - https://bit.ly/3TJ1C6d
Gambling Help Online - gamblinghelponline.org.au
In an emergency, always call 000

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0:00 – Trailer: $250K of Gambling Debt
1:26 – Be Hope Podcast Takeover Announcement
4:15 – Luke Bateman doesn’t fit in a box
6:06 – Growing up ‘soft’ in Rural Queensland
10:03 – Hiding Books from the Boys
17:11 – The Shame of Reading
19:22 – Chasing a Dream to Fill the Void
22:26 – Money, Drugs & Alcohol in Professional Sport
27:40 – Lies, Debt & Betting Company ‘VIP’ Treatment
30:26 – Should Gambling Sponsorship Be Banned?
31:11 – Rock Bottom
33:18 – The Phone Call That Saved His Life
39:45 – Rehab, Recovery + Relinquishing Control
43:40 – Inside Rehab “Get a Real Addiction”
47:21 – Recovery Is Not Linear
50:21 – Internal Family Systems: Healing the exiled child
56:05 – Generational Masculinity: Why Men Struggle to Connect
58:19 – Denial + Corporate Greed
1:03:13 – Luke’s Honesty Policy
1:06:08 – Unconditional Love vs Conditional Help
1:10:18 – Sharing Shame with Teammates
1:11:37 – Luke’s Message to Anyone Struggling Right Now
1:13:03 – Finding Your Way Back

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Jack’s Gambling Addiction Story - https://bit.ly/4hFQmk1

📚Things to read

The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane, by Kate DiCamillo - https://bit.ly/46FkS7v
Keys to the Kingdom, by Garth Nix - https://bit.ly/4AnBxKB
The Midnight Library, by Matt Haig - https://bit.ly/4d2Ozmx
No Bad Parts, by Richard C Scharwtz - https://bit.ly/46FSGkU
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For, by Richard C Schwartz - https://bit.ly/3Tp0gx8

🎧Things to listen to

In The Good Books with Luke Bateman I Matt Haig: Writing What You Need to Hear - https://bit.ly/4jjvBvK

📱Things to check out

Luke’s Instagram (and his thoughts on male silence) - https://bit.ly/46AnIuy

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Dr Emily - The Phenomenon That Is Imposter Syndrome

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Sep 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Do you live in fear of being found out as a fraud? That despite your years of competency, achievement and high performance someone will uncover the truth?

Well, you’re in the right place. Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is here to tell you that your imposter syndrome is nothing to be afraid of. In fact, it’s not even a syndrome.

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To get a little bit meta, Dr Emily explains that knowing that you don’t know everything, is a good thing. Especially if you’re starting a new role, or trying something for the first time.

HOWEVER, the long-term consequences of the imposter cycle such as perfectionism, overcompensation, burnout, or even avoidance and procrastination, may impact your willingness to say yes to new opportunities, such as going for that promotion or asking for support.

In this episode, Dr Emily asks Hugh, Ryan and Josh to think about the balance of their competence and confidence, and provides them (and you!) with four practical strategies for combatting this pesky phenomenon.

And then, a weird amount of chat about Vlad the Impaler.

0:00 – An Emisode!
2:41 – Adam Grant is not an imposter
5:11 – Origins of Imposter Syndrome
6:45 – ‘Syndrome’ is the wrong word
8:19 – It all comes back to belonging
10:39 – How common is imposter syndrome?
12:20 – Fear of being found out as a fraud
15:16 – The evolutionary psychology of belonging and self-doubt
16:35 – Is self-doubt actually healthy?
17:42 – Is your confidence a mask?
18:57 – The Dunning-Kruger Effect
23:15 – The more you know ….
25:12 – Competence vs confidence
26:29 – The Imposter Cycle: anxiety, perfectionism, luck
32:09 – Becoming your own favourite artist
35:55 – Avoidance, procrastination + self-fulfilling prophecies
38:29 – Long term consequences ft. Hugh’s anus
45:26 – Authenticity as the antidote
46:22 – Less growth, less promotions
48:52 – Strategy 1: write down your skills
49:53 – Strategy 2: name your shame
51:40 – Supporting a friend with imposter phenomenon
52:29 – Self-doubt in a new role is a good sign
57:12 – Strategy 3: mentor a near peer
1:00:38 – Strategy 4: celebrate your success
1:02:57 – Creating a good workplace culture
1:04:06 – Belonging is good for business
1:06:25 – Want more on belonging?

Dr Em, thanks for joining us.

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://bit.ly/4jc0DFM
Dr Emily - We’re Longing for Belonging - https://bit.ly/4yElLJp
Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - http://bit.ly/4odhGY8
Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You - https://bit.ly/4yxgljs

🎧Things to listen to

The Curiosity Shop with Brene Brown and Adam Grant - https://bit.ly/4gT05mW

📖Things to read

Hidden Potential, by Adam Grant - https://bit.ly/4AemQcv
Hardwiring Happiness, by Rick Hanson - https://bit.ly/3T6IhM0

📺 Things to watch

Mad Men - https://bit.ly/4cLB6zx

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Andy Lee - DO NOT Listen To This Episode!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Sep 2026 19:00:00 -0000

When he was 15, Andy Lee’s mum forgot who he was.

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Given only two weeks to live, Andy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how this news impacted his family, impacted his childhood, and continues to impact his sense of self.

And then, we’re going all the way back to the early days of Radio Karate, and Hamish & Andy.

In a long overdue conversation (recorded, of course), Ryan and Andy chat about their own friendship dynamic and why they both felt like the odd one out.

Getting down to business, Andy and Ryan discuss how a bunch of 20 year old guys made tough financial decisions while trying to remain mates, how they learnt to give constructive criticism to each other, and with the blessing of hindsight, how they feel about that time now.

Andy, we’ve been waiting for this episode longer than a baker with his oven off.

0:00 – 2 years of secret vocal coaching
4:35 – HOW long for one cartoon episode?
5:48 – When Andy met Hamish (and Ryan)
9:39 – The impact of getting cancelled after 5 episodes
10:08 – The best advice Andy received
14:07 – Jealousy, Jealousy
20:25 – The Four Way Split of Hamish & Andy
23:42 – Should we be recording this?
25:10 – Social media has replaced the paparazzo
26:11 – Andy’s nude photo scandal
30:23 – Inspiration and renegotiation
36:55 – The Vulnerabilitea House
38:02 – When your mum is given two weeks to live
40:30 – Rapid deterioration and rush to hospital
43:28 – Taking on the parent role at 15
46:04 – Furious at the new normal
49:09 – Why “Don’t Worry, It’ll Be Fine” is the worst thing to say
54:36 – Andy’s Dad’s incredible sacrifice
58:20 – The Lee Gazette
1:00:50 – Why we should talk about will’s

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/4A230B5

📺 Things to watch

Institute of Sayings from Real Stories - https://bit.ly/4xBJHgq
Do Not Watch This Show! - https://bit.ly/4cAwlIZ
New Zealand Spy - https://bit.ly/4hdjPBI

🎧Things to listen to

Andy Lee on Falling Upwards with Kate Langbroek - https://bit.ly/4yucp30

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My Brilliant Career Took Years of Rejection

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Sep 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Have you ever watched the person you love most get everything you ever wanted? Did you harden around envy, or shrink with comparison? Were you able to find happiness for their success?

Philippa Northeast, Logie nominated and lead of Netflix’s My Brilliant Career, is a star quickly rising. Her most significant role? The little sister of our producer, Bridge.

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Joining us as a guest host, Producer Bridge, alongside Hugh, Josh and Ryan, discuss the years of failure and rejection behind the scenes of Pip’s overnight success.

Constantly aware of the need to prove herself a success, Philippa is completely vulnerable about the obsession that came from certain rejections, and her anxiety which manifested itself as trichotillomania.

Offering a unique and intimate perspective, both Bridge and Josh reflect on their respective siblings’ success, and how that has shaped their own identity.

It’s sibling vs sibling, and only one will make it out alive (kidding, it has a happy ending).

0:00 – Meet Producer Bridge’s Little Sister
5:43 – Pip’s Brilliant Career: From Home & Away to Netflix Star
11:39 – Middle Child Syndrome
19:28 – Sibling Comparison: Cricket and Drama Solos
20:55 – Finding Success Straight Out of High School
22:56 – Self-belief vs Self-doubt: Why Pip Took The Leap and Bridget Didn’t
25:30 – Feeling Over-shadowed, and Under Pressure
28:00 – Becoming an Unemployed Clown
29:17 – The Sensational Potter Backup Plan
34:01 – Getting Undressed (Again)
35:46 – The Hollywood Grind
37:32 – Lockdown, Isolation and Growing Doubt
46:15 – Obsession born from Rejection
51:49 – What Loneliness in the Acting Industry Feels Like
52:46 – The Body Keeps Score: Trichotillomania
54:47 – Healing: Journalling, Yoga, Grounding
57:04 – The Hallmark Offer That Changed Everything
1:03:39 – The Downside of Growing Up Next To A Rising Star
1:07:29 – Choosing Pride Over Jealousy
1:09:49 – The Upside of Losing to Claudia Karvan

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Claudia Karvan - Love, Her Way - https://bit.ly/3UNr9LC
What’s Your ATAR? - https://bit.ly/4zQ4AG5

📺 Things to watch

My Brilliant Career - https://bit.ly/4zPaW8L
Family Next Door - https://bit.ly/4gEp0cw
Newsreader - https://bit.ly/3UNr4ri
A Royal Runaway Romance - https://bit.ly/3V8rGb2
Standing Up For Sunny - https://bit.ly/4xyeASP

🎧 Things to listen to

Undressed by Sombr - https://bit.ly/4wY9Ipf

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I Tried No-Sleep-Parenting For 10 Months

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Aug 2026 19:00:00 -0000

What impact does sleep deprivation really have on your wellbeing? What about your parenting? What about your identity?

Matt D’Avella has amassed over 4 millions subscribers on YouTube undertaking 30-day wellness challenges, and promoting his minimalist lifestyle.

In life that was meticulously controlled, having kids changed everything.

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Blessed with a baby who woke every 30 minutes for the first ten months of their life, Matt chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about how becoming a new parent impacted every facet of his life.

Hugh and Josh share just how lonely they have felt at different times during their parenting journey, and Ryan saves the day by holding a baby for a full 40 minutes (save the applause! please!)

Matt this was a dream come true.

To watch the full episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/foilZTRGXco

00:00 - I Tried Being Vulnerable for 30 Days
7:03 - Minimalism Maxxing
18:00 - The Vulnerabilitea House
20:25 - Becoming a father, losing sleep (and himself)
24:14 - Depression Diagnosis Wake-Up Call
32:56 - Hugh's Sleep Score
40:38 - SOS: Hiring Help, Expanding your Village
48:50 - Sleep Training: What Actually Works
52:02 - The Real Cost of Sleep Deprivation
58:29 - Being A Mum: The Additional Burden
1:01:32 - 'Do You Regret Having Kids?'
1:04:00 - The New and Improved Matt D'Ad-Avella

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence - https://bit.ly/4zVt9Si

📺 Things to watch

Minimalism Documentary - https://bit.ly/3SSZb0t
Why I disappeared - Matt D’Avella - https://bit.ly/3SwYA4g
Matt D’Avella YouTube - https://bit.ly/4wOzFXW

💤 Things to sleep train

Tresillian Sleep Organisation - https://bit.ly/4zAGTS5
The Ferber Sleep method - https://bit.ly/4iCdqB4
Masada Sleep School - https://bit.ly/4qNi7uc

📚Things to read

Regretful Parents subreddit - https://bit.ly/4gx9W0b

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The childhood struggle that inspired the world’s greatest fish chef - for reel!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Aug 2026 19:00:00 -0000

How does having cancer as a child impact the way you live as an adult?

Uber successful chef and restauranteur Josh Niland doesn’t do things in halves (no, literally, have you read his book The Whole Fish?).

From opening a restaurant at 26, to becoming the first Australian to win the James Beard Book of the Year award when he was just 30, Josh’s creativity came from a place of desperation to explore every opportunity presented to him.

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Diagnosed with cancer 2 days after his 8th birthday, Josh’s childhood transformed in a matter of hours into hospital hallways, chemotherapy and facing his own mortality.

In this episode, Josh joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to talk us through an experience which profoundly changed him, which he is now grateful for.

Hugh, Ryan and Josh (our Josh), also ask about where his drive and ambitious creativity comes from, and just how close to failure Josh’s culinary career came.

We wish this chat could have gone on longer,

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🫖Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned on this episode

Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues - https://bit.ly/468HE7l

📺 Things to watch

Josh’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4giDtKR

📚Things to read

Saint Peter: Chapter & Verse, by Josh Niland - https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN
The Whole Fish, by Josh Niland - https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN

🍽️ Places to eat

Saint Peter - https://bit.ly/4qrs4gv

💻Things to check out

Starlight Children’s Foundation - https://bit.ly/4hHDkmM
Josh Niland’s Website - https://www.mrniland.com

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Dr Emily - Tough Love vs Shame

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Aug 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Is tough love to blame for our shame?

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We all know that parent or coach on the sideline who takes under 10’s basketball a liiitttllleee too seriously. And occasionally, tough love might seem to work in the moment, long term, the shame train isn’t going anywhere good.

Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to name the shame to tame it, and teach us how we can be shame strippers too (get your head out of the gutter. Shame on you).

We go into the difference between shame, humiliation, guilt and embarrassment, bow down to the queen Brene Brown, and introduce ourselves to our own Healthy Adult.

Shamelessly, this is one of our best episodes to date.

0:00 – Ever heard of a shame stripper?
6:27 – Bow down to Brene Brown
12:25 – The other self-conscious emotions (they’re shy)
20:51 – Humour and humiliation
29:21 – Shame is a full body experience
36:16 – Beware of who you share (with)
40:43 – Manosphere + behaviour change
46:59 – Tough love + kids sport
57:07 – Working with shame
1:06:10 – Bring on the compassion!
1:10:07 – Introducing the Healthy Adult

If you’d like to watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/4qgEqrO
Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - https://bit.ly/4hqWa1k
How do you know you’re in a thinking trap? - Maria Ruberto - https://bit.ly/4ze4eJh

🎧 Things to listen to

Between Two Beers with Steven Adams - https://bit.ly/4g3wipS

📚Things to read

Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown - https://bit.ly/45VT2Dx
The Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert - https://bit.ly/3UewPOq
Movember study of the Manosphere - https://bit.ly/4wZxtOs
Proneness to shame vs proneness to guilt research by Tangney et al. - https://bit.ly/4g4lQyl

📖Things to do

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer - https://bit.ly/4zg353K
Othership (breath work app) - https://bit.ly/4g7Q03E

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The Nature of Being Alone

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Aug 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Can nature help us to feel less alone?

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Psychologist on the incredible, Alone Australia series (remember our seminal episode with Gina Chick?), Mark Mathieson is in the Academy of Imperfection to help us understand how nature regulates our body, and how we can reconnect to it in this digital age.

Mark talks about how to uncover the person behind the persona, the science behind gardening, and why Hugh had the best sleep of his life in a tent, with no pillow.

According to Mark, human are immensely capable of change, and this episode provides a few things we can do to ensure nature is incorporated into our routines, without cramming the schedule more.

Mark, it was great to be alone . . . with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIMSSRJg2vQ

0:00 – Ice breaker: where have we gone wrong?6:58 – The segmentation of exercise11:46 – Evolution of Mark18:53 – Person behind the persona24:10 – Our virtual reality future27:22 – Let’s learn to adapt36:00 – Building relationships with nature42:28 – The science of gardening and sunshine48:53 – Eventually, reality TV gets us all53:08 – Big city blues

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4xj0kga
Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://bit.ly/4btNKCu
Sex for Normal People with Ita O’Brien - https://bit.ly/4btNNya
Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill - https://bit.ly/4yXxx2B
Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path - https://bit.ly/457l9PY

📚Things to read

Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter - https://bit.ly/4pV10Ga
The Dreaming Path, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon - https://bit.ly/4gctqrZ

📺 Things to watch

Alone Australia (new season out now) - https://bit.ly/4yWVW8n

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Briggs - What Racism Feels Like (feat. Nazeem Hussain)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Aug 2026 19:00:00 -0000

What is racism, really?

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Adam Briggs, rapper, writer, actor, senator and Yorta-Yorta man, joins Hugh, Josh and guest host Nazeem Hussain, to have an honest conversation about racism in Australia.

We explore the impact of The Voice Referendum vote, how culture and community impacts identity, and why Briggs has never, ever felt the need to people please (yep, that’s the sound of us frantically scribbling down notes).

Briggs also chats about the highs and lows of bipolar II.

0:00 – No boundaries Briggs
5:26 –Big Shep’ Washing Machine
12:25 – This is racism
21:27 – A hyper-vigilante
28:06 – Perfect storm for art
36:09 – Copping it Australia Wide
43:22 – The Yes Vote
53:08 – Australian Culture
57:02 – Never just about music
1:04:50 – Make Aboriginal Cool
1:09:19 – Bipolar, therapy, training

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://bit.ly/4fErGpQ
Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://bit.ly/45sPsR7
Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4gXyDEZ
Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557?i=1000589981824

🎧Things to listen to

Big Noter - https://www.thebignoter.com
The Children Came Back by Briggs & Gurrumul - https://bit.ly/4fGaxMH

📺Things to watch

Briggs’s Voice Referendum ad - https://bit.ly/4bkiTs2

📚Things to read

Our Home, Our Heartbeat by Adam Briggs - https://bit.ly/4yQKbjW

💻Things to check out

Rumbalara Football Netball Club - https://www.rfnc.com.au/
Bad Apples Music - https://bit.ly/4x8Rdi3

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Sex for Normal People with Ita O'Brien

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.

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In 2017, Ita O’Brien changed how Hollywood approached sex scenes when she pioneered intimacy co-ordination on the hit Netflix show, Sex Education, by introducing the framework, “Intimacy On Set Guidelines”. She went on to on productions for Netflix, BBC, HBO, Hulu, Amazon, including Sex Education and Normal People, founding her own company Intimacy on Set.

And now she’s here.

Ita chats with the guys about what sex scenes were like before Intimacy Co-ordination, and all the lies movies taught us about sex. She explains the mysterious orgasm gap, why consent is the foundation of all intimacy, and maybe most importantly of all… the male and female anatomy of arousal! That bit’s at the 16min mark if you’re really in a hurry. 😉

00:00 – Meet Ita O'Brien, the World's First Intimacy Coordinator
01:32 – Inside Her Work on Normal People, I May Destroy You & Sex Education
04:17 – What Intimacy Actually Means (It's Not Just Sex)
07:34 – The Untold Story of the First-Ever Intimacy Coordinator Job
09:35 – What Sex Scenes Were Like Before Consent Guidelines Existed
12:27 – Why On-Screen Intimacy Shapes How We See Ourselves
14:33 – The Hidden Lie Movies Taught Us About Sex
16:00 – The Male Anatomy of Arousal, Explained
18:33 – The Female Anatomy of Arousal, Explained
23:17 – Why Desire Fades in Long-Term Relationships
25:59 – The Power of Touch (and Why We're Losing It)
30:39 – How Screens Are Rewiring Kids' Ability to Connect
34:08 – The Truth About the Orgasm Gap
40:30 – Why Consent Is the Foundation of All Intimacy
43:10 – Filming the Iconic Birth Scene in We Live in Time
49:52 – How to Talk to Kids About Consent and Bodies
52:24 – "Consent Is Sexy": A Call to Writers and Filmmakers
54:33 – Sex, Menopause and Intimacy at Every Life Stage

📖Things to read

Intimacy: A Field Guide to Finding Connection and Feeling Your Deep Desires by Ita O’Brien - https://www.penguin.com.au/books/intimacy-9781529954043

📺 Things to watch

Sex Education (Netflix) - https://www.netflix.com/title/80197526
Normal People (BBC/Hulu) - https://www.hulu.com/series/normal-people
I May Destroy You (BBC/HBO) - https://www.hbo.com/i-may-destroy-you
Catastrophe - https://www.amazon.com/Catastrophe-Season-1/dp/B00YGB8UYK
We Live in Time (Film4/A24) - https://www.a24films.com/films/we-live-in-time

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Esther Perel — Let's Be Better Lovers - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1BantQso5Ef3xPn4PWNG2I

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Our Phone Odyssey Begins

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Could you live without your phone for a month?

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This week it's just the three of us. And like Odysseus before us, we embark on a life changing epic.

Where he fought the trojans, monsters, cannibals, sirens, the oceans, a cyclops and ACTUAL GODS!!

We will do something even ‘EPIC…ER’.

We’re tackling our phones.

Each of us take on a month-long challenge to fix our worst phone habits, inspired by the ‘god of no phones’ - Christopher Nolan and the release of THE ODYSSEY (if that wasn’t obvious already, but we promise this episode isn't an ad).

We then share some of our favourite bits from behind the pay wall, from our Patreon/Subscriber community. Ryan has an unplanned, very generous on-air hair donation; Josh shares a bit from a book which changed his life a bit; which leads to one of the most honest conversations he and Hugh have ever had on (or off) the show, about comparison, self-esteem, and growing up idolising your older brother.

This is one epic journey.

00:00 — The Phone Odyssey Begins
08:54 — Our Phone-Free Pledges
19:11 — Modelling Better Habits at Home
25:29 — Hairing is Caring
37:57 — A Bit From a Book That Changed Josh’s Life a Bit
48:18 — The Conversation Between Brothers That Needed to Be Had

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The thief of joy ****https://bit.ly/49S1S7C
Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey Print for Dads https://bit.ly/4w4ohI8
How (and why) Ryan Dumped his iPhone https://bit.ly/3T3xdyM
Sam Willoughby - The tragic injury that changed his life (and Ryan’s Finnastride admission) https://bit.ly/4fa5u8p

📖 Things to read

The midnight library - Matt Haigh https://bit.ly/4vGgnE0
How Proust can change your life - Alain de Botton https://bit.ly/4dYfCkd
In search of lost time - Marcel Proust https://bit.ly/4vt3lJG

📺Things to watch

The Odyssey https://bit.ly/4vY8nij
Christopher Nolan on 60minutes https://bit.ly/4yjfZgX

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Dr Emily - You, Me & Jealousy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0000

To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.

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Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.

According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.

Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.

In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

See you on the other side.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc

00:00 - The Day Has Arrived
02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish
7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It
10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market
15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous
22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous
43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later
47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust)
59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust

🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode

Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self Doubt - https://bit.ly/3QG8MXo

💻Things to check out

Uncertainty vs inevitable pain study - https://bit.ly/43NWFKQ

🎵Songs to listen to

Jealous Guy by John Lennon - https://bit.ly/43NWzCY

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Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey-print For Dads

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Want can you learn from playing with a child?

In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.

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In this episode we dig into the world of play - ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.

Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.

00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove
08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time
11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard
21:00 - It’s All Improvising
38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again
51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey
54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason
58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions
01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry
01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens

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🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

How (and why) Ryan dumped his iphone https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

📺 Things to watch

Bluey - Shadowlands https://bit.ly/4eTzKTA
Bluey - Calypso https://bit.ly/3QT6NyT
Bluey - Magic Xylophone https://bit.ly/4gdY057
Bluey - Born Yesterday https://bit.ly/3SvY5HA
Bluey - Bin Night https://bit.ly/4gd89Pt
Bluey - The decider https://bit.ly/4eHS1V4
Bluey - Faceytalk https://bit.ly/4wpWWju
Bluey - Pass the parcel https://bit.ly/4gi9PXU

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Janelle Booker & Hamish Blake - The ADHD Playbook for Parents

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Jun 2026 19:00:00 -0000

How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?

This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.

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Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.

And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.

We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.

Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.

0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK
Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4g567Rw
Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS

💻Things to check out

Janelle’s website - https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t
The MEHRIT Centre - https://self-reg.ca/
The ADHD Parent Circle Online Program - https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu
ADHD Women’s Support Group (Perinatal and Early Parenting) - https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N
Online Q&A with Janelle about ADHD parenting - https://bit.ly/4g5wneu

📖Things to read

ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3

🎧Things to listen to

Hamish & Andy podcast - https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ
Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction, by Huberman Lab - https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ

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Jimmy Wales (Wikipedia) - In Trust We Trust

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Jun 2026 19:00:00 -0000

How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?

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In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).

And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.

You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.

Trust is important, and so is this conversation.

0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI

📖 Things to read

The Seven Rules of Trust, by Jimmy Wales - https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

🎧Things to listen to

How to Build (And Rebuild) Trust with Frances Frei - https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl

🏆Competitions to enter

Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr

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Dr Emily - You're Full of Grit

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Jun 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Do you think you have grit?

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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.

Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.

Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!

We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.

Dr Em, so great to have you back.

0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive - https://bit.ly/4egeneO
Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend - https://bit.ly/4egfATo
Dr Emily - Hope - https://bit.ly/43YalTr
Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety - https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl
How I Built ‘Dis’ - The Resilience Project Story - https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP

📚Things to read

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth - https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o
Self-efficacy, by Albert Bandura - https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW
Master of Change, by Brad Stulberg - https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv
Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson - https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje

📺Things to watch

THE GAP, by Ira Glass - https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL

⭐️Things to donate to

JMB Foundation - https://jmbfoundation.org.au

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Ellyse Perry - It Starts With Trying

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Jun 2026 19:00:00 -0000

At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.

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Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.

Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.

And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.

Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y

0:00 – Is THAT AI?
5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course
11:24 – The feeling of not trying
17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport
29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed
40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup
46:48 – The complexity of ego
1:03:54 – Practicing presence
1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - (1:14:20) - https://bit.ly/3PRku11
WHO ARE YOU? with Dr Emily (+ secret code word) - (17:20) - https://bit.ly/4e1SxeV

📖 Things to read

Perspective by Ellyse Perry - (29:22) - https://bit.ly/3PSMaCI
Ellyse Perry’s children’s books - https://bit.ly/4e1TyDM
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman - (1:11:40) - https://bit.ly/437yxT9

📺Things to watch

Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot - (1:17:27) - https://bit.ly/3PSPKNa

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We're Doing a One-Off Live Show!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 02 Jun 2026 19:00:00 -0000

We have a BIG announcement.

August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?

ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!

And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!

🏆 Enter here NOW - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/

Tickets will go live Monday June 8.

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BUT to enter the competition OR buy tickets, you need a codeword (lowercase). And the only way you will hear the codeword is to be a Little More Imperfects subscriber and listen to the latest episode!

So quick, subscribe here!

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We can’t wait to see you there x

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Ryan Holiday - A Stoic Life & Death

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 31 May 2026 19:00:00 -0000

We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. At least, that’s what the Stoic’s say.

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Today we are joined (deep breath Hugh) by Stoic philosopher Ryan Holiday.

Using the wisdom of the past to appreciate the present, Ryan’s work is dedicated to communicating how the practicalities of stoic philosophy can help us lead more present, mindful and resilient lives today.

In this incredible chat, Hugh, Josh and Ryan (our Ryan), each present Ryan Holiday with something they have been struggling with in their own lives. Through the lens of Stoic philosophers Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Epictetus, Ryan Holiday talks to how stoicism can really help us to live into our values, prioritise presence, and deal with existential dread.

We discuss with Ryan the importance of understanding what will actually make you happy (spoiler: it’s not a billion dollars), and how to reframe death as a reminder that we must appreciate every moment (or not waste anymore with shame and guilt).

This episode, and its practical take-aways (which you can find listed in our newsletter), has been a long time coming.

Ryan, what an absolute honour.

0:00 – What is Stoicism?
13:26 – For the Josh’s of the world
17:07 – Time and Energy of Worrying
27:01 – The illusion of freedom
33:50 – Am I a bad friend?
38:58 – Practicing what you preach ft. presence
45:42 – If today was your last day
50:22 – 5 quotes for a Stoic life

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🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://bit.ly/4dHKR2F
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4dHKPYB

📖 Things to read

Letter’s from a Stoic by Seneca - https://bit.ly/49WVNqB
ALL of Ryan’s books - https://bit.ly/43uHsxZ

✍️Journals to journal

The Daily Stoic - https://bit.ly/49qJ6Em
My Imperfect Life - https://bit.ly/4tZ8qJ6

🎟️ Things to get tickets to

Daily Stoic Live with Ryan Holiday - https://bit.ly/4uK72Lt

💻Things to check out

Ryan’s website - https://bit.ly/4v3Vh24
The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3Q4LOc4

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Joel Pearson - I Think, Therefore AI

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 May 2026 19:00:00 -0000

In the age of AI, do you feel that your future is more uncertain?

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In today’s Academy of Imperfection, we’re joined by Dr Joel Pearson; a neurofuturist, whose work centres around predicting how AI will impact every aspect of our lives from now on.

While many of us (us included) first and foremost imagine the impacts of AI in a tech-revolution-y, robot butler-y, terminator-adjacent way, this episode goes deeper.

Joel discusses how young people are forming attachments with AI companions and how we might see, perhaps the first generation in known history with a lower IQ than the one beforehand.

We talk about the tangible and interconnected mental health impacts that this major societal disruption will have, and Hugh and Josh ask how in the world can we broach this topic with our kids?

BUT, this episode isn’t all doom and gloom. Joel is a tech-optimist, after all.

We talk to Joel about how we can foster human connection, and continue to develop our critical thinking skills, whilst not turning away from AI altogether.

Joel, this has been invaluable.

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0:00 – The episode we’ve been putting off
10:10 – The only certainty is disruption
14:15 – Impact of AI on the brain
21:23 – Rewards and moral responsibility
27:11 – A scary mental health spiral
30:31 – Think of the children
35:10 – You may now kiss the AI
45:06 – Purposeful Utopia
58:42 – Seeing is no longer believing
1:02:21 – The Roadmap to AI
1:11:35 – Finding Motivation in Limbo
1:18:15 – Let’s Stack Some Habits

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - (1:22:53) - https://bit.ly/4dW7Bfa
Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - (1:22:53) - https://bit.ly/3RTAjVl
James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - (1:22:00) - https://bit.ly/4wIg5xV

📖 Things to read

The Intuition Toolkit by Dr Joel Pearson - (3:18) - https://bit.ly/4v5NnFM
Matt Shumer App Development Industry Blog - (27:11) - https://bit.ly/4uo65rY

💻Things to check out

Joel’s website - https://bit.ly/4upBURa
Tristan Harris’ Center for Human Technology - (1:25:40) - https://bit.ly/4wGrFJZ
Figure Three Robotics - (42:51) - https://bit.ly/42J2Uiz
Joel's work at the University of NSW as Deputy Director of Human Readiness UNSW AI Institute - https://bit.ly/4nPA89G

📺 Things to watch

House of Dynamite - (26:21) - https://bit.ly/4uw5PYg

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Dr Emily - What To Do With Envy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 May 2026 19:00:00 -0000

What is your envy telling you?

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).

Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.

In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.

Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.

Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.

Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.

To watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc

0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego - https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP
Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self-Doubt - https://bit.ly/4fl7omR
Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe

💻Things to check out

Leon Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory - https://bit.ly/4npfIE5

📺Things to watch

‘Onesies’ Bluey episode - https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS

📖Things to read

The Way We Are, by Hugh Mackay - https://bit.ly/4wsJuff
Status Anxiety, by Alain de Botton - https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL

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Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 May 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?

For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.

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Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.

We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.

And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.

Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.

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0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute
6:44 – The night of the assault
19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism
33:09 – Family Dynamics
41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation
47:39 – The Waiting Game
59:15 – Reuben’s Letter
1:04:24 – A divine test
1:10:30 – Just help
1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend?

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - https://bit.ly/49voquJ

🎧Things to listen to

SportsGrad Podcast - https://bit.ly/42V75HT

💻Things to check out

SportsGrad - https://bit.ly/49p2hOD

🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start

1800 RESPECT
Centre Against Sexual Assault - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line)

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Jan Fran - Wars For Your Attention

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 May 2026 19:00:00 -0000

In a world so divided by hate, how can we choose to show love?

This week we are joined by journalist Jan Fran, who unpacks the horror of witnessing horror.

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Talking through her unravelling relationship with social media and the utter helplessness she feels watching atrocities cut into 30 second clips, Jan explores how becoming a mother cracked her open in ways she didn’t know possible.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer every question in the deck (kidding), Jan and Josh discuss the guilt of turning away, and the consequences of leaning in.

And finally, Jan bonds with the Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the fundamental importance of deliberately creating community.

Jan, you are remarkable.

0:00 – Introducing Josh’s housemate
8:42 – The art of being vulnerable
17:19 – I wish I could stop going on social media.
27:13 – Being cracked open
35:32 – Deliberately building community
46:39 – Anticipating the Comments
53:34 – Optimist by will

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube (and see Josh’s Frant banner), follow this link - https://youtu.be/BRoyNdZEZD0

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby … New Brain … Matrescence - (33:21) - https://bit.ly/48vQZb5
How (and Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone - (20:50) - https://bit.ly/4tGRXKj

💻Things to check out

The Frant - https://bit.ly/4cSeFaO
Ette Media - https://bit.ly/4t1OzIw

🎧 Things to listen to

We Used To Be Journos - https://bit.ly/4dcAGT9

📱Things to help you set social media boundaries

One sec - https://bit.ly/4cEYMpF
Brick - https://bit.ly/4vXSzfP

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Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence.

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Apr 2026 19:00:00 -0000

According to perinatal and reproductive psychiatrist Dr Edna Lekgabe, matrescence is the motherhood equivalent of adolescence. Puberty 2.0, if you will.

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Joining us in the academy of imperfection, Dr Edna explores the cataclysmic identity shift women undergo during motherhood, and how partners can best support them.

Exploring the impacts of mastrescence with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Edna breaks down the difference between matrescence, anxiety and depression, and why mental illness is the number one pregnancy complication.

We’re talking hormonal changes, physiological changes, sociological changes that are SO significant, you can see them in brain scans. Matrescence is messy, a developmental earthquake, and it’s not talked about nearly enough.

This episode might just break the internet (and your heart) wide open.

0:00 – Introducing Hugh’s perinatal psychiatrist
7:30 – Matrescence? Huh?
21:14 – The biology of baby brain
34:10 – The difference between matrescence and depression
40:46 – Reasonable worry vs anxiety disorder
47:40 – The emergence of neurodivergence
54:04 – Post-natal depression
1:00:04 – Matrescence after loss
1:05:50 – Getting to know a brand new person
1:11:19 – Can women have it all?
1:18:32 – On a societal scale
1:26:12 – The paternal earthquake

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🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode

Bron Lewis - Is It Me or Postnatal Anxiety? - https://bit.ly/4vHn1eh

📖 Things to read

Being Female: Reproduction, Power and Change, by Dana Raphael - https://bit.ly/48jC5EO
The Birth of a Mother, New York Times, by Alexandra Sacks - https://bit.ly/3OjB9tp
Men at Work: Australia’s Parenthood Trap, Quarterly Essay, by Annabel Crabb - https://bit.ly/4mLE8Hx

🎧Things to listen to

Perinatal OCD: When ‘the happiest time of your life’ turns dark - https://bit.ly/48lx8eK

📺 Things to watch

Alexandra Sacks TEDTalk on Matrescence - https://bit.ly/4tsBcCt

💻Things to check out

Yerkes-Dodson Law: Stress Level - https://bit.ly/4cOT2IO
peanut x Tommee Tippee campaign on matrescence - https://bit.ly/4mQDicU

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Shane Jacobson - Permission To Laugh

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Apr 2026 19:00:00 -0000

How do you make sure your kids are proud of who they are?

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Propelled to international stardom after the release of Kenny, Shane Jacobson’s overnight success was years in the making.

Joining us in the studio, Shane is incredibly generous in sharing the cataclysmic impact that humour and laughter has had on his life from a young age.

Now at the age where he has attended more funerals than 21st’s, Shane talks about his realisation that he is in for the long mourn, and why he allows himself to feel joy during times of intense grief. Sharing a giggle at a funeral? Absolutely.

In a beautiful moment of connection with Hugh, Shane chats about parenting the ‘premium package’ (his neurodivergent child).

Shane, this was incredibly joyful.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/VHaK2fSiasA

0:00 – A bird in her where?
3:19 – Butt of the joke
12:34 – The evolution of good manners
17:47 – Seeking validation
27:17 – Giggle at a funeral
42:00 – Autism, ADHD, Tourette’s: The Premium Package!
55:58 – Becoming softer
1:00:25 – Parenting your parents
1:08:03 – Don’t wait for the moment
1:18:04 – 5 things we can do to be warmer

🫖 Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://bit.ly/4etnytQ

📺Things to watch

Kenny - https://bit.ly/427rUzv
Shane’s AFI win (go to 6:12) - https://bit.ly/48HyzEb

📋Check-in

Questions to ask someone if they might be depressed - https://bit.ly/4dOYuNS

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Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Apr 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?

Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.

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In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.

Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.

And, if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode’s for you;

is working from home causing social atrophy?
what does it mean to be an embodied creature?
what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?

Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ

🫖Other episodes of the Imperfects mentioned on this episode

Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://bit.ly/41m8R4f
Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship - https://bit.ly/3PPugAp

💻Things to check out

Where Should We Begin? At Work card game - https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ

🎧Things to listen to

Where Should We Begin - Esther’s podcast - https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK
My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could - Where Should We Begin - https://bit.ly/4twUbeC
Esther Perel on Why A.I. Intimacy Feels Safe but Isn’t Real - https://bit.ly/4sofVsf

📖 Things to read

Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel - https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx
The State of Affairs, by Esther Perel - https://bit.ly/48yFn74

📺 Things to watch

Rethinking Infidelity TEDTalk - https://bit.ly/4seN3md
Love Story - https://bit.ly/4ct63se

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0:00 – Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same?
6:23 – This is my partner, AI
14:08 – A mismatch of affection
23:56 – Bids for connection
32:08 – Can you repair trust?
41:02 – Post-traumatic Growth
49:43 – The central hub of our needs
58:38 – The Mental Load Pt. 2

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Dr Emily - Overcome With Overwhelm?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Apr 2026 19:00:00 -0000

Looking for strategies to help deal with the overwhelm of, well, everything? Same.

Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk through overwhelm; how to greet it, how to get through it, and how to build your resilience towards it.

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In this episode, Dr Emily introduces how to understand your ‘window of tolerance,’ the cost of being overwhelmed for too long, and what happens when we slip into avoidance.

OF COURSE, this episode is delightfully sprinkled with practical strategies that you can do right now, in this moment, to ease the burden of the overwhelm.

Dr Em, this episode was an emotional regulation for the ages.

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - How to Stress Less - https://bit.ly/4tiZa2y
Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves Of Loss - https://bit.ly/4s29wCI

📖 Things to read

Burnout, by Emily and Amelia Nagoski - https://bit.ly/4c18Yah

💪 Things to do

The Hulk Progressive Relaxation Technique - https://bit.ly/3PFv4Yq

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Hamish Macdonald - After The Facts

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 29 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Is it true that we live in a world without facts?

With AI becoming increasingly intertwined with our lives, and fake news infiltrating our screens, where do you go for truthful information and how do you know what to trust?

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This Academy of Imperfection is not all doom and world collapse, we promise. One, because we are joined by the brilliant Hamish Macdonald. And two, because Ryan’s Gut says it’s all going to be okay (more on that later).

In this episode, Hamish shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh (and you, of course), how algorithms are impacting the way we think, whether we should be teaching media literacy in schools, and the consequences of AI generated content.

Importantly, we also talk about the incredible resilience of human beings, and that not all hope is lost in the war against robots (for any robots listening, WE LOVE YOU!)

For anyone else out there feeling overwhelmed, we’re right there with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/6Zepg3o3Y_w

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Hamish Macdonald - How To Be You - https://bit.ly/3PtetHg
Dr Emily - Hope - https://bit.ly/4uR5pfg
Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - https://bit.ly/4dHwHPa

📺 Things to watch

The Matter of Facts - https://bit.ly/4bQ27jT
I tried to prove I’m not AI by Howtown - https://bit.ly/47ogudU

📖 Things to read

Nexus by Yuval Noah Harari - https://bit.ly/47kHUkO

🎧 Things to listen to

Global Roaming Podcast - https://bit.ly/3NMm8jf

💻 Things to check out

Maryanne Wolf’s Research on reading - https://bit.ly/4t8Qqff
Tristan Harris’ Work on AI - https://bit.ly/4bwwBZj
Notebook LM Podcast feature - https://bit.ly/40UM7Ip

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Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Is climate anxiety affecting your decision to have kids?

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Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House is Bri Lee; prolific author, advocate and change maker.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?”, Bri talks about the research that lead her to the South Pole, and how she learnt to prioritise love above all else.

Bri asks the question to Hugh, Josh and Ryan, “what does it mean to live a good life, and what do we owe each other?”

This chat explores the philosophies of anti and pronatalism, whilst being grounded in examples from the guys’ and Bri’s life. An intentional and judgement free zone, this conversation delves into the morality of should’s and shouldn’ts, and what it means to do the right thing.

As Bri says, hope is something that you earn through action, and we are all feeling a bit more hopeful after this episode.

0:00 – A Bri-Lee-iant guest
9:42 – The Seed of The Idea
15:08 – What are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?
27:10 – Prioritising love
32:27 – Should I have kids?
41:43 – The morality of shoulds and shouldn’ts
52:43 – Some positivity, please
55:59 – Policy and bodily autonomy
59:22 – So, how’s the reckoning going?
1:03:46 – The weight of responsibility
1:08:43 – Finding action in the overwhelm

📺 to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/vUQMkMvyeMY

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

Ryan Shelton - To breed, or not to breed - https://bit.ly/3PbhEmR
Ann Davidman - Should I have kids? - https://bit.ly/4brc477

📖 Things to read

Seed, by Bri Lee - https://bit.ly/3PhepKv
Eggshell Skull, by Bri Lee - https://bit.ly/473kvV4
Who Gets To Be Smart, by Bri Lee - https://bit.ly/4bwOAh1
The Work, by Bri Lee - https://bit.ly/4rzflar
Beauty, by Bri Lee - https://bit.ly/3NMnrPf
Love 2.0, by Barbara Fredrickson - https://bit.ly/40ylOYp
Better To Not Have Been, by David Benatar - https://bit.ly/3NmtHx5
IPCC Sixth Assessment Report - https://bit.ly/3Phc7Lt
Ipsos Perils of Perception Climate Change - https://bit.ly/4cP32mT

📺Things to watch

An Inconvenient Truth - https://bit.ly/4bPolUk

💻Things to check out

Freadom Inside Project - https://bit.ly/4bhVxnm
Peter Singer Pond Proximity thought experiment - https://youtu.be/Gu-WUHD6mKg

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Ben Crowe - Play School

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0000

When Ben Crowe, world-renowned professional mentor and leadership coach, tells us his favourite mantra, we listen.

“I am enough no matter what, but I’m not done yet”.

📺 If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/-0WWUuxvcyQ

Back in The Academy of Imperfection FOR THE THIRD TIME, Ben is here to talk to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about purpose, play and love.

As Ben explains, ‘play’ and ‘love’ mean something different to everyone, however, they are both ridiculously important and explicitly linked. If love is the intention, then play is the action.

Ben, as always, it was an absolute pleasure to your wisdom bestowed upon us.

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0:00 – Is Ben the Pope?
11:13 – Acceptance vs compassion, confidence vs belief
15:14 – Reshaping your belief system
25:05 – Just Admit It List
30:42 – The dreaded E word
37:47 – Reward effort, not outcome
46:00 – Play deprivation
51:47 – Talking to teenagers about their career
1:01:47 – How to be a (anxious) leader
1:07:04 – Josh’s too generous assumption
1:10: 14 – Doing it for the right reasons

🎧Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/40rkUgd
Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/46VlfeK
Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/413kVXL
Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection - https://bit.ly/4ruVAkz
Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant - https://bit.ly/4by6NMl
Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - https://bit.ly/4bAomLD

📖 Things to read

Where The Light Gets In, by Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/4s04xmN
The Courage To Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/411Qbq4

🎧 Things to listen to

How Ben Crowe Dads - https://bit.ly/4bidPDH

😃If you liked this episode, check out these!

Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets? - https://bit.ly/40lcG9p
Emma Murray - How Mindfulness Actually Works - https://bit.ly/4lpS5dR

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Matt Preston - Only 14 Summers Left

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0000

According to Matt Preston, he only has 14 more summers. And he’s determined to make the most of them.

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Known predominantly for his role on the inaugural (and incredibly successful) seasons of MasterChef Australia, alongside his excellent choice of cravats, Matt Preston is a recognisable face in most Australian households.

Joining Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the studio (in yet another incredible outfit), Matt delicately talks through the importance of having a conversation with your parents about end-of-life care.

In a decision that requires both deep emotion and administrative focus, Matt draws from his experience with his grandmother, and then his mother, about how to ensure the people you love are nurtured, cared for, and celebrated in the way they would have wanted.

Matt, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – The typo to end all typos
9:13 – Every family has a scandal
24:34 – The unknowables of epilepsy
30:45 – Grieving what could have been
40:44 – Mission of mortality: make it count
44:47 – Parenting not like your parents
53:40 – Conversations about end-of-life care
1:07:35 – The secret ingredient to marriage
1:13:46 – Logistics of death and dying

If you want to watch the full episode (and see Matt’s outfit), follow this link - https://youtu.be/sEN8Mfapi6Y

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection - https://bit.ly/476XBfg
Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant - https://bit.ly/4aM7bqd
Christie Whelan Browne - Unbreakable - https://bit.ly/4ukPhTk

📺Things to watch

The Hospital - In The Deep End - https://bit.ly/4rYN6mw
Croquenbouche Masterchef Episode - https://bit.ly/3OILYVG

📖Things to read

Big Mouth, by Matt Preston - https://bit.ly/4cUigXG

🩵SUDEP Support Services

SUDEP Action - https://sudep.org
Epilepsy Foundation - https://bit.ly/4r9W27I

*The average life expectancy for Australian males is calculated at birth, and does not take into account their personal circumstances.

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Dr Emily - Acceptance, That's Radical

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

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0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG

📖 Things to read

Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4o8JFay
The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris - https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq
The Guest House, by Rumi - https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS

💻Things to check out

Tara Brach - RAIN meditation - https://bit.ly/3MNou0M
Alfred Adler - Three Sided Column - https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ
Jill Bolte Taylor - 90 second shelf life of emotions - https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL

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Maggie Dent - ‘Good Enough’ Parenting is Good Enough

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Feb 2026 18:00:00 -0000

You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.

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In our Academy of Imperfection, Maggie schools parents Hugh and Josh, and trusted non-parental figure Ryan, about the ‘no matter what’ rule, the importance of micro connections and the beauty of a well-timed fart.

An advocate for imperfect parenting (which is REALLY great for brand alignment), Maggie insists on the significance of unconditional love when raising boys.

Maggie you are wonderful. This was wonderful. You’re the best.

Watch the full episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/iUHYScQ3WgQ

0:00 – Why boys are better than girls
6:22 – The science of boys
14:02 – Shedding the shame
22:28 – Growing healthy boys
31:09 – Connecting with your rooster
42:56 – The S words: screens and social media
47:00 – The good enough factors
57:45 – Correcting the narrative
1:06:05 – Importance of Lightness + Letting go of mistakes
1:11:41 – Raising an autistic boy
1:16:05 – How do you resist the easy method

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4aofEjd

📖 Things to read

You can find all of Maggie’s books here - https://bit.ly/46g4GK7
Help Me Help My Teen by Maggie Dent (page 106 to converse with teens) - https://bit.ly/4aYi2NO
Maggie’s Fragile Boy Friendship Blog Post - https://bit.ly/4qUqzGw

📺 Things to watch

Bluey ‘Octopus’ episode - https://bit.ly/4riF2Ng
Marc-Andre Leclerc - The Alpinist - https://bit.ly/4tEsaCR

💻 Things to check out

Allan Schore’s Brain Development for Boys research - https://bit.ly/3OfRyi9

🎧 Things to listen to

The Good Enough Dad with Maggie Dent - https://bit.ly/4aGq2la
Parental As Anything - https://bit.ly/4qHAleM

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Bron Lewis - Is It Me or Postnatal Anxiety?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Feb 2026 18:00:00 -0000

What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?

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Motherhood is really hard. And Bron Lewis isn’t afraid to talk about it (anymore).

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bron answers the question ‘when was a time you genuinely needed help and were you able to ask for it?’, and recounts the worst week of her life.

Deals with the devil, post-natal anxiety, and post-natal depression, Bron is incredibly vulnerable with Hugh and Ryan, sharing how the love from friends, professional help, and medication allowed her to return to herself.

Bron, it was a delight.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/qc9ZNO6VpeY

0:00 – We’re all best friends / fathers / daughters
8:51 – When was a time you genuinely needed help?
18:44 – Long nights, relentless days
25:42 – Socially accepted punishment
33:36 – Using pain to drown out the noise
40:50 – Obviously, I can do it all
45:44 – It doesn’t have to be this hard
54:55 – On day 3, he didn’t wake up
1:07:27 – The worst week of her life
1:22:54 – This should feel good, shouldn’t it?
1:33:01 – The aftermath

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, these are a few great resources

PANDA - 1300 726 306
ForWhen - 1300 24 23 22
Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636

📖 Things to read

I’m Not Mad (Anymore) by Bron Lewis - https://bit.ly/3ObBgGQ

🎟️ Things to go see

Bron’s Comedy Show, Chaos - https://bit.ly/4aabRWz

🎧Things to listen to

Chains by Tina Arena - https://bit.ly/4arb1DI
Work Hates podcast - https://bit.ly/4arbdCW
Your Two Drunk Aunties podcast - https://bit.ly/4cnJndj
Good Sheilas podcast - https://bit.ly/4rkGxun

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Dr Lucy Hone - A Life Worth Grieving

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Feb 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

To full this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Zyb7kELxFxI

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3ZPVNmO
Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3Oku8b4
Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals - https://bit.ly/4rAK3AF

📖 Things to read

How Will I Ever Get Through This by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4bAWO9w
Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4kpkf8g
Oscillation Grief Theory - https://bit.ly/4qZ5WK1
Michael F. Steger - Meaning and Purpose Work - https://michaelfsteger.com
J. William Worden - Four Tasks of Mourning - https://bit.ly/3NTGPcU

💻Things to check out

Dr Lucy’s website - https://www.drlucyhone.com
3 Secrets of Resilient People TedTalk - https://bit.ly/3Zguj9S
Dr Lucy’s ‘Look Forward To’ Calendar
VIA Strengths test - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ
Coping With Loss community on Facebook - https://bit.ly/3NTnDvT
Welcome to Holland poem - https://bit.ly/4kgB0lH
Will Arnett + Conan O’Brien on Grief - https://bit.ly/4a06320

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Claudia Karvan - Love, Her Way

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Feb 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.

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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.

Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.

With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.

Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.

This is one for the highlight reel.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click on this link - https://youtu.be/4qH4vBr0i6Y

0:00 – Hugh ‘questionable-decisions’ van Cuylenburg
12:24 – The role of a lifetime
17:55 – An unconventional childhood
28:50 – It’s not up to you to fix everything
39:55 – The opening of another world
45:47 – Doing it all (with support)
51:12 – Love and family HER way
59:33 – Play the long game
1:07:15 – Managing mental ill-health
1:24:39 – The benefit of helping others
1:26:48 – How to love in a healthy way

🥸 Which Imperfects Host Are You Quiz? - https://tally.so/r/Xx4PEO

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole … and Found Myself - https://bit.ly/3ZpPNkN
Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/3M8SC6y

📺 Things to watch

Love My Way - https://bit.ly/4qFCjNA
The Secret Life of Us - https://bit.ly/3Z1Thtt
The Queen of Versailles - https://bit.ly/3Z5FemE
Australian Story - The Secret Life of Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/3ZE8p0g
Who Do You Think You Are? with Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/4bIw3QL
Bump - https://bit.ly/49O16Jv

📖 Things to read

The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche - https://bit.ly/4k8qdtR

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Soul Searching Summer - Ryan’s TV Show

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Jan 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Ryan’s got news.

Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.

Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.

With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.

Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Ilg-r9gHGPk

🩵Sign up for A Little More Imperfects here

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/457hYZA
Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/454PJL6
Isaac Humphries - Coming Out on Court - https://bit.ly/4jQtxtD

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Spooky Summer - Hugh’s Haunted House

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 Jan 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.

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It’s the second episode of our super sexy summer series (the alliteration is wild in this episode), and we’re revisiting the time that Hugh got haunted.

Blending together a few episodes of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber platform that you can sign up for below, we’ll introduce you to Geraint the shamanic healer, what happened during Hugh’s ghost busting appointment, and whether Hugh has had any paranormal activity since.

And finally, whether this whole ordeal has convinced Josh that ghosts are real.

Long live summer!

0:00 – A phoenus? Draw it
4:17 – Team Josh v Team Ryan
10:28 – Meeting the shamanic healer
16:25 – The not-so-light-hearted update
30:01 – Cursed artwork: to burn or not to burn
35:46 – Has the ghost been busted?

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u4XNRTLXtrQ

🩵Sign up for A Little More Imperfects here

Patreon - patreon.com/theimperfects
Apple Podcasts - https://bit.ly/4aSIeKd

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/49TSktd
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/49jJJ2S

👻Ghost busters

Garant

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Psychology Summer - Your Inner Fan with Dr Emily

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Jan 2026 18:00:00 -0000

Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.

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Welcoming you into the world of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber-based platform available on Patreon and Apple Podcasts, our resident psychologist Dr Emily reaches into the reflection pond, to discuss and decode a reflection from one of our community members.

Responding to this reflection, Dr Emily chats to Ryan, Josh, and special guest Producer Bridge, about how life changing it can be to receive an ADHD diagnosis, as well as the not so joyful emotions, such as grief and anger, which can accompany this.

Josh talks about his own inner critic, which leads into a broader discussion about self-compassion, top down vs bottom up therapy, and the therapeutic benefits to showing up for your younger self as the adult you are today.

Don’t say we don’t spoil you.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzBxIFUOJL0

🩷To join our A Little More Imperfects Community

Patreon - https://bit.ly/3KQvB7R
Apple Podcasts - https://bit.ly/499aZRs

🩵Where to send in your reflections

https://bit.ly/4rYjfuS

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/4rXQIG0
Hugh’s ADHD … brief - https://bit.ly/3MJBzb4
Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/3KHwJdX
Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan - https://bit.ly/49bVxnB
James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/3MzZKZz
What’s Your ATAR? - https://bit.ly/4pwNZBG

📺Things to watch

The Rehearsal - https://bit.ly/48V6IA0
Good Will Hunting - https://bit.ly/4iW7hhn
Rick Hanson - Velcro for the Bad, Teflon for the Good - https://bit.ly/4rVpe3R

💻 Things to do

Rick Hanson - Positive Neuroplasticity Training - https://bit.ly/48COcgN

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The Little Drummer Girl - A Christmas Scandal

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Dec 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Little heads up, this episode contains some language that is exclusively found on the naughty list, and therefore, isn’t suitable for kids.

Now, it’s time to spill some Vulnerabili-TEA.

It’s our annual holiday episode, and this year, with many thanks to comedian Becky Lucas, we welcome into the studio Little Drummer Girl. Who has some, um, grievances to air.

Little Drummer Girl is taking us back in the space-time-continuum to re-write history, and let us in on the scandal which surrounds the infamous lyrics ‘pa rum pum pum pum’.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Becky’s chosen charity of HeartKids, who do an incredible job providing lifelong support, resources, and advocacy to the 250,000 people impacted by childhood-onset heart disease.

0:00 – Introducing the Little Drummer Girl
5:50 – The ultimate gift guide
9:51 – An original song, an original crime
15:22 – Sharing enriching information from 20 AD
25:28 – Know what you’re good at
30:20 - Hello Becky, Hello HeartKids

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (you really do), follow this link - https://youtu.be/oXBEij8q5Tc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/4pDw6B8
Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4559jpJ
Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus - https://bit.ly/4iVxGMi
Becky Lucas - The power of laughter - https://bit.ly/3KN76Zg

💻Things to do

Check out Becky Lucas on instagram - https://bit.ly/3N1ELil
Check out the incredible HeartKids organisation - https://www.heartkids.org.au

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Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Dec 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Dave Hughes has a complicated relationship with his ego.

Performing in prestigious venues around the world, Dave Hughes has solidified himself as one of Australia’s comedy icons, but the journey was (and still is) far from easy.

Joining us in the studio today, Dave vulnerably shares how the burden of feeling unworthy affected his ability to give and receive love.

Dave chats to Ryan about how much he has struggled with comparison, both with others, and the success of his past self, and the role that ego plays in never being able to turn down an opportunity.

Hughesy, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – Ryan got papped, Hugh got crumpets
7:19 – The failures that lead to success
17:12 – A feeling of general greatness
21:06 – Reckoning with comparison
30:18 – The joy is in the giving
36:03 – Walking the family / work tightrope
41:07 – Humour as a way in
47:56 – You had me at IMAX helmet
56:00 – Ego doesn’t let you enjoy the moment
1:08:10 – Five strategies to let go of ego

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/ogE4j-UQIGY

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Kate Langbroek - Love Story - https://bit.ly/44OH66q
Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3MqGNZj
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://bit.ly/3MtSgqX
Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression - https://bit.ly/44TRhXp

🎄Other Xmas Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/48P0X6V
Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/44g5M7J
Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus - https://bit.ly/3KHqx5F

📖 Things to read

A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle - https://bit.ly/4rPfS9B

💻Things to look up

Oprah’s series with Eckhart Tolle - https://bit.ly/48vfOo6

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Mary Fowler - Forgiving Yourself-Harm

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Dec 2025 18:00:00 -0000

We’re nervous. We’re excited. We’re nervous and excited. Because it’s Mary freaking Fowler day.

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Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, all the way from Manchester, Mary answers the question ‘what do you worry about the most?’

With wisdom far beyond her 22 years, Mary explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the impossible task of being the ‘perfect’ role model, especially when you are still growing up yourself.

And then, in a conversation that will help many, and maybe even save the life of a few, Mary graciously shares her experiences with self-harm, and why she thinks it is so important to have the heavy conversations, even with the risk of saying the wrong thing.

Mary talks about her journey with pressure and forgiveness that lead her to rediscover ‘Little Mary’, her wall of things that make her feel loved, and how she has been able to reframe her darkest times to find more empathy for others.

Mary, it was an absolute dream come true to speak with you.

0:00 – The 2023 Fairy tale
6:52 – What do you worry about most?
23:00 – Giving and taking power
34:01 – Appreciating the little things
41:01 – Saying the hard thing
56:22 – Beauty after pain
1:04:29 – Am I supposed to be here?
1:09:16 – Looking after Little Mary

if you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/O_9Wf0WSfMM

📖Things to read;

Bloom, by Mary Fowler - https://bit.ly/443cWw3

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide or self-harm, Lifeline on 13 11 14 is a great place to start. In an emergency, please call 000.

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Dr Emily - You Had Me At Communication

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Is your communication style a red flag?

It’s our favourite time of the month and Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk the talk (and walk the walk) about healthy communication.

The impact of our learning history (colloquially known as “baggage”) gets a heavy feature in this episode, as Ryan, Josh and Bridge unpack their communication styles, and how this has impacted their intimate relationships.

Dr Emily talks us through why the real challenge of communicating is not our use of language, but rather regulation of emotion, and gifts us a plethora of acronyms to practice at home the skills of effective communication.

Dr Em, always a pleasure.

Chapters:
0:00 – Communication, conflict, and Hannah Ferguson
10:19 – How do you (mostly?) communicate?
14:57 – The impact of our learning history
22:10 – Interpersonal Effectiveness
27:41 – Practicing getting it wrong to get it right
31:59 – Do opposites attract?
34:44 – Respond rather than react
47:51 – We all love an acronym
1:01:45 – Dealing with unreasonable people
1:15:49 – Breaking patterns

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/4ilr2i2
Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://bit.ly/481Xfri

💻Things to do:

Complete the official Thomas-Kilmann Instrument communication styles quiz - https://bit.ly/4rowC7m
Complete the free Thomas-Kilmann Instrument inspired communication styles quiz - https://bit.ly/4iygpbR

📺 Things to watch:

The Rehearsal - https://bit.ly/4ong1hL

📖 Things to read:

Terry Real’s catalogue - https://bit.ly/4p25w4m
DBT Training Skills Manual, by Marsha M. Linehan - https://bit.ly/4ioNXcs
BIFF, by Bill Eddy - https://bit.ly/4ojowdG

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Jamila Rizvi - Awoken by a Broken Brain

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Jamila Rizvi has not been the perfect sick person.

When Jamila was last in our studio, she was deep in the grief stage.

Jamila’s life had been irrevocably changed by the imposition of a brain tumour, and the myriad of health complications due to surgery. To put it simply, Jamila didn’t know who Jamila was anymore, and that terrified her.

This week, in the Vulnerabilitea House, Jamila answers the questions “what aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?”

The drip-fed loss of cognitive functions and a new hormone condition which made her constantly starving, Jamila felt like her body and mind were no longer her own. Speaking to Hugh, Josh, and Ryan really honestly, Jamila opens up about her eating disorder during this time; how it impacted her sense of self, her relationships, and ability to connect.

Jamila, it was a joy to have you back. We’re so proud of you.

Chapters:
0:00 – Where are they now?
7:31 – What aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?
20:06 – Phases of identity
25:24 – Impact of a brain tumour on a relationship
29:52 – Constantly starving, craving thinness
36:51 – Intense, urgent desperation
48:38 – Train your brain to love your body
54:12 – Would you take it back?
59:39 – Adrenal Crisis and Crisis of Self

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/A_lE3nSA2Mc

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumour - https://bit.ly/3M8QR8V
Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - https://bit.ly/47ZGJqs
Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image - https://bit.ly/4pkmFGp

📖Things to read:

Broken Brains by Jamila Rizvi and Rosie Waterland - https://bit.ly/48l6JxP

💻Things to look up:

The “If And Then” model of happiness - https://bit.ly/4pi0UH6

📱Games to download:

2048 - https://bit.ly/43BHpkx

🦋 If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place check out - https://butterfly.org.au

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Troy Kinne - It’s What’s Inside That’s Backwards

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Troy Kinne’s heart is in the right place. As in, it’s on the wrong side.

In fact, many of Troy’s organs are in the ‘wrong’ place. Which can be hard on the immune system, but great material for a stand-up comedian.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, and answering the question, ‘when is a time you’ve felt ashamed?’ Troy takes us on a journey, from being offered a (life)line by a fish and chip shop in his 20’s, to the effect that being sick for an entire year had on his mental health.

Troy chats to Josh about the light he found in his darkest times, and how living without fear allowed him to venture into the comedy world for the first time.

Speaking about success, and whether it will ever be enough, Troy is really open about what it is like to have to find yourself again after realising that you are no longer the underdog, and how hard it can be to offer your current self compassion.

Troy, what a pleasure.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/ZZm6VAq7g_o

Chapters:
0:00 – An episode years in the making
7:40 – When is a time that you’ve felt ashamed?
16:21 – Reality of chronic illness
24:50 – Reality of chronic illness during a pandemic
29:53 – The positive payoff of depression
38:37 – Constantly on the rollercoaster
48:43 – When you’re no longer the Underdog
55:57 – At what point will it be enough?

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship - https://bit.ly/446GPeG

📺 Things to watch

The Magic Basket - https://bit.ly/4p0R6RF
Dr Google - https://bit.ly/4otHfnE
Flint Town Docuseries - https://bit.ly/49TJjAK
Fearless - https://bit.ly/444z3Su

📖 Things to read

A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle - https://bit.ly/4oYUrke

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Dr Emily - Am I Sick or Is It Anxiety?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Do you ever feel anxious about your health?

Same. And it is the fundamental uncertainty of our health which can make this anxiety really exhausting, complicated and, well, hard, to live with.

Back in the studio with our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re going to unpack this perpetual state of worry; how it’s exacerbated by our fight or flight response, how to respond when someone’s seeking assurance and how to surf the urge and sit with your discomfort.

Josh, being Josh, asks some hard hitting questions about accepting the certainty of death, and Dr Em talks through what it looks like to be so fearful of dying that it’s stopping you from living.

Of course, we don’t ever want people to stop getting checked out by a medical professional. This episode is focused on untangling what is worry, what is excessive worry, and when is it reasonable.

Dr Em, it was so great to hang out.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link -

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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Bryan Brown - The Value of Being Alive - https://bit.ly/4hTxwok
Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3LnCmxP
Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - https://bit.ly/47XXcfU
Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes … To Forgive - https://bit.ly/4nIym8F

🎧 Things to listen to:

It’s Not What You Think podcast - https://bit.ly/3LnFg5K

📖 Things to read:

The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3JJJnZk

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters:
0:00 – Our fears for our health
9:54 – Are you a hypochondriac?
15:59 – Exacerbation of the fight / flight response
23:08 – The difficult positions of GP’s
29:48 – Not feeding the loop
35:19 – Body checking and post-diagnosis anxiety
39:50 – Accepting the certainty of death
50:55 – First time parent fear
53:24 – Obsession with being well

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Bryan Brown - The Value of Being Alive

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Not to be dramatic, but Bryan Brown is an Australian icon of the silver screen.

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Cast in over 80 film and tv projects throughout his career, working with people such as Jennifer Aniston, Ben Stiller and Sigourney Weaver (possibly biggest name drop we’ve ever had), Bryan was all set for a life of numbers and mathematics before he allowed himself to be guided by joy.

Joining Josh and Ryan in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bryan answers the question, ‘what has been the scariest moment of your life?’

Covering all elements (literally), Bryan recounts a near drowning, and a close call with flames, before he was grounded by his first experience with anxiety.

Chatting to Josh and Ryan about what it felt like to have his perception of mental health changed, Bryan talks about becoming comfortable with vulnerability, what it means to be a man, and how he was able to ask for help.

Bryan, it was an absolute pleasure.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here -

📖 Things to read:

Hidden, by Bryan Brown - http://bit.ly/48Qzfbw

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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – Australian Icon Alert
9:23 – How do you live as a man?
12:54 – What has been the scariest moment in your life?
22:16 – This could all end
25:23 – When anxiety becomes physical
35:54 – The Human Experience
41:08 – Embracing the No’s
45:56 – Finding his voice through story
49:46 – Friends, girls + growing up

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Hugo Toovey - The Reality of Surviving Cancer. Twice.

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Oct 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Hugo Toovey has beaten cancer, twice. But this is far from the whole story.

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In this special bonus episode, Hugo joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk about health; how to know when to go to a doctor, how to wrangle with the emotions of being cancer free and how to be vulnerable with the people who love you most.

Extraordinarily open in the hope that it will help someone else, Hugo discusses his fertility and decision to have kids, how being a parent has effected his outlook on life, and how exhausting it was acting like everything was okay.

Hugo, you’re a lifesaver.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/00RG9jPCGXs

🩺Things to do (for your health):

Order a Bowel Cancer Screening Kit - http://bit.ly/47A6cYt
Check out Hugo’s charity 25 Stay Alive - https://www.25stayalive.com

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – The other side of cancer free
12:36 – An invincible young bloke
15:54 – Knowing your ‘normal’
24:40 – Doom, burden, guilt, escape
36:17 – The vulnerability ice-breaker
44:05 – The biggest killer
49:33 – 25’s the new 50
52:25 - Being responsible, just in case
1:01:10 – And what does she mean to you?

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Melanie Bracewell - Untangling a Toxic Relationship

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Oct 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps?

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Melanie Bracewell has, and she joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question, ‘who do you go to advice for? Why?’ (spoiler: it’s not her puppeteer ex-boyfriend).

Unpacking the disarming realisation that all of our parents were once our age, Mel talks to the guys about making useful mistakes in your twenties, finding a litmus for what loves looks and feels like, and how to make friends with people as an adult (who aren’t already on your netball team).

Mel bonds with Hugh about the realities of an ADHD brain and the fallacy of thinking you are super organised for something, and most importantly, the burst of self-compassion that can come from a diagnosis.

Mel, we’ll be your side-by-side friend.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/NDKke1ATdLE

🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy - http://bit.ly/4q5LW8f
Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken but Not Broken - http://bit.ly/4qcCHDy
Campbell ‘Struthless’ Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing - http://bit.ly/4q8MHgO

📺Things to watch

Cheap Seats - http://bit.ly/3KNoEnA
Mel’s YouTube Special ‘Forget Me Not’ - http://bit.ly/4hbCQ63

💻Things to check out

Meladoodle (Mel’s Tumblr blog) - http://bit.ly/4mXO1AF

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

Mel’s Live Tour ‘A Little Treat’ - http://bit.ly/46ZoZuU

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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0:00 – Can you just give me the clothes off your back?
12:48 – Who do you go to for advice and why?
23:57 – Realising your parents are human too
27:20 – The no-strings puppeteer
31:24 – A lot to un-pack, a lot to understand
35:56 – Side by side relationships
43:16 – Making useful mistakes
50:02 – Dodging a break-ups and short term memory loss
59:27 – Replying to negative comments

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Oct 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Chrissie Swan - Honesty - http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq
Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement - http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V
Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE
Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI
Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You’re Lost - http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - http://bit.ly/470shxZ
Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt

📖 Things to read

Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4o8JFay
Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - http://bit.ly/4h7USGq
Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq

🎧Things to listen to

River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J

💻Things to do

VIA Character Strength Ranker - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – A strange start to the episode
3:42 – Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward
13:58 – Strength-based approach to change
22:18 – SMART domains for change
34:57 – Strategies to achieve your goals
44:56 – Lapse vs relapse
51:09 – The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore!
59:09 – Celebrate!
1:08:31 – Now is the time to get on the wrong train

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Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Oct 2025 18:00:00 -0000

If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?

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Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way).

Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life.

Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values.

In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4nWgRCf
Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent Parents - http://bit.ly/4gVbQYu
Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology - http://bit.ly/4q3NLCW
Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success - http://bit.ly/473cJuv

📖Things to read

Grounded Success, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4mOWw0J
Power, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nTsZnn
The Gift of Asking, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nvKgU8
Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown - http://bit.ly/46GMMzC

💻Things to check out

Kemi’s Website - https://www.keminekvapil.com

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – Third time (which is a charm)
6:38 – Croissant as a value
12:54 – Josh’s values are a pink flag
27:56 – Who you are vs who you want be
33:45 – Real world, reframing and living in alignment
38:06 – Trying on your values and setting goals
42:44 – Imperfect (company) Values
1:03:02 – Same value, differing actions
1:08:43 – How to get pants on a three year old

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Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 02 Oct 2025 19:00:00 -0000

The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.

In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life.

Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset.

Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!

This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK.

If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH
Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK
Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid Life - https://bit.ly/4nNzmIP
Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/3Kr9KTP
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4nHTc8s
Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/46SBaL0
Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4ndG2Ae

📖 Things to read

Hitch-22, by Christopher Hitchens - https://bit.ly/4gC4yZk

📺 Things to watch

Homer Simpson’s Spice Rack - https://bit.ly/46PCzlD

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Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Hugh’s turn!

This week, to celebrate the launch of our BRAND NEW Vulnerabilitea House Cards (with 52 brand-new life changing questions), Ryan, Hugh and Josh will each be answering a VII question on an episode this week.

Ryan kicked us off on Monday, and you can listen to that episode here (it’s a goody) - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH

In this episode, Hugh answers the question “When was a time when you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?”

In an answer which provides a little more context to Ryan’s episode (an unplanned narrative arc), Hugh is vulnerable about the intense burnout he has been experiencing, and his fantasies for a guilt free period of time where he can just lie down for a bit.

Unpacking the symptoms of burnout, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh the heaviness of the past year, how it has been impacting his mental health, and why it feels like everything is too much.

Hugh, thanks for calling the press conference. We love you so much.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/8K0eKoIfR-U

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH
Another Imperfect Chat About Men - http://bit.ly/4gC1aO6

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Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0000

It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week.

Because, drum roll please*,* we have a BRAND-NEW deck of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, with 52 brand-new, life-changing questions.

That’s right baby, Volume II is available for purchase. Now.

This week, we are releasing three whole episodes (lucky you).

Each episode will feature either Ryan, Hugh or Josh in the spotlight as they answer one of our new Vulernabilitea House questions.

In this episode, Ryan answers the question, “do you have any regrets about the way you have treated others?” and talks about his relationship with Hugh, and why he has been feeling guilty.

See you Wednesday!

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see the new Tequila-Sunrise Card Deck), follow this link - https://youtu.be/PDsY2kaA4uU

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony - http://bit.ly/4pCtl3D
Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down - http://bit.ly/42NYPd9

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Mitch Brown - AFL’s First Openly Bisexual Man

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0000

This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown.

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Tie up your laces and pull up your socks, this story is ones for the ages.

As the first male AFL player in the sport’s 129 year history to come out as bisexual, Mitch, and the public’s reaction to his story, epitomises the importance of visibility, role models and the creation of safe and inclusive environments.

Joining us in the studio, Mitch takes us back to the beginning, vulnerably telling Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the hyper-masculine environments which formed (and suppressed) his identity from a young age.

Talking through his newfound imposter syndrome, past-mistakes, and journey to finding his true, authentic self, Mitch emphasizes the critical importance of empathy.

Confiding with the guys about how monumental, overwhelming and joyful the past few weeks have been, Mitch also acknowledges the deep grief of people in his life who felt like they had let him down.

Mitch, you are making the world a better place. We love you (so much).

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cLHU4CJkqww

This episode discusses an experience of sexual assault, if this is something you're not ready to hear right now, we suggest you skip this one and come back when you are ready.

🎧Things to listen to:

The Daily Aus - Part 1: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/4nHyQfJ
The Daily Aus - Part 2: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/3VpMdVM

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
1800 RESPECT - If you, or someone you know needs support after after experiencing a sexual assault, please call the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.
Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

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Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.

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Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage.

A triple threat, you might say.

Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death.

Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on.

Matt, what a feeling.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3JRXb3O

📺 Things to watch

The Other Guy - https://bit.ly/4m32zOL
Ryan and Matt’s Legendary Moments Ad - https://bit.ly/4pfHxPE

🎧Things to listen to

Helen’s Message 1992 - Matt and Alex - All Day Breakfast - http://bit.ly/46tLede

📖 Things to read

Being Black ‘n Chicken, and Chips by Matt Okine - http://bit.ly/4nl9OCP

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Karissa Lewis - We're Not Better Off Without You

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Sep 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.

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On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone.

Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide.

We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention.

Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language.

Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry.

Life is not better off without you.

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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4nijyxP
Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability - https://bit.ly/4mK0zvW

📖 Things to read

Is crying good for you? - https://bit.ly/41ys2Iy
Zone of Fabulousness by Vikki Reynolds - https://bit.ly/3I0i5Nv

📱Things to download

Beyond Now - Safety Planning App - https://bit.ly/466T9Mo

💻Things to check out

Social Futures StandBy Support After Suicide - https://bit.ly/4mHWZ5s
National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/466ONop
Certificate IV in Mental Health Peer Work (there’s lots!)
Living Works Australia - ASIST 2 Day Course - https://bit.ly/429tNMz

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

Together Again, Imperfects Live Show - https://bit.ly/47VT9Bc

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide;

Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76
Please call 000 in an emergency
StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247

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Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 31 Aug 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Mid-life crises have a bad rap.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car).

Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose.

Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly.

And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world.

Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - http://bit.ly/3HTMKMi
Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/4fYJonW
Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - http://bit.ly/45BW9kU

📖Things to read

Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4mAhUaA
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Your Life, by James Hollis - http://bit.ly/41oMED0
From Strength to Strength, by Arthur C Brooks - http://bit.ly/4lFObvD

💻Things to check out

Erik Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development - http://bit.ly/4oV1knq
Jungian Therapy - http://bit.ly/3JyslNh
Chip Connolly - Modern Elder Academy - http://bit.ly/4fZUN70
Kristen Neff - Online Self Compassion Practice - http://bit.ly/4mUIs68
Chris Germer - Mindful Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3Vj5d82
Paul Gilbert - Developing Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/4fYN74U
Regina Gurlach - Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3HO1Xi2
U-Shaped Curve of Happiness - http://bit.ly/4p0m5hQ
Ron Siegel - The Disillusion of Living - http://bit.ly/4fYO11i

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Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Aug 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place.

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In saying that, everything Hannah tries (and touches), inevitably turns to gold (media company, podcast, author, you get the point).

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah answers the question, “what have you learnt about love from the way you were cared for as a child?”

Recounting the moment she was asked to be responsible for the lives of her siblings, Hannah is incredibly vulnerable and honest in reflecting on the status of her relationship with her parents now, and goes deep with Ryan about the importance of intention.

In the spirit of her word of the year being ‘soft’, Hannah and Josh unpack why she has felt undesirable and undatable, and what makes her current partner feel like forev- a very long time (this could age poorly, but hopefully won’t).

Hannah, our BFLT.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3JLOd7S

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Origin of the Pink Dildo Story (Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here) - https://apple.co/492kgsN
Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling - http://bit.ly/47BcFmn

🎧Things to listen to

Big Small Talk - http://bit.ly/41fHklq
Brene Brown on Oprah - http://bit.ly/3Jqeit6

📺Things to watch

Hannah’s National Press Club Address - http://bit.ly/4oPN7s8
Tony Abbott Freeze video - http://bit.ly/3HIW85m
Tony Abbott Onion video - http://bit.ly/3UFCvy3

📖Things to read

Bite Back, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4lyOxEf
Taboo, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4mQrC8D

💻Things to check out

Cheek Media Co. - http://bit.ly/4oM4zO6

🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.

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Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Aug 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make.

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A leader from the beginning of his career, Dyson was living his childhood dream playing AFL for the Essendon Bombers when everything turned upside down.

In this episode, Dyson chats to Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about his relationship with trust, his teammates and the public in the aftermath of the scandal. Reframing, and rebuilding, Dyson shares how he was able to find joy, empathy and positivity in footy, and life, again.

Hugh discusses with Dyson how he chased control through limiting calories, which resulted in a period of disordered eating and finally, the guys talk about Dyson’s relationship with Harrison, and the starting of Haych the Label.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/41EIbw1

🎧Things to listen to

Dyson Heppell I Dyl & Friends - http://bit.ly/4mKhZZ7

🧢Things to check out

Haych The Label - http://bit.ly/47xSohB
The Resilience Project Journal - http://bit.ly/3UZtXSH

🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place to visit - https://butterfly.org.au

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Andy Cooks - Andy Doesn't Drink (Anymore)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Aug 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea?

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Andy Hearnden, better known for his online moniker Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and home cook extraordinaire, with more YouTube and TikTok followers than the population of a small country.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Andy answers the question, “what’s been your biggest failure and how was it good or bad for you?”

Imitating the behaviour of others around him, alcohol became a normal part of Andy’s daily routine, and eventually, his identity. Andy opens up to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the non-linear nature of his sobriety journey, and the incredible support of his partner Katelyn (Babe).

As a garnish, Andy chats to Ry about breaking the cycle of poor people management, and learning how to become a leader.

Andy, you can cook (or chat) with us anytime.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/Pq8iKXWIfGA

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ
Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F

📖 Things to read

The Cookbook, by Andy Cooks - https://bit.ly/3UIB161

💻Things to check out

Andy Cooks - YouTube - https://bit.ly/4okLSRk

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Dr Emily - We're Longing for Belonging

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Aug 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Do you ever wonder whether you belong?

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According to Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, belonging is an evolutionary need, literally built into our DNA. And in our current loneliness epidemic, the feeling of belonging uncertainty can impact our sense of safety, identity and even physical health.

This week, Dr Em goes into the intolerable state of uncertainty, and the self-fulfilling prophecy we may induce when trying to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, for all of us introverts, creating connection involves risk.

Thorough in her research as always, Dr Em explains the benefits to seeking perspective and crafting situations to help others feel like they belong.

AND with a guest star appearance from Producer Bridge, we unpack what it looks and feels like to get it wrong, and how you can work to get it right.

Dr Em, this is our favourite time of the month.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/r1qTUZwBLDw

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - http://bit.ly/4odhGY8
Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - http://bit.ly/4l8Y4lt
Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - http://bit.ly/4mbPvaq
Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head - https://bit.ly/40HM8zK
Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full) Back - https://bit.ly/45qvmrr

📖Things to read

A question of belonging: race, social fit, and achievement by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/4mbPMds
A Brief Social-Belonging Intervention Improves Academic and Health Outcomes of Minority Students by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/3UCcS0Y
Breaking the cycle of mistrust: wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide by Geoffrey Cohen, David Yeager & others - https://bit.ly/4odZKgc
Pygmalion in the Classroom by Robert Rosenthal & Lenore Jacobson - http://bit.ly/4fa2Tte
BELONGING: The Feeling That We “Belong” May Depend in Part on “Affirmations” by Mary Rowe - http://bit.ly/4l8fPBo
Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/3J8tieV

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Dis Works - A Game-Changing Study of The Resilience Project

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 31 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things.

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Today we’re jumping in your ears for a public service announcement: The Resilience Project (TRP) is officially backed by some rock-hard, super-sciencey evidence.

Founded by our very own Hugh (you know, from the podcast), TRP delivers emotionally engaging programs to over 1000 schools across Australia, as well as workplaces and sporting clubs.

This longitudinal, independent study conducted by Roshini Balasooriya Lekamge is peer reviewed (no Ryan, not that pier), published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, and most importantly, highlights a staggering decrease in depression and anxiety for kids who are engaged with TRP programs and content. Yay!

We hope you love this news as much as we do xx

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story - http://bit.ly/40IhXZg

💻Things to check out

The Resilience Project - https://theresilienceproject.com.au
TRP @ Home - http://bit.ly/4ociNr0
The University of Melbourne Evaluation - http://bit.ly/44Snxe4
University of Adelaide Research Findings - http://bit.ly/44Sp83y

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Joe Williams - Concussion, Bipolar & Being a Dad

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Approached by 5 NRL clubs by the time he was 13, Joe was a sporting prodigy.

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Thrust into the spotlight Joe was introduced to a world of concussions, accolades and copious amounts of drugs and alcohol.

Now 18 years sober, Joe is honest about how he found his power through truth and the experiences and learnings through which he navigates racism and understands human behaviour.

Joe chats to Josh about the difference between being a dad and a father, and how he has found compassion for his younger self.

This conversation also touches on Joe’s bipolar diagnosis, his relationship with the natural environment and the incredible difference that he is making in the mental health space now.

Joe, we can’t believe you found the time to join us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

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📖 Things to read:

Defying The Enemy Within by Joe Williams - https://bit.ly/4eY3cr0
What Happened To You by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey - https://bit.ly/4lYzl4F
The Dreaming Path by Paul Callaghan with Uncle Paul Gordon - https://bit.ly/3ICXbEd

📺Things to watch:

Seen The Film - https://seenthefilm.com

💻Things to check out:

Our Way Academy - https://bit.ly/4lGt4uf

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with suicidal ideation, thinking about suicide, or has issues with addiction, please call 000 in an emergency. Lifeline on 13 11 14 is also great resource, as well as the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline on 1800 250 015.

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Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.

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Joining us in the Academy of Imperfection, Jess explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the unrelenting system of entrapment that many women find themselves in, including a detailed look at the history of coercive control, and the term ‘perspecticide’.

Describing the importance of early intervention for young boys, and answering the question ‘Why don’t they just leave?’, Jess discusses with Josh the difference between guilt and shame, and the fundamental impact of these emotions.

This episode is compulsory listening for everyone (obviously, it’s Jess Hill talking about one of the most significant issues in our country), but especially those who, in their quietest, most vulnerable moment, recognise themselves as a perpetrator and want to take the next steps to changing the cycle of trauma.

Jess, we cannot thank you enough.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPAi24DyWRc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men’s Violence - https://bit.ly/45p2aBN
Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://bit.ly/3SSvrND
An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://bit.ly/4n4ce9o
Another Imperfect Chat About Men - https://bit.ly/4jUHQf7

🎧Things to listen to

The Trap - Why Do They Do It? - https://bit.ly/3G0H9D1

📺 Things to watch

See What You Made Me Do - https://bit.ly/3STaUbW
Matt Brown TedTalk - https://bit.ly/4jP1RUc

📖 Things to read

See What You Made Me Do by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/3HG8gno
The Reckoning by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/3FQyZNy
Losing It by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/4ni3YD8
She Is Not Your Rehab by Matt Brown with Sarah Brown - https://bit.ly/45In6Uz
Rape in Marriage by Diana E.H Russell - https://bit.ly/4n3q0Jr
Home Truths by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/402SfOC
The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge - https://bit.ly/4eejITp
Shame and Pride by Donald Nathanson - https://bit.ly/4lsrc7V
Three Planet Model by Marianne Hester - https://bit.ly/4e4sG5t

💻Things to check out

Yiliyapinya - https://yiliyapinya.org.au/about/
Inner Boy - She Is Not Your Rehab - Free 30 Day Program - https://bit.ly/4jPOdQA

🚨If you, or someone you know, is exhibiting behaviour that may be concerning or problematic, call MensLine on 1300 78 99 78, or No To Violence on 1300 766 491.

🚨If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

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Vincent Fantauzzo - A Brush With Pain

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Art saved Vincent Fantauzzo’s life.

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In this episode, Vincent paints the picture of his childhood in Broadmeadows, a childhood marked with violence and abuse, and how undiagnosed dyslexia deeply affected Vincent’s ability to read and write, as well as his memory. Now known worldwide for his award winning portraits of Asher Keddie (his now wife), Julia Gillard and Heath Ledger, Vincent chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the incredible father figures, role models and friends that he has connected with throughout his life, and the impact they have had on his sense of self. Vincent, this was a dream come true.

To watch this video on YouTube (a picture paints a thousand words after all), follow this link - 🫖 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwH3A-jSd3U

Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back - https://bit.ly/45ZZfQ6

🎨Things to check out

Vincent’s Gallery - https://bit.ly/4n4CyAr

‘Heath’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/3Tp8amG

‘Love Face’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/4lcE4yQ

‘All that’s good in me’ (self-portrait as son Luca) - https://bit.ly/4kJF8u1

📖Things to read

Unveiled by Vincent Fantauzzo - https://bit.ly/4e3PsKO

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with thoughts surrounding suicide, suicidal ideation or self-harm, please call 000 or Life Life on 13 11 14. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0000

How often do you feel guilty?

Guiding us on a guilt trip today is our resident psychologist (and published author) Dr Emily Musgrove.

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Differentiating guilt from shame or regret, Dr Emily takes us back to the very beginning to explain the purpose and function of guilt as a pro-social behaviour which your cave-person ancestor probably would have used to keep them in the tribe.

When used wisely, guilt is a useful recognition of information that can alert us when we have gone against our values or dropped our moral standards.

However, as Dr Em explains (and people pleasers would know all too well) guilt can quickly becoming overwhelming, exhausting and make you feel like you’re always letting someone down. In this episode, Dr Em dives into the seemingly never-ending guilt of being a parent, especially a mum, as well as the guilt associated with caring for ageing parents.

Dr Em, you’ve done it again.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wLLJdF1edVE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - https://apple.co/4dckMpy
Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries? - https://bit.ly/409jO91
Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7
Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9
Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F
Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ

📖Things to read

Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2
The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins - https://bit.ly/3SUcvhv
Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy - https://bit.ly/443BPXE
Choice Points by Russ Harris and Colleagues - https://bit.ly/4jUZjnw

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Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 29 Jun 2025 19:00:00 -0000

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au - this week, featuring a reflection from none other than Cate Campbell.

By the time she was 16, Cate Campbell had figured out her social currency: achievement, in the form of gold medals, no less.

Four time Olympian and world record holder Cate joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question ‘How and when have you been dishonest with yourself?’

From telling herself she was ‘fine’ to having a breakdown over a Milo, Cate recounts the intense period of loneliness she experienced during Covid, and the depression she ‘didn’t deserve’ to feel.

This episode emphasises the critical importance of connection for our mental health, and Cate so beautifully articulates the impact of finding love at first sight (friend addition), and navigating a changing relationship with her sister Bronte.

Coming of age in a world where perfection is praised and your failure makes headlines, Cate is so generous in sharing how she had learn to ask for help and to value her mental health like she would her physical.

Cate, you are simply the best.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/40ecuJc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy - https://bit.ly/44h52iW

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Campbell "Struthless" Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Jun 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Do you think of yourself as a creative person? How does being creative make you feel?

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Today we welcome into the Academy of Imperfection (reluctant) expert Campbell Walker, better known by his online moniker, Struthless.

Drawing on his hypothesis that creativity is the antithesis of destruction, Struthless discusses how to train yourself in creativity, the 70% rule in completing a creative pursuit, and, thankfully for Hugh, how to recognise and celebrate your creative brain in everyday tasks.

Struthless opens up about the moment he realised drugs had stopped becoming fun, going deeper into his struggles with addiction and how he reframed one of his most shameful moment by asking “how could this be the best thing that has ever happened to me”?

Ryan and Struthless chat about the mental health benefits, and absolute joy, of journalling (just ask anyone who’s bought My Imperfect Life), and how to make sure that the pain doesn’t win.

Figuratively, illustratively and literally, we loved hanging out with you, Struthless.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3TrGI7I

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://bit.ly/4ksJXYL
How (And Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone - https://bit.ly/41RY15O

📖 Things to read

Doom and Bloom, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3HnCQSv
Your Head Is A Houseboat, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3SxJUOW
The Medium is the Message, by Marshall McLuhan - https://bit.ly/3T7tUmP

📺 Things to watch

Boss Baby - https://bit.ly/4438FJe
Pingu - https://bit.ly/43V1EsW

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction, the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline 1800 250 015, is a great place to start.

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Isaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Jun 2025 19:00:00 -0000

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There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio.

Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates.

However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage.

In this episode, Isaac talks through his horrific experience of childhood bullying, and how basketball became both a sanctuary and a space of secrecy. For Isaac, he never imagined a world where he could keep his career and live authentically as his whole self.

An incredible journey, which includes a Beyonce-esque move of dropping his last name for a time, Isaac describes to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it felt like to come out to his mum, live as an openly gay man for the first time, and finally, come out to the world.

Finding light in the darkest of times, Josh and Isaac discuss the importance of purpose, which prompts Hugh to reflect on how this episode is the epitome of The Imperfects: how vulnerability leads to authentic connection.

Isaac, we love you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see Hugh’s model shot), click here - https://bit.ly/43YQXpc

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ
Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m

📺 Things to watch

Isaac’s Coming Out video - https://bit.ly/3HxvR9O

🎧 Things to listen to

Isaac’s music, including the song Be Alright - https://spoti.fi/4mTSGol

📖 Things to read

The Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs - https://bit.ly/43XZ3hH

🏳️‍🌈For some great educational resources, head to Pride in Sport - www.prideinsport.com.au/resources

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

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Dr Emily - Using The Force For Good

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Jun 2025 19:00:00 -0000

This is where the fun begins.

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Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory.

Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference.

Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acceptance Commitment Therapy, whilst also pointing out the incredible power of mindfulness (just ask Luke Skywalker).

Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat with Dr Emily about The Hero’s Journey, main character syndrome and how to let go of our ego to embrace your authentic self.

May the Force be with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FGlYG6

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://bit.ly/4mGNOCP
Dr Emily - Hope - https://apple.co/4l9des9
Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - https://bit.ly/3SyoWj0
Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4kki9W6
Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m
Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon) - https://bit.ly/4jefaNP

💻Things / people to check out

Tara Brach - https://bit.ly/43Fk8gR
Scott Barry Kaufman - https://bit.ly/4dSmwFK
Dr Robyn D Walser - https://bit.ly/4kEI5M0
Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey - https://bit.ly/3HlH516
The Star Wars Catalogue - https://bit.ly/3HzXi2x

📖 Things to read

Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

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Nas Campanella - The First Blind Newsreader in the World

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Jun 2025 19:00:00 -0000

As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient).

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You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either.

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”

Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity.

Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing.

Nas, it has been an absolute joy.

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Dr Louise Newson - It's Hormones. Period.

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 May 2025 19:00:00 -0000

It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones.

In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024.

Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed.

Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression.

Dr Louise, this has been life changing.

If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/l4naB7-GKto

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://bit.ly/43qYwon

🎧Things to listen to:

The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Talking to my daughter: understanding hormones, contraception, PMS & the gaps in sex ed - https://bit.ly/43vnliX
The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Testosterone and the hormone triangle, with Dr Mohit Khera - https://apple.co/4duWhow

💻 Things to check out:

Balance website - https://bit.ly/4mlLFwp
Balance App - https://bit.ly/436uozz

💊To find more information about contraception

Sexual Health Victoria - https://bit.ly/4jgfJ9M
Children by Choice - https://bit.ly/4je80Ju
Dr Louise Hormone Health Hub - https://bit.ly/44HQARP

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Dr Emily - How To Get UNSTUCK

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 22 May 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here!

Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live.

Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it.

We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things).

At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change.

It’s compulsory reading.

Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4mvgSgE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - https://apple.co/4dckMpy

📖 Things to read:

Summer Day by Mary Oliver - https://bit.ly/3Hh1gNo

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Monty Dimond - Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 May 2025 19:00:00 -0000

It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio.

In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year.

Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others.

If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy).

Monty, we are in awe of you.

To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3GVUYmf

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ
Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m
Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel - https://bit.ly/3F6wy9d

🎧 Things to listen to:

iChonric - https://bit.ly/4j1d3gb
Show and Tell - https://bit.ly/3ZfWiGR

💻 Things to check out:

Kristy Forbes’ Workshops - https://bit.ly/43eFxNK

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Dr Emily - Grief Lightening

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 May 2025 19:00:00 -0000

What would it look like if we were more open to grief?

This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective.

Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well.

Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path.
Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear.

And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jKdlco

If you would like to pre-order Em’s book Unstuck, click here: https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode

Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - https://bit.ly/3GGXCMA
Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumour - https://bit.ly/4jK7CmV
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image - https://apple.co/43iqzau

📖 Things to read

The Grieving Brain - Mary-Frances O’Connor - https://bit.ly/4m55Mi3
Self Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://bit.ly/4iQC25O
Wherever You Go, There You Are - Jon Kabat-Zinn - https://bit.ly/3Z5LeMo
Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z

💻 Things to check out

Stroebe and Schut Dual-Process Model of Grief - https://bit.ly/4kbIeqc
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/45tThVu
Meghan Riordan Jarvis’ work - https://bit.ly/3RTyy7v

☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 May 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully.

Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children.

In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right.

Lauren, thank you for such a special episode.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD

📖 Things to read:

Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z
Last Shot - Jock Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4iCyfJi
Finding Meaning - David Kessler - https://amzn.to/44QgNNU

☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with

National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/4iEMvkP
Griefline - 1300 845 745

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

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Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 19:00:00 -0000

It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain.

After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD.

Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD.

Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths.

This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of.

If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: www.patreon.com/theimperfects

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ

💻 Things to check out

Alex Patridge - 12 Lie People with ADHD tell themselves - ttps://bit.ly/41cHcnd
Alex Patridge - How to understand ADHD Overwhelm in 35 seconds - https://bit.ly/4jWRq22

📺 Things to watch

Celeste Barber’s Australian Story - Unfiltered - https://ab.co/42l6VsD

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Apr 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand.

Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science.

In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease.

Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat.

And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day.

Simon, thank you for all that you says.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Felice Jacka - Food For Thought - https://apple.co/4ciWgn5
Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR
Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way to Your Top - https://bit.ly/3E3flgi

📖 Things to read:

The Proof is in the Plants - Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/4lbj7VC
The Skeptics’ Guide To The Universe - Steven Novella - https://bit.ly/3QUPYjI

🎧Things to listen to:

The Proof with Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/3XCCDjS
The Proof - Menopause masterclass (Part 1) - https://bit.ly/42aAoXC
The Proof - Your menopause questions answered (Part 2) - https://apple.co/4cx0MhW

💻Things to research:

Approx. 50% of cardiac deaths are sudden cardiac deaths 50% - https://bit.ly/4juCffP
30 different plants a week study - https://bit.ly/3XIXORj
To know more about ApoB, and it’s link to cholesterol - https://bit.ly/42mRL6b & https://bit.ly/426dVLe
The Mind Diet - https://bit.ly/42p3zFd
Mediterranean Diet - https://bit.ly/4cPqBKp
To know more about the Carnivore diet - https://bit.ly/3RcMZmR & https://bit.ly/426xvqT
Creatine and cognition - https://bit.ly/4j8sd4e
Impact of creatine on depression and CBT - https://bit.ly/3G401AL
Impact of creatine on bone health for menopausal women - https://bit.ly/4cuahym & https://bit.ly/424KxoD
Impact of creatine on sleep deprivation - https://go.nature.com/4cvR0wC
Simon’s Prebiotics - 38TERA - https://bit.ly/4caa96Q

🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support:

Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
The Butterfly Foundation - https://bit.ly/48YCSZe

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Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Apr 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her.

CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today.

In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you.

Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U

If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

💻 Things to checkout:

Waangkiny - https://www.waangkiny.com

📺 Things to watch:

Once Were Warriors - https://bit.ly/3XPMxyJ

🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects

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This episode of The Imperfects discusses domestic and family violence. If these topics are too much for you right now, then we suggest you skip this one and come back when you're ready.

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Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Apr 2025 19:00:00 -0000

Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will.

To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove.

Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice.

Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity.

To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3XILzEe

To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://apple.co/4hZiVWx
Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://bit.ly/42phpsh

💻Things to check out:

Carer Gateway - https://bit.ly/41UEJhA

🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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Danielle Laidley PART 2 - Her Public Outing

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below).

In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity.

A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others.

To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2

📖 Things to read

Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo

📺 Things to watch

Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct

☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start:

QLife - 1800 184 527
Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367

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Danielle Laidley PART 1 - Her Private Struggle

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Mar 2025 17:50:00 -0000

Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman.

An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic.

Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes.

In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy.

Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self.

You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss - https://apple.co/4hNT0RN

📖 Things to read

Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo

📺 Things to watch

Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct

🖼️ If you want to join out patreon A Little More Imperfects, go to www.patreon.com/theimperfects

☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start:

QLife - 1800 184 527
Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367

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Let’s Talk About Hugh’s Open Letter

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 27 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode.

Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since.

Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live.

We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support.

Love,

The Imperfects xxx

🎧 If you want to listen to Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People, click here - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m

💻 If you want to watch this full chat on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wFrlUkqR8y4

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Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole… and Found Myself

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day.

Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort.

This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?)

*not the basket baller

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iv72IO

🦁 Things to check out

Helen Carmichael - https://bit.ly/4hv90YU

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Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans).

With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream.

In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear.

Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward.

Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved?

Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz

🫖 Imperfects episode mentioned in this episode

Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection - https://bit.ly/4fVM8Bo

📖 Things to read:

Open When by Dr Julie Smith - https://bit.ly/4hq7y9T
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith https://bit.ly/3FkC2wH

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Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 13 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people.

It may be confronting.

Please take care when listening.

Love,

Hugh

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Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture.

At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts.

Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?”

Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success.

We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future.

Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/41vzALg

🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode

Grant Denyer - Self Worth Was Worth Fighting For - https://apple.co/4fyvmsj

🎟️ Things to go see

Audrey at the Melbourne Women in Film Festival - https://bit.ly/4bvMHkq

📺 Things to watch

Latecomers - https://bit.ly/4kBLFaG
Hannah’s speech at the National Press Club - https://bit.ly/3QJPzQZ

📖 Things to read

I’ll Let Myself In by Hannah Diviney - https://bit.ly/3DjeffZ

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Dr Emily - Hope

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Today, Dr Emily talks about hope.

And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time.

In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion.

Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated.

Psychological mic-drop.

This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life.

We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/41j0pT1

📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/dr-julia-baird-an-awe-full-conversation/

📖 Things to read

Martin Seligman - Theory of Learned Hopelessness - https://bit.ly/3EY1oR2
Rick Snyder - Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind - https://bit.ly/4bAbu6Z
Jamil Zacki - Hope for Cynics - https://www.jamil-zaki.com
Robyn Walser - Heart of ACT - https://amzn.to/4izIv5x
Barbara Frederikson - Reflections on Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals - https://bit.ly/3EY2yfl
Nick Cave’s letter - https://bit.ly/3ETlr2O
Victor Frankl - Man’s Search For Meaning - https://bit.ly/4iizuNM

💻Things to check out

Dacher Keltner’s work - https://bit.ly/3XfJpfe
Obama’s ‘Hope’ poster - https://bit.ly/4kgkvG4

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Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025.

In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?”

He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch.

Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy. Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again.

Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi

💿 Things to listen to:

Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - https://apple.co/432zLQP
The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - https://apple.co/4gNrgvV

Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfects

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Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 20 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0000

It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).

That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country!

It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!

We would love and adore to see you there!

🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8

If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – www.patreon.com/theimperfects

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned

Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8

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Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.

Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?

In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.

So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!

Sweet dreams x

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🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode:

Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd

💻 Things to check out:

Salutegenics Psychology - https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG
Resilience First Aid - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT
Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com
Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF

🎧 Things to listen to:

Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv

📖 Things to read:

Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - https://bit.ly/3COHNSv
Michael Mosley’s Research - https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC
Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - https://bit.ly/3CB53n5

📺 Things to watch:

Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G
Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J
Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs

💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs:

*please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist

Alfred Health - https://bit.ly/42SKw80
Monash Health - https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM
Epworth Sleep Centre - https://bit.ly/4hzylBI
Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS
The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y

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Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0000

The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning.

We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy.

Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship).

To watch this full video on our YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3Er6W6g

To subscribe to A Little More Imperfects on Patreon, follow this link: Patreon.com/imperfects

To subscribe to our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-Mail (which includes a reflective journalling question based on this episode), follow this link: https://bit.ly/42bYguo

🎧 Things to listen to:

Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP
Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - https://apple.co/40PZZ7s

📺 Things to watch

Mick’s encounter with the shark - https://bit.ly/3CQa76V

⛳️Things to check out

Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl

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We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0000

Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby!

On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show.

A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch.

So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead.

If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI

🎧 Things to listen to:

Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456

📖 Things to buy:

Our new journal, My Imperfect Life - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

📃Things to subscribe to:

Our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-mail - https://bit.ly/42bYguo

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James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Jan 2025 18:00:00 -0000

It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg.

In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover.

From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons.

Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography.

Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care.

James, we thank you for your guidance.

If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe here!

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3WwDguJ

🎧Things to listen to

James’ new podcast (that he makes with ANOTHER van Cuylenburg) You’re a Good Kid - https://apple.co/3E54MZR
James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://apple.co/3UYXmgt
Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6
Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm

📖 Things to read

Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A - https://amzn.to/3EeVDhe

💻Things to check out

Teach Us Consent Website - https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0
Three Sided Pillar (triangle of happiness) - https://bit.ly/42kntmc

🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence or coercive control, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.

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Imperfect Birth Stories with Sophie Walker

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Jan 2025 18:00:00 -0000

In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories.

With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners.

Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around.

The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him.

Sophie, it was such a pleasure.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw

🎧 Things to listen to:

Australian Birth Stories Podcast - https://apple.co/4f3PgKx
- Lisa Wipfli’s episode - https://apple.co/3CZ34sx
- Lael Stone’s episode - https://bit.ly/3ZhaZZD
Lael Stone on The Imperfects:
- Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans - https://apple.co/3V2vuIb
- Take Care of Yourself - https://apple.co/4eAJNuw
- Parent Yourself First - https://apple.co/3ZE28Tj
Martin Heppell on The Imperfects:
- The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://bit.ly/3ZerqqN
- Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word ….. FAILURE - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk
Jack Post - Natal Depression - https://apple.co/49AgxDb

💻 Things to check out:

The danger of a single story TedTalk - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - https://bit.ly/4f16DM5
Australian Birth Stories Birth Class Course - https://bit.ly/3BdMgxc

📖 Things to read:

The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth by Sophie Walker - https://amzn.to/3EscPQu

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression or anxiety surrounding birth, these are a few great websites we’ve found

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Surprise! You’re Writing A Book!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 16 Jan 2025 18:00:00 -0000

B b b bonus episode!

We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work.

With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT).

To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy).

🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of My Imperfect Life that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl

📖 To just purchase My Imperfect Life, click here – https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/

📃 To become our penpal, join The VulnerabiliTea-mail, a weekly newsletter where we’ll send you one vulnerable question inspired by the current episode, to help you unpack your own imperfect life. Subscribe at theimperfects.com.au

🎧 Things to listen to

Nathan Cavaleri – The Ups & The Blues - https://apple.co/42aTmh6
Michael Klim – The Race of His Life - https://bit.ly/4aiMyQr
Rana Hussain – Belonging For Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Jan 2025 18:00:00 -0000

There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality.

Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets?

In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware.

Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did.

Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh.

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
I wish that I had let myself be happier

Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did.

Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/

📖 Things to read:

The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - Bronnie Ware - https://bit.ly/4ghIKkf
Bronnie’s original blog post - Regrets of the Dying - https://bit.ly/4f2nmPd
From Strength to Strength - Arthur C. Brooks - https://bit.ly/3BlahT1
Strong Female Character - Fern Brady - https://bit.ly/3Vl5Uya
Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - https://bit.ly/4g2DbGL

🎧 Things to listen to:

Paul Kelly - I Wasted Time - https://bit.ly/4eZeWbc
Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://bit.ly/48nT3Ax

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Dec 2024 18:00:49 -0000

Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids.

Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus?

Nope, neither had we.

That’s probably why he’s forgotten.

Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world.

A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM

🎧Things to listen to:

Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4gns2zX
Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs
Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - https://apple.co/3DkUYKI

📺 Things to watch:

Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay

🎟️ Things to buy tickets to:

I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour
- Australian Tickets - https://bit.ly/3DczzDx
- NZ Tickets - https://bit.ly/49BCuC4

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Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Dec 2024 18:00:18 -0000

You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far.

We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv).

Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU

🎧 Things to listen to:

Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i
Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax
Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7
Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf
Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL
Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456
Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs
Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX

📺 Things to watch:

Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb
Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl
Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX
Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF

📱Things to check out:

Wable - https://www.hellowable.com

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Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Dec 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley.

Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself.

Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself.

What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships.

There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley).

Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd

ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf

📖 Things to read:

Awake Academy - Layne Beachley and Tess Brouwer - https://bit.ly/4fNThEh
Beneath the Waves - Michael Gordon with Layne Beachley - https://bit.ly/410jgU2
From Strength to Strength - Arthur C Brooks - https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD
Build the Life You Want - Arthur C Brooks and Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3ZpgFAK

☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover):

Aegyo Cafe - https://bit.ly/3BqMNMi

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Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Dec 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects.

In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom.

Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance.

This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready.

Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE

🎧 Things to listen to:

Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection - https://apple.co/4fE5V8n
Johann Hari - Why You Can’t Pay Attention - https://apple.co/4flaoMG
Johann Hari (P1 1) - How Can We Change? - https://apple.co/40liAIJ
Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? - https://apple.co/3UokTH2

📖 Things to read:

The Magic Pill by Johann Hari - https://bit.ly/3NHoyw1
Johann’s other books - https://johannhari.com

💻Things to look into:

Prof. Tracey Mann research into dieting - https://bit.ly/4eKbDEB
Bee Wilson’s research into baby food - https://bit.ly/3ZtpklZ
Dr. Paul Kenny research into the obesity - https://bit.ly/3ZbtZsm

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Jim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than Dementia

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia.

So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far.

The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family.

In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing.

Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms.

This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did.

Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug

🎧 Things to listen to:

Hold The Moment - https://apple.co/3YCOjUz

📺 Things to watch:

Still Alice - https://bit.ly/3YD5cyu

🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point:

Dementia Australia Helpline - 1800 100 500
Dementia Australia - https://www.dementia.org.au

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Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0000

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?

These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.

In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.

However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).

Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.

So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt

🎧Things to listen to:

Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7

📖 Things to read:

Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx

💻 Things to check out:

Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0000

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.

Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.

Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.

Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.

In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.

Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.

Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP

🎧 Things to listen to:

How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf

📺 Things to watch:

Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS

📱Apps to download

BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0000

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait.

There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain.

We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive.

However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting.

People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful.

With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents.

On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait.

Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner.

Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7

💻 ADHD Resources to check out:

ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd
Stardust Support - https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/
Curtin University ADHD Support Group - https://bit.ly/40fIm14
For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service

🎧 Things to listen to:

Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax
Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf
Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7

📖 Things to read:

Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H
Research paper on ADHD genes - https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui

📺 Things to watch:

ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt

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Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House.

In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today.

Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time.

In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life.

Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w

📖 Things to read:

Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA

🎧 Things to listen to:

Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ
Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC
Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL

🍴Things to check out:

Attica - https://www.attica.com.au

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What's Your ATAR?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 24 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again).

And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM!

Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay.

So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy.

Love,

The Imperfects.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YkRBuk

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Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!).

Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip).

With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society.

Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list.

To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - https://youtu.be/3Xjy4eABOQ4

🎧Things to listen to:

Not Stupid podcast with Julia Baird and Jeremy Fernandez - https://apple.co/4h3mhIS
Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - https://apple.co/404jXv7
All that really matters - Teddy Swims - https://bit.ly/3NmAt26
Renegades: Born in the USA with Barack Obama and Bruce Springsteen - https://apple.co/3BJbhQW

📖 Things to read

Julia Baird’s ‘Staying Upright’ ABC column - https://ab.co/4f31HGN
Phosphorescence by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/3Y2MK0M
Bright Shining by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/4eNfaCX
Silent Spring by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3NpOhcf
The Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3A5UPcP
The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey - https://amzn.to/3A1w3L1
AWE by Dacher Keltner - https://amzn.to/3BGEk7E
The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

📺 Things to watch

Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace - https://bit.ly/3BG1WsV
The Pool documentary - https://thepoolfilm.au

🌊 Information about Ocean Swimming Groups

Phosphorescence Swimming Group (Melbourne) - https://bit.ly/488EWPp
Margaret River Swimming Group - https://ab.co/4dKT02P

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Jack Post-Natal Depression

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right?

But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling?

Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here.

This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one.

We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA

🎧 Things to listen to:

Hamish & Andy Podcast- https://apple.co/47YDVJC
The Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show - https://bit.ly/47VdSTK
Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://apple.co/4gWYZEs

💻 Things to check out:

SYN FM Radio Program - https://bit.ly/47WXhis

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources:

PANDA - https://panda.org.au
DadSpace - https://www.dadspace.com.au

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Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 10 Oct 2024 18:22:55 -0000

We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh.

Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it.

Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous).

We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x

TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YiWANo

🎧 Things to listen to:

The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg - https://apple.co/4dKKbpI
Vulnerability Update - Josh Wrote a Song! - https://bit.ly/3Nld9BV
James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr

📺 Things to watch:

we were here - Josh van Cuylenburg Official Video - https://bit.ly/405eFzs
Nick Cave Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4858zRY

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Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0000

Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen?

According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent).

If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty.

In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process.

We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives.

Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment.

You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - https://youtu.be/jo5Ex1a2OwM

🎧Things to listen to:

Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty - https://apple.co/3Z2KKYj
Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8
Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick
Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children? - https://apple.co/3MivhMn
Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk - https://apple.co/4fZpp8c
Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU

📺Things to watch:

Brene Brown - The Call to Courage - https://bit.ly/3AD6XSR

💻Things to check out:

Mother of Mindfulness (Ellen Langer) - Making the Decision Right - https://bit.ly/4eKjoLa
Increasing Intolerance of Uncertainty Over Time - Nicholas Carleton - https://bit.ly/47PMRB8
Rick Hanson - I am all right, right now - https://bit.ly/3AFIe07

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Zoë Foster Blake - Zero Lucks Given

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 29 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific.

Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time.

Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following.

But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent.

Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it).

Zoë, what a joy.

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk

📖 Things to read:

Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA
Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3Q
No One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEu
Zoë’s entire back catalogue of books - https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2
How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - https://bit.ly/3Zto6Zs
This Is Marketing by Seth Godin - https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f

💻 Things to Check Out

Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - https://gotoskincare.com
Balance App - https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS

📺Things to Watch

The Wrong Girl - https://apple.co/3Bg5nqe
Michael Phelps Doorway Technique - https://bit.ly/3XAT9Qz
Slumdog Millionaire - https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj

🎧Things to listen to

Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8

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Dr Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids.

A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem.

Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health.

In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues).

Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47BHJAw

📖Things to read:

Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6

🎧Things to listen to:

The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - https://apple.co/4doCYM8
An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpP
Another Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/3B6WkaW
Pop-Culture Parenting - https://bit.ly/4e0VRpp
Kendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - https://bit.ly/3TupbMT

💻Things to check out:

Social Learning Theory - https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP and https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ

This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready.

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Nathan Buckley - Out of The Woods

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0000

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be.

Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.

In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.

Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed!

Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv

📺Things to watch:

Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - https://bit.ly/3T9dCub
Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW

🎧Things to listen to:

Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

📖Things to read:

The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK
How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq
How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - https://bit.ly/3yJddb3

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Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others?

That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do.

Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering.

In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments.

And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?)

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B

📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point)

Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - https://amzn.to/4g53tbR
Fierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://amzn.to/4cJESGI

🎧Things to listen to

Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP
Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9

💻Things to check out

Kristin Neff’s online resources - https://bit.ly/3XspqKL
Paul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - https://bit.ly/3AQbJML

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

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Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism"

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.”

Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed.

Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye.

Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.

Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way!

Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely.

To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC

📖Things to Read

The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z
Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0

💻Things to check out

The Grace Tame Foundation - https://bit.ly/4cEHtld

📺Things to watch

Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - https://ab.co/3yVZBJr

🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

Or visit the below support services.

Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/
Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com

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Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back.

In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.

In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!

Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

💻Things to check out

Good Human - https://www.goodhuman.au
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - https://bit.ly/4dsy3KX

🎧Things to listen to

The Outer Sanctum - https://spoti.fi/3WJ9iCU
Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong - https://apple.co/3M3iEV5
Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://apple.co/3M4A8k8

📖Things to read

Belonging: The Ancient Code of Togetherness by Owen Eastwood - https://amzn.to/3M7s16l

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Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0000

‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas.

Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect.

In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates.

Jack, we’re in love with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8

🎧Things to listen to:

Hamish MacDonald- How To Be You - https://bit.ly/4dhN8Ph

📖Things to read:

ADHD 2.0 - Edward Hallowell - https://bit.ly/4dlE8IP

📱Things to scroll:

The Inspired Unemployed on Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dDpdtm

📺Things to watch:

The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers - https://bit.ly/4fGD2Jm
Anomalisa - https://bit.ly/3Avx1il

📋Things to do:

Maria’s Resilience First Aid Training - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT

👨‍🦲Things for hair loss

Hugh’s hairspray product - https://bit.ly/3yuh4ss
Finasteride (please note this a prescription product and should only be used after a consultation with your GP) - https://bit.ly/3WNw2BI

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Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one.

We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist.

Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes).

We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people.

So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business.

To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp

🎧Things to listen to:

Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - https://bit.ly/3WSCF7f
The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN
Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - https://apple.co/4dzh356
Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6

📖 Things to read:

Stress Study: https://bit.ly/46A9bOB
Defining Protective Resilience: https://bit.ly/3SFBQfm
Resilience First Aid Evaluation: https://bit.ly/4dFRXll

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Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree.

Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom.

Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.

This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9

Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX

🎭Things to check out

Jackson’s Fringe Show - https://bit.ly/4cYNXwf
Jackson on Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQoDZ
Community Care Collective - https://bit.ly/3zYbUFb

📺Things to watch

Ricky Stanicky - https://bit.ly/4bYQXat
Mr Inbetween - https://bit.ly/4d4YZ31

🎧Things to listen to

The Killers - Rut - https://bit.ly/4cUn4JM

If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start:

Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr support
Marijuana Anonymous Australia - https://bit.ly/3WG4boj
Family Drug Support - https://www.fds.org.au/

🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

Or visit the below support services.

Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/
Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Another Imperfect Chat About Men

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 01 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0000

This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is.

We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it.

We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues.

In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be.

You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO

Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP

🎧Things to listen to

Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpH
An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf

📖Things to read

Chanel Contos - Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm
Malcolm Gladwell - Blink - https://bit.ly/3WG8Er7

💻 Things to help you learn

Teach Us Consent Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dlzKJG
Teach Us Consent Website - https://www.teachusconsent.com
Our Watch - https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV
White Ribbon - https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

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How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it.

The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!

Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now.

From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success.

So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.

📺 Things to watch

How Hugh Built Dis on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3y8gAId

💻 Things to check out

The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3zT8RhJ
The Resilience Project Journals - https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK

🎧 Things to listen to

Martin ‘Rac’ Heppell - The other F word… Failure - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk
The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://apple.co/3ZerqqN
How I Built This with Yvon Chouinard (Patagonia) - https://apple.co/4bXMbdk

🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into:

The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

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Dr Emily - What Are Your Values?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Jul 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove.

Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start.

Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be.

Links mentioned in the episode:

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ

The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN

James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr

Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO

📺 Things to watch

Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U

📖Steven Hayes books to read

A Liberated Mind - https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou

🛠️ Tools to use

The Resilience Project 6 month journal - https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU

📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

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Zan Rowe - If I Had A Year To Live

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In the ultimate power move, we interview Zan Rowe, ‘one of Australia’s best interviewers’. Talk about pressure.

Champion of the airwaves, TV presenter, music journalist and podcaster, Zan has soundtracked the lives of many Australians. In this episode of the Vulnerabilitea House, Zan draws the card; ‘how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?’

In between getting ‘death ready’ and facing burnout just when her professional dreams were all coming true, Zan and Hugh fan-girl hard for Johann Sebastian Bach.

You can watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/g-ABdHgMKyE

Links mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Previous episodes of the imperfects

Linda Marigliano - https://apple.co/4hUsiIl

📺 Things to watch

To watch Take 5’s episode with Guy Pearce - https://ab.co/3xRKYGA

🎧 Things to listen to

Zan's podcast 'Bang On', with Myf Warhurst - https://ab.co/3SbvDHN
Night of the Swallow by Kate Bush - https://bit.ly/4cw18o4

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Poh Ling Yeow - When The Relationship Ends

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Jul 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort.

But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance.

A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo).

In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before.

Links mentioned in this episode.

📺 Things to watch

Masterchef on Tenplay - https://bit.ly/4cwzbg8
South Park - Morman fellowshipping of Kyle - https://bit.ly/4cniH9x

🍽️ Things to cook

Poh’s latest cookbook - https://bit.ly/4cA1dXo

🎨 Art to see

Poh’s paintings - The Girl - https://bit.ly/45u0rZI

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Professor Felice Jacka - Food For Thought

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

How does food affect our mood? Does diet actually impact our mental health? What is a gut micro-biome, and can we still eat a few chips without ruining it?

In this Academy of Imperfection episode, we are joined one of the worlds leading experts on the relationship between what we eat, and how it effects our mental health, Professor Felice Jacka.

And if can we trust anyone to get to the bottom of the vagus nerve ‘highway’; our hippocampus shrinking; our mitochondrial reaction to ultra-processed foods (don’t worry we didn’t know these words before either) - it’s her.

There was a lot to 'digest' in this chat (so to speak), but thankfully, there is so much we can do, by making informed choices about what we put in our bodies, to improve our mental health.

See below for links & research mentioned in this episode, information on Felice and her work and extra resources:

📖 Things to read

The Food and Mood centre - https://bit.ly/3xdmkjw.
Felice’s published research - https://deakin.au/3VWggpb,
Felice’s shorter articles - https://bit.ly/3RvfeO2.
Felice’s recent research in Molecular Psychiatry Review -https://go.nature.com/3xozlqq.
SMILEs trial - https://bit.ly/3KLjGEL.
Kevin Hall’s study on Ultra-Processed food - https://bit.ly/3z7akjY.
Brain Changer, Felice Jacka, https://bit.ly/3xpYGjJ,
There’s a Zoo in my Poo, Felice Jack & Rob Craw https://bit.ly/3RrHxNd.

🎧 previous Imperfects Episodes mentioned in this episode:

Tim Spector - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR

This episode with Professor Felice Jacka includes a discussion about disordered eating. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

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IMPERFIX: What is Rape Culture? with Chanel Contos

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 28 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Last season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year.

In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it.

To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

🎧 Things to listen to

Chanel Contos - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm

📖 Things to read

Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh
To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid' - https://bit.ly/49XPFgh

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Michael Klim - The Race of His LIfe

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?

As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.

However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.

In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

📺 Things to watch

Homer Simpson’s journey through the Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ.
The Imperfects x Lifeblood video - https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv

🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here - https://apple.co/492kgsN
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU
Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility - https://apple.co/4fUmEEm

📖 Things to read

Kubler-Ross Grief Cycle is here https://bit.ly/45tThVu

⛑️ To support

Lifeblood - https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN
The Klim Foundation - bit.ly/4ejtGTj

🎧 Things to listen to:

Milkshakes for Marlee - https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW

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Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell.

Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward.

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects

Grant Denyer - https://apple.co/4fyvmsj
Dr. Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7
Dr. Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd
Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO
Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself - https://apple.co/4eAJNuw

📱 Things to follow

Nedra Glover Tawwab’s instagram - bit.ly/4bWnvCK

📖 Things to read

Nedra Glover Tawwab’s ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’ -bit.ly/3xpFKBw.
Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Wild’ - bit.ly/4emwAXa

📺 Things to watch

Curb Your Enthusiasm - https://bit.ly/3VCsXVH
Poor Things - https://bit.ly/3VmQ3OJ

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IMPERFIX: How Rick Davies Deals with His OCD

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 14 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old.

Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment.

🎧 Things to listen to

Rick’s full Imperfects episode - https://bit.ly/3wZQmHf
Penny’s Imperfects episode on OCD - https://bit.ly/459PbkY

📖 Things to read

Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back - bit.ly/3x3IG6T

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Yumi Stynes - Me and Alcohol Don’t Mix

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.

Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still.

In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.

So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did!

📖 Things to read

‘Welcome To…’ book series https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O
The Food Fix (Garlic Honey Soy Chicken recipe) https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN

📺 Things to watch

The Circle ‘cancelling’ moment https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk

⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression

Call Panda on 1300 726 306 or visit https://bit.ly/45fCULX
Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit https://bit.ly/3yPDggh
For further research and learning visit Mumspace - https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4

⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse

Call Alcoholics Anonymous on 1300 222 222 or visit https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq
Call the National Drug & Alcohol Hotline on 1800 250 015 or visit https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ

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Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Unfortunately, we all know what bad leadership looks like, for many of us, it doesn’t take long to think of examples…but what does it actually take to be a ‘good leader’?

This week in the Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh are joined by a legend of the sport, former rugby league player and current coach of the Queensland Maroons, Billy Slater. Billy has been called the best fullback ever to have played the game. As a player, he’s won more awards than we could possibly list. As a coach and a leader, he is nothing short of inspiring.

In this episode, Billy talks about leadership, coaching and how he approaches it. He shares how playing to your strengths can actually be more beneficial than lingering on weaknesses; he discusses how sometimes, good leadership requires ‘letting go’; and he shares why he spends so much time creating feelings and moments for his players, reminding them that what they’re trying to achieve is something bigger than themselves.

You can watch the full episode with Billy on youtube here. https://bit.ly/4c45lih

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

📖 Things to read

Link to Billy’s auto biography - https://bit.ly/3R62RIb
Link to Phill Jackson 11 Rings book - https://bit.ly/3yGgQ0N

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IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 31 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?

We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.

In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.

In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.

To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9

Links mentioned in the episode:

📺 Things to watch

Shirzad Charmine’s Ted Talk, ‘Know Your Inner Saboteurs’, click here: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa

📖 Things to read

Daniel Siegel https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5

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Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri.

Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about.

In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8

To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x

To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0

To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

Dr Em - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It there? - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9

📺 Things to watch

Nathan’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3wMGTCW
Hugh’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3USSxEn
Camp Nowhere - https://bit.ly/4bM7MWA

🎧 Things to listen to

Nathans latest albums (Demons, and Miracles) - https://bit.ly/3WTbYj5 https://snd.click/miracles

🚨 To support

The Starlight Foundation - https://bit.ly/3WR1f8I

🛒 Things to buy

Tickets to Nathan’s live tour - www.nathancavaleri.com/tour
Vulnerabilitea house cards - https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

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IMPERFIX: Believing Women with Tarang Chawla

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 24 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian.

In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women.

Here are some important links from this episode.

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Mens Violence https://apple.co/3APcuGi
An imperfect chat about men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpP

📱 Things to follow

Tarang Chawla’s Instagram - https://bit.ly/4bQa8Up

🎧 Things to listen to

There’s no place like home, with Tarang Chawla https://bit.ly/3yst5Oq

🚨 For support

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.

As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.

In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.

Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l

There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here - https://apple.co/492kgsN
Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://apple.co/3Z1E4Ix
Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ
Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word…FAILURE - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk

📺 Things to watch

Tim Minchin - Play it Safe https://bit.ly/44PnJc4
Moana - https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2

🎧 Things to listen to

How i work - Amantha Imber - https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw

📖 Things to read

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm

🛒 Things to buy

The Resilience Project & Dr Em’s - 6 Month Wellbeing Journal https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK

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IMPERFIX: Dr. Kiran Martin - Leadership

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 17 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.

Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.

In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.

You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP.

To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://apple.co/4hUYThh

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Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.

Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.

When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.

In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more.

To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece

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IMPERFIX: Luke McGregor - Living With Anxiety

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 10 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we revisit our chat with Australian comedian Luke McGregor. Many of us live with Anxiety, Luke McGregor has for a lot of his life. For Luke, his anxiety became so overwhelming that it resulted in him having panic attacks on stage in front of audiences. In this clip Luke explains what anxiety looks like for him and what he now does to manage his anxiety, allowing him to continue to work and to get the most out of life.

You can hear the original episode in full, with Luke McGregor, here https://apple.co/3CGQJJq

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James Clear - Down The Habit Hole

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Every Thursday over 3 million people want to hear what James Clear has to say. They do so in the form of his ‘3-2-1 newsletter’, one of most popular newsletters on the planet. In 2018 James Clear published his book Atomic Habits, a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. And that book has now sold over 15million copies. So you won’t be surprised to hear how excited we were to have Jame Clear as this weeks guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

In this episode we learn about the importance of habits. Both the good and bad ones. We learn James’s four laws of behaviour change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make is easy, make it satisfying); the value of goals; we discuss Josh, Hugh and Ryan’s own personal history with habit setting; and how small incremental changes to your habits can set you on the path to achieving your goals and ultimately becoming the kind of person you would like to be.

You can purchase James Clear’s best selling book - Atomic Habits here, https://bit.ly/3UKx0in.

If you would like to subscribe to James’ 3-2-1 Newsletter, click here, https://bit.ly/44swR6o.

And you can find James’ habit tracking app ‘Atoms’ here https://bit.ly/4b1Pq41

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IMPERFIX: Johann Hari & Josh Talk About Addiction

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 03 May 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this episode of the IMPERFIX we revisit one of our many conversations with Johann Hari. However this IMPERFIX starts with Josh, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast, when he felt compelled to share a realisation, that he had been addicted to the internet for much of his life. Johann’s response was as always, heartfelt, engaging, hopeful and empowering. And we thought it was worth revisiting.

You can hear the episode in full here. https://bit.ly/4flaoMG

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Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

What would you do if a teacher said you couldn’t achieve your dreams because your hair and skin colour weren’t acceptable?

When this became Pallavi Sharda’s reality she moved to India by herself and became the first Australian women to lead a Bollywood movie

In this episode we meet Pallavi Sharda, a powerhouse actress, who grew up in Taylors Lakes, a suburban area in Melbourne’s west, who went on to not only clock Bollywood, but see tremendous success on screens in Australia, the UK and the US.

Pallavi is a VERY impressive person, but she grew up believing that she needed to be exceptional in order to have value in Australia. From living with racism as a second generation immigrant, to navigating Bollywood as a foreigner, Pallavi has been on a search for belonging, carving out a place in the world for herself & all future generations of ‘multi-hyphenated’ Australians.

To listen to the Audible Original podcast, Sleep Sound with Pallavi Sharda**,** follow this link: *https://bit.ly/4bhkeNV*

To watch Pallavi in 'Wedding Season' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UBUdDh

To watch Pallavi in the Australian series, 'The Twelve', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dins5j

To watch Pallavi in 'The One' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UE4GhL

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IMPERFIX: How to Live Again, with Sam Willoughby.

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 26 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this week’s ImperFIX, we revisit an episode from season 2 with Australian BMX racer, world champion and Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him a tetraplegic.

In this snippet, we hear Sam describe the bike accident that lead to his injury and his incredible journey of recovery. Most importantly, he shares how meeting NASCAR crew chief, Booty Barker, inspired him to live life again.

You can hear the full chat with Sam Willoughby here https://apple.co/4gfVA2L

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Dr Emily - Joy Decision

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Have you ever felt so elated, that in that very moment, you felt yourself and the world around you were in perfect harmony? That feeling is joy!

But for many of us, ‘joy’ can seem elusive, almost impossible to experience, or an emotion that we feel we just don’t have time for. And for some of us, it may feel like we have lost the ability to experience joy altogether.

In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Em explores the experience of Joy. What is it and how we can tap into it. We learn how mobilising joy is and how infectious and connecting it can be.

Because as Dr Em explains, we are often surrounded by joy in our everyday lives, but don’t pause long enough to see it.

This is an incredibly powerful, uplifting conversation, but it may be difficult to listen to if you're currently experiencing hardship or trauma. If you'd like to skip this one, we encourage you to come back when you're ready.

To watch this episode on youtube follow this link: https://youtu.be/JPJ5UXm-5LI

To listen to Gina Chick’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8

To hear Sean Turnell’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UaXmJ3

To stream Inside Out on Disney+ follow this link https://bit.ly/49C7gc7

To read the Betoota Advocate follow this link https://bit.ly/3JkO3kC, or you can read The Onion here https://bit.ly/3U1SUfg.

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An Imperfect Chat About Men

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 18 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this bonus episode of The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh have an imperfect conversation about mens violence against women.

To say it's a massive problem in Australia is an understatement. Violence and aggression can take many forms that span from small micro-aggressions all the way through to rape and murder. It effects ALL women, with the most vulnerable and marginalised in our community, at the greatest risk. We don’t have the answers to solve it. But we don’t want to remain silent. Through this conversation and many more we'll have on the podcast, it’s our hope that more men start to have the conversation as well.

You can follow Penny Moodie’s advocacy on instagram here, https://bit.ly/3JIBf81.

To listen to our previous episode on consent with Chanel Contos follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm

Or to purchase Chanel's book, Consent Laid Bare, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49BNDRC

To listen to our previous conversation about men’s violence with Tarang Chawla follow this link: https://apple.co/3APcuGi

To learn more about this problem or we recommend Our Watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV & White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

If you are a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

Or, you can call SafeSteps, Victoria's 24/7 family violence crisis service, on 1800 015 188, or visit this link: https://bit.ly/4b1SlsQ. They can provide financial and material aid, pet safety support and court advocacy, as well as support to people with a disability.
Or, for further support, contact The Orange Door, who can link you with family violence and parental support services: https://bit.ly/3Q8efTb

If you need support now, use Ask Izzy: a free website and service that connects people in need with housing, a meal, money help, family violence support & counselling: https://bit.ly/3xAVnG4

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Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

In this episode, Scottish comedian, Fern Brady joins us in the The Vulnerabilitea House.

In pulling the card “how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?”, Fern shares a very recent story, after receiving a terrifying phone call from her doctor.

Fern also discusses being diagnosed with Autism in her 30s, 20 years after telling a doctor she thought she was Autistic.

Fern talks with with great insight and humour, not only about life since her diagnosis, but what it was like living for 30 years with Autism and not knowing - always feeling different to the average person…yet having no idea why.

She's an all round brilliant human and we know you are going to love this conversation as much as we did!

To watch the full episode on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/-DLkVQj8N34

To purchase Fern’s book, 'Strong Female Character', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4aSot20.

To see Fern’s Comedy special on Netlfix follow this link: https://bit.ly/49AkQNp.

And you can see Fern’s hilarious promo featuring her dad, here https://bit.ly/3vVRb3a

There are still tickets available Fern’s antipodean Live tour “I gave you milk to drink”. Tickets still available in Sydney https://bit.ly/49usjgM, & NZ https://bit.ly/3TYM0r9.

To learn more about the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Lanyard Fern talks about in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q466iC

You can purchase the book Aspergirls by Rudy Simone here https://bit.ly/3QmYKXZ, and you can stream Six Feet Under here https://bit.ly/3TTZRiD.

To try Sam Harris’s meditation app you can follow this link: https://bit.ly/4d7HrUz
Or to read his book Lying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3vGDHIK

To see Susan Boyle’s Britain’s Got Talent Audition, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VTeKUY

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IMPERFIX: Imposter Syndrome with Hamish Blake

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 10 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Imposter syndrome and self doubt aren’t necessarily things you think when you think of Australian comedian Hamish Blake. However when Hamish visited us for a VulnerabilTea House in season 4, that’s exactly what came up.

In this episode of The IMPERFIX, we revisit a vulnerable moment where Josh shared his very real self doubt about his role on the show. This evolves into a beautiful conversation about the self doubt we all feel in the work we do, and culminates in Hamish dropping one of the greatest analogies of all time.

To listen to the full episode with Hamish Blake, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz

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Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Apr 2024 20:00:00 -0000

Imagine being falsely imprisoned, in a foreign country, where you barely speak the language, during a military coup, with no guarantee of a trial (fair or otherwise) and no idea whether you’ll ever be allowed home?

That's what Australian economist Sean Turnell lived through for 650 days, when in 2021 he was arrested during a military coup over-throwing the democratic government of Aang san Suu Kyi.

Sean is a remarkable person and a brilliant story teller who radiates positivity. In this episode, he describes in horrifying, and yet often beautiful, detail his ordeal in the Myanmar prison system.

Through Sean’s story we get a unique perspective…and a shining example of how resilient the human spirit can be.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Jts7nD

To purchase Sean's book, An Unlikely Prisoner, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMyFlJ

To purchase Kylie Moore Gilberts book, The Uncaged Sky, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMbNCV

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IMPERFIX: Jamila Rizvi on Living with a Brain Tumour

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 19:00:00 -0000

In 2018, writer, author & change advocate Jamila Rizvi was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour and needed surgery.
In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit Jamila’s story; the tumour and its varied complications, the surgeries and how Jamila and her husband communicated the news to their son.

Jamila is an all round wonderful human being and this is an incredibly moving episode.
You can hear the entire chat with Jamila here: https://apple.co/4icJmtx

This episode includes a discussion about disordered eating, if you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

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Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version Of Me

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 31 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

We’re not sure if podcasts can date. But if they could we would want to date Elizabeth Day’s podcast - ‘How to fail?’. (A proposition Hugh awkwardly put to Elizabeth in the final moments of the show).

This conversation covers a lot of ground. Elizabeth vulnerably discusses her journey through infertility, IVF and her eventual decision to stop fertility treatment; we explore the role exercise and strength training can have in reclaiming one's connection to their body; Ryan and Elizabeth bond over a love of reality TV; and there’s much much more.

It’s fair to say there was a lot of chat and a lot of love in the room for this one.

Elizabeth Day is a Journalist, podcaster and author. The podcast ‘How to fail’ is a brilliant (and wildly successful…ironically) pod that shares intimate conversations with guests about their experiences with failure. And we couldn't recommend it any more highly.

You can find links to Elizabeth’s podcast, her books and everything else she is doing here https://bit.ly/3VCnSNE.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/b01GMVnoRuk

We encourage you to visit your local bookstore to purchase any of the books mentioned in this episode, but you can also find them here.

Friendaholic - Elizabeth Day https://bit.ly/4a7PzCk.
Strength to strength - Arthur C Brooks https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD

And you can listen to our episode of The Imperfects with Pat Cummins here: https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ

This episode discusses fertility treatments, miscarriage, grief and acceptance. If these topics feel like too much for you to hear right now, please revisit this episode when you are ready.

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IMPERFIX: Truth vs Harmony with Dr Em

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 27 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit one of our most popular episodes ever and in it, a topic that is very close to Hugh, Ryan and Josh’s respective bones. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? And how does living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

To listen to the full Truth Vs Harmony episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IW3gbw

To listen to Hamish Blake's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz

And to hear the follow up bonus episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3AStVpg

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

Very few people have experienced Gary Barlow’s level of success and fame. He’s the lead singer of the nineties British pop band Take That, he’s won 6 Ivor Novello Awards for song writing & composing, sold more the 50 million albums and filled stadiums of screaming fans across the world! But despite all this, as we’ve come to learn, he’s one of the nicest, most genuine people going around.

In this episode, Gary shares his experience of rising to such fame, and what happens when he lost it.

He opens up about the devastating burden of jealousy between him and bandmate Robbie Williams, his journey with disordered eating, the loss of his daughter Poppy and the love of his life, the one constant through it all - his wife.

So sit back and pour yourself a cup of vulnerabilitea, this is a big one.

To buy tickets to Take That’s upcoming tour of Australia and New Zealand visit: https://bit.ly/3INExGA.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4crzmJT

To hear Ryan’s episode on shame & jealousy, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/4gWYZEs

To hear Hamish Blake’s episode on his friendship with Ryan & Hugh, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz

To listen to Gina Chick’s episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8

The Robbie Williams documentary is available on Netflix: https://bit.ly/493WWta.

For film recommendation ‘Salt Burn’ follow this link: https://apple.co/3x3GvQp.

To purchase your own set of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

This episode with Gary Barlow includes a discussion about disordered eating and a conversation about a child who was delivered still born. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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IMPERFIX: Christian O'Connell's Panic Attacks

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 20 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

In 2018, Christian O Connell was one of the most successful people in British Radio, he was on top of his world, and then…the panic attacks began. The attacks got so bad and so regular that he couldn’t perform live and it nearly cost him his career.

In this episode, we revisit Christian’s experience, the physical and mental toll of his panic attacks as well as the societal pressures and expectations he felt as a man - his need to appear strong and provide for his family.

And we hear how he eventually sought for help and started rebuilding his life.

To hear the full episode with Christian, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fY1C7W

You can purchase a copy of Christian’s book here: https://bit.ly/3IKdFqI

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Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

“Get your butterflies in formation”. If you take one thing away from this episode, it’s how to handle the nervous, anxious, flutter of stomach butterflies that arises when we’re socially anxious.

Social interactions can be challenging. You may believe that everyone else has all their shit figured out and can effortlessly walk into a social situation and just be themselves. But it turns out, we all, at some point, get social anxiety.

In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily, delves deeper into what it means to experience social anxiety, before during & after a social situation. She explores the ways in which anxiety shows up, where it might come from and what we can do to “get our butterflies in formation”.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/I53wE7epCX0

To listen to Dr Emily's episode on The Inner Critic, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9

To listen to Dr Emily's episode on Rejection Sensitivity, follow this link: https://apple.co/4i1qixZ

To purchase The Resilience Project's gratitude & wellbeing journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

To learn more about the four domains of social anxiety & read David Moscovitch's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43fDuIy

To learn more about The Spotlight Effect & see research Dr Em sited by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Husted Medvec, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cd4Rr0

For book recommendation, How To be Yourself, by Ellen Hendriksen and to learn more about her free online course 'Rise Above Social Anxiety', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TAol1o

To dive deeper into Lisa Feldman Barret's work, including the research on reframing anxiety as arousal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VhjuTV

To learn more about Safety Behaviours and their role in social anxiety, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3wTqBIp & https://bit.ly/43hfp4a & https://bit.ly/3vhjR6o

To participate in a free Cognitive Behavioural Therapy study run by The Black Dog Institute & UNSW, aimed at reducing social anxiety, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49cvV6M

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IMPERFIX: Kate Langbroek on The Risks of Love

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person. We absolutely love her, and we’re clearly not alone. Kate, has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel; with her mate Hughesy on the radio; or in countless podcasts, and radio shows since.
On this episode of The Imperfix, we revisit, when in 2022, Kate generously shared with us what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now.

To hear the full episode with Kate, follow this link https://apple.co/4fy5o84

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Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

World leading organisational psychologists, Adam Grant is this week's guest in The Academy of Imperfection and honestly, we can’t believe how much ground the brilliant man managed to cover in this episode.

I mean, sure, you might expect him to touch on the value of embracing our imperfections. Or perhaps he might explore imposter syndrome & the importance in believing in others' belief in yourself. Or how procrastination can actually be a creative force. Or maybe even some tips for those of us who have found ourselves languishing.

All of this might seem pretty reasonable stuff to cover. However you might not expect a deep dive into the lessons learned from a junior olympic diving career or an actual magic trick! This ep covers it all…and much much more.

To watch this episode on youtube (and see the magic trick) follow this link: https://youtu.be/s2sY3-mT-u8

If you’re interested in hearing more from Adam, the best place to start is his website: https://adamgrant.net

Recommended books & articles mentioned in the episode:

Hidden Potential, The Science of Achieving Greater Things, by Adam Grant: https://bit.ly/3wBynWW
Give and Take, A Revolutionary Approach to Success, by Adam Grant: https://bit.ly/3TrKwqI
Creativity Inc: Overcoming Unseen Forces That Stand In The Way of True Inspiration, by Ed Catmull: https://bit.ly/49ZgNur
Born Standing Up: A Comics Life, by Steve Martin: https://bit.ly/3TnZTjK
It’s Called Languishing (article) by Adam Grant https://nyti.ms/48J86Uf

Listen to Adam’s interview with Steve Martin on his ReThinking Podcast: https://bit.ly/3Tosvtb and transcript: https://bit.ly/3T3cKXa

To watch Matthew Mitcham’s dive, follow think link: https://bit.ly/3InmPJJ

To listen to our episode with Dr Emily on Truth vs Harmony, follow this link: https://apple.co/40pgYO7

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IMPERFIX: Ben Crowe's Purpose

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 06 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

In this inaugural episode of the imperfix, Hugh takes us back to our very first Academy of Imperfection, where special guest Ben Crowe explores what it actually means to define your purpose. We discuss Ryan, Hugh & Ben’s purposes, how they defined them, and how important they are in shaping their respective every-days. We also delve a little deeper into Josh’s seeming ‘lack of purpose’ and find that he might actually have a bit more purpose there than he realises.

To hear the full episode, the first time Ben visited The Imperfects click here https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN

For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

You can listen to the Ted Talk 'Finding your purpose in 5 minutes' here https://bit.ly/3T5LkQF

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Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0000

They say that by the time he retires, Pat Cummins could be one of Australia’s most successful cricket captains. And if 2023 is anything to go by, "they" might be right. Pat captained the team winning The ODI World Cup, The ICC World Test Championship and retaining The Ashes. And individually, he was not only named The ICC Men's Cricketer of the Year, but also signed a record-breaking contract to play in India in the IPL this year. So yeah, Pat wins a lot.

But this episode isn't just about cricket. Because as Pat talks about with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he's lost a lot as well - especially in his personal life. Most notably, Pat tragically lost his mother Maria to cancer last year (2023), which he opens up about here, sharing how important life is outside of cricket - an approach that's trickled through to the entire team.

If you love cricket (maybe even as much as Hugh & Josh), or just want to hear how someone deals with struggles while at the top of their game, this is a special episode.

If you enjoyed this episode, you might like our episodes with:

To listen to Nick Cave on Rick Ruben's podcast Tetragrammaton, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ThOxhf

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3P8Whzy

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A Very Imperfect Welcome Back

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 19:00:00 -0000

We’re back… almost! As has become tradition, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a formal welcome back episode to chat about the season ahead.

They talk about their brand new extra weekly episode called The ImperFIX, the show’s foray into YouTube, aaaand just build general hype around the exciting upcoming guests on the show.

Oh. And Hugh demonstrates his brand new sleeping position.

It’s so, so good to be back.

To watch this episode on YouTube (and see Hugh's sleeping position), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IcHHDn

To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

To purchase tickets to The Imperfects Live Show, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49Is3ev

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Lael Stone - Parent Yourself First

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0000

To look after our loved ones, we need to start by looking after ourselves. And according to parenting expert Lael Stone, that means looking back and showing compassion to our younger selves.

In this b-b-b-bonus summer episode we’re very lucky to have Lael back for a third time (her previous episodes are linked below) as we prepare for a new year with new challenges.

But don’t worry. You’ll be ready for anything after an hour with Lael Stone.

To learn more about Lael and her work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RXZvg

To learn more about Lael's school, Woodline Primary, follow this link: https://bit.ly/487YAKj

To hear our first two episodes with Lael, follow these links:

Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself: https://apple.co/4eAJNuw
Lael Stone - Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans: https://apple.co/3V2vuIb

To hear our episode with Gina Chick, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UKpxQ8

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Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Heads up: Mrs Claus is VERY close friends with comedian, Urzila Carlson. As such, this Special Christmas Episode is definitely not appropriate for kids.

Last year, we were honoured to sit down with the one and only Santa Claus as he joined us in The Vulnerabilitea House. A big thank you to Glenn Robbins for organising that interview for us! Link below if you missed it.

This year, Hugh, Josh and Ryan meet the woman who claims to be the brains behind the operation, Mrs Claus (or is it Ms Claus?). In a very busy time of the year for her, she generously picks a few cards from the Vulnerabilitea House card deck and shares what really goes down behind the scenes on… The Pole.

The Imperfects will donate all ad revenue from this episode to Urzila Carlson's charity of choice, Women’s Refuge. They are New Zealand's largest nationwide organisation that supports and helps women and children experiencing family violence. If you'd like to know more about the charity, or make a donation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41lUUTd

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48fzwlf

To see Urzila Carlson live in 2024, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RdhAn

To listen to last years Vulnerabilitea House episode with Santa Claus, follow this link: https://apple.co/40Y7HNs. Or to watch it, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41or14A

To listen to Urzila's podcast, That's Enough Already, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RDowb6

To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

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Dr Emily - Merry Not-Enoughmas

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

For some people, Christmas Day is the most wonderful time of the year. But for others, catching up with friends and family at this time of the year can lead to pain and sadness and as Dr Emily describes it, an overwhelming feeling of “not-enoughness”.

In this special bonus episode, Dr Emily explains where this feeling comes from and why it pops up year after year. But as always she gives us some helpful advice on what we can do to address it and feel a little less alone this Christmas.

So from us to you, on this Season Finale… Merry Not-Enoughmas.

To find volunteering opportunities through Australian Volunteers, or Seek Volunteer, follow these links: https://bit.ly/41kiTSv & https://bit.ly/3NmkbXl

For anyone in WA, you can also find group activities and volunteer opportunities through Act, Below, Commit, by following this link: https://bit.ly/3uYD3W0

For book recommendation, The Stress Prescription, 7 Days To More Joy and Ease, by Elissa Epel, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47OjU81

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Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Dec 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Dear Men,
Please listen to this episode about consent and rape culture.
Hugh, Ryan & Josh x

On the face of it, this Academy of Imperfection with Chanel Contos may seem like a heavy episode. An episode about consent, rape culture and sexual violence might not seem like an episode that concerns you. That may be true, but if the #MeToo movement taught us anything, it’s that you probably know someone who’s either been raped or sexually assaulted in some way.
We have a lot to learn about consent, and we owe it to the women in our lives to listen to Chanel Contos.

To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

To purchase Chanel's book, 'Consent Laid Bare', follow this link: https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh

Recommended TV series, Sex Education and Heart Break High can be viewed on Netflix.

To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid', follow this link: https://bit.ly/49XPFgh

If you have experienced, or are at risk of sexual violence, sexual assault, family or domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are feeling unsafe, always call the police on 000.

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Gina Chick - Don't Fight Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Gina Chick grew up… different. She wasn’t like the other kids, and they let her know about it. But as an adult she learned to see her “different” as a strength, which led to her most well-known achievement, outlasting everyone else for 67 days in the Tasmanian wilderness to win ALONE Australia.

But as you’ll hear, that’s only a part of her story - as is the fact that she’s very close friends with Hugh Jackman.

After going through some of the lowest lows a human can experience, Gina learned the power of discomfort and is here to spread the word in our very first ever outdoor episode!

To learn more about Gina, her rewilding camps and 5Rythyms dance, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QRnkzq

To watch Alone Australia, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Rd3m3

This episode includes a discussion about the loss of a child, if this feels like it might be too much for you to listen to right now, feel free to come back to it when you're feeling up to it.

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Hamish Macdonald - How To Be You

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

As co-host of The Project, Hamish Macdonald has seen and done more than most journalists could ever dream to achieve in their entire career.

Before The Project and a stint hosting ABC’s Q+A program, Hamish worked and reported around the world from war zones to natural disasters, winning a bunch of prestigious awards including a coveted Walkley Award in the process.

But as he discusses with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he’s also faced bullying throughout his life, whether that be from students during his high school days, or from online trolls during his Q+A days - a challenging experience that drove him to leave social media forever.

This open and honest chat covers it all, and turns out to be a pretty handy, albeit accidental guide on How To Be You.

To listen to Hamish's new podcast, Take Me To Your Leader, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ukzpph

To listen to our episode with Missy Higgins, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fVM8Bo

To listen to our episode on stress and burnout with Dr Emily, follow this link: https://apple.co/3CE41WT

To listen to Josh's song, We Were Here, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

To read article recommendation, Why The Internet Isn't Fun Anymore, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FZGnTh

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Dr Louise Newson - Maybe it’s Menopause

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Menopause, or THE Menopause according to our guest lecturer Dr Louise Newson, affects every woman at some point in her life. That’s 51% of the entire world! And even if you’re not a woman, chances are you know a few of them.

Either way, the menopause IS coming. And you better be ready.

Dr Louise Newson is a GP and Menopause specialist who is campaigning for better menopause care for all women. But despite her specialisation and regular lecturing on the subject, even she didn’t pick up on the signs when her own menopause kicked in and convinced her she hated her own husband!
This episode isn’t just everything you need to know about your own menopause, this is everything you need to know about your wife’s/mother’s/daughter’s/sister’s/friend’s/colleague’s menopause.

To learn more about Louise, her work and to access more information on the menopause and peri-menopause, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49rgqJH

To download Louise's Balance app, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS

To learn more and purchase Dr Louise's books, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ueOQ2p

For Australian support, information & research, visit the below websites:

WellFemme is a Telehealth menopause clinic, providing evidence-based menopause information and treatment in collaboration with your GP: https://bit.ly/3FYcAdn
Menopause Friendly provides information and practical resources to support staff experiencing menopausal symptoms at work and helps managers and HR professionals understand how they can provide the right support to their workforce: https://bit.ly/49rgx85
VITAL is an innovative research project that women can take part in to map the experience of Australian women around peri/menopause. It operates as a registry that collects data via a questionnaire. This data could determine how best to support the population and the research is run by Assoc Prof Erin Morton at Flinders University: https://bit.ly/3QQydTl

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see your doctor, a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dr Emily - Who Do You Desire?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Nov 2023 19:00:00 -0000

We know, we know, we know. ‘Who Do You Desire? is a very click-baity title. But we’re pretty confident that if you DO take the bait (come onnnn), you’ll be nicely rewarded.

In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Mimetic Desire - the idea that whether we like it or not, pure originality is impossible. All of us are being influenced by someone. The question is, are we proud of the someones currently influencing us, or does our influencer list need a shake up?

Once again, Dr Emily has the answers.

For book recommendation, 'Wanting, Mimetic Desire: How to Avoid Chasing the Things You Don't Want', by Luke Burgis, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QIpFOm

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Steve Hooker - The Ups & Downs & Ups

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 29 Oct 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Not many of us have won Olympic Gold. And even fewer of us have jumped over a 6m high bar. But Australian pole vaulting champion Steve Hooker has done both. And boy oh boy does he have a story to tell!? That was rhetorical btw, he definitely does have a story to tell.

What would you do if you were the best in the world at something one day, and then the next day you suddenly couldn’t do that thing anymore?? At all. That’s pretty much what happened to Steve. And on this episode he tells childhood friends Hugh and Josh, along with newhood friend Ryan, how he was able to get through that and how it affected his mental health.

To donate to the Community Spirit Foundation through the sMile relay event, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Sg33WL

To buy ticket's to the Zatopek race where Hugh, Steve, Brendan and Simon will be attempting to break the 400m relay record (in the mens 40-44 age group), follow this link (and remember use the code "theimperfects" at the top of the ticket listing for $5 of the proceeds to be donated to the Community Spirit Foundation): https://bit.ly/473VKW8

To watch Steve's winning jump in the 2008 Beijing Olympics, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40cDuYl

To watch the pink dildo security camera footage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40dbF2c

For app recommendation, Calm, (compassion and loving kindness meditations), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MhcRMe

For book recommendation, Positivity, by Barbra Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FxjBSf

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Lewis Hobba - Success Is Never Enough

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 Oct 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Lewis Hobba grew up idolising Triple J. But despite being chosen as Triple J’s drive-time co-host by the age of 30, and being selected by Andrew Denton as one of Australia’s most creative and talented young performers for the show Hungry Beast, Lewis never felt like he succeeded in anything.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Lewis tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like behind the scenes for him during this time and how he dealt with crippling anxiety on a daily basis until eventually seeking help.

To listen to Lewis's podcast 'Silver Bullet', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ScFmyB

To hear Ryan's episode where he talks about shame, jealousy and finding his purpose, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46AfnW3

To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

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Taryn Brumfitt - Every Body Is Perfect

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Oct 2023 20:00:00 -0000

As Australian of the Year, Taryn Brumfitt is making a massive impact on an issue that effects people everywhere… BODY IMAGE.

Not only is Taryn a body image campaigner, she’s also a documentarian, having made two docos encouraging us to EMBRACE our bodies, not matter what they look like. We highly recommend you watch them - links below.

In this Academy of Imperfection, Taryn talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her own body image journey, including a vulnerable Before & After image of herself that broke the internet and changed her life. Don’t worry they fixed the internet soon after.

Taryn Brumfitt's documentary Embrace is available on Netflix, Stan, Amazon Prime, Youtube, Google Play & Apple TV.

Embrace Kids is available on Binge, Foxtel, Apple TV, Google Play & Amazon Prime.

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Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 Oct 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Tim Minchin is an Australian comedian, actor, writer, musician, poet, composer, and songwriter. He’s probably best known for his music, his comedy, and well… his ‘Matilda: The Musical’… but has it really all been “luck”?

Tim talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about so many different things in this fascinating chat about art and creativity, family, free-will, success, failure and the importance of taking life one level at a time.

For tickets to Tim's new show, An Unfunny Evening with Tim Minchin and His Piano, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZxAGVs
To watch Tim perform White Wine in The Sun, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RzwORS
To purchase The Resilience Project's journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

To listen to our episode with Dr James van Cuylenburg, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZFS0YA

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Vulnerability Update: Josh Wrote a Song!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 04 Oct 2023 20:00:00 -0000

If you know, you know. And if you do know, you’re just as bonkers excited as we are.

Buuut if you don’t know, that’s totally fine too.

Those that were able to make it along to our Live On Stage show this year were treated to the debut performance of a song, written and performed by our very own Josh van Cuylenburg. But this song was not without context.

In Season 3 Josh shared a vulnerable story from 13 years ago that resulted in him losing the confidence to realise his lifelong dream of writing music (link to that episode below). But when we were planning our Live on Stage Show, we asked Josh to consider writing and performing an original song. And ohhhhh boy… HE DELIVERED.

Today we are very proud and excited to announce that “We Were Here” has not only been recorded, but the song is now available on Spotify, with a seriously moving official music video that you can WATCH on YouTube. Links below.

To listen to Josh's song on Spotify, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

To watch the film clip on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuMrC0AZ4ko

To listen to the original Vulnerabilitea House episode where Josh first talked about losing his confidence to write music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tdYkKI

To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

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Dan Sultan - Stopping The Bullshit

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Oct 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Eastern Arrernte and Gurindji singer/songwriter Dan Sultan is a 5-time ARIA Award winner and respected stalwart of the Australian music industry.

But alongside his creative achievements, is Dan’s struggle with addiction. Dan talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about everything from the adversity he’s faced on and off the stage, to the joy he now gets from his young family, and his ongoing love of creativity.

To purchase or listen to Dan's new album, Dan Sultan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZBv9NQ
To watch Paul Keating's historic Redfern speech that Josh mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EVltnA
To listen to our episode with Brooke Blurton, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/459k1c6

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Jack's Gambling Addiction Story

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 27 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

For Jack, it’s progress, not perfection when it comes to his battle with gambling addiction.
This one is a slightly different episode for The Imperfects. Jack isn’t a celebrity, or an expert. But he is a person with imperfections, just like everyone else. And Jack has been kind enough to share his all-too-familiar story with Hugh, Ryan and Josh.
Jack discusses his crippling battle with sports gambling, his experience at rehab, and how he was finally able to escape his life of keeping secrets.
Jack’s story of gambling addiction is not a story we hear often, but it’s sadly a very common one - particularly in Australia

To contact Gambler Helpline, call 1800 858 858
To learn more about BetStop, and the national self exclusion register, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zzub4l

To learn more about Gamblers Anonymous, and find GA meetings near you, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZuXmpn
For app recommendation, My Spiritual Toolkit, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RCa04a

For mindfulness, meditation and sleep app recommendation, Calm, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RxzIGV

This episodes contains a discussion around addiction and mentions suicidal thoughts, if this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, we recommend skipping this one and only listening when you feel ready.

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Dr Emily - Other People Matter

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Dr Emily is back - and once again proving why she is increasingly becoming the most popular person on The Imperfects.

This Emisode is all about a fundamental part of Positive Psychology… the beautiful idea that OTHER PEOPLE MATTER.

Now, you’re probably thinking… of course other people matter, right? Seems pretty obvious. But here, Dr Emily explains what it is about ‘other people’, that matters so much, and how much it relates to our never-ending search for that elusive thing we call “happiness”.

To learn more about positive psychology and Christopher Peterson's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3t7AvnP

To learn more about the impact of physical touch to build trust and corporation and to read about the NBA basketball study mentioned in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48puJ0R

To learn more about Eudimonic and hedonistic happiness, and Martin Seligman's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PRs88w

For Josh's recommendation, This Is Water, by David Foster Wallace, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eC7xzavzEKY&t=6s

For book recommendation, 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tbjkl0

For book recommendation, 'The Courage To Be Disliked', by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga, follow this link: https://bit.ly/452d8cA

For book recommendation, 'On Living', by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3rz3tfE

For book recommendation, 'Love 2.0' by Barbara Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48psM4B

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Brooke Blurton - The Path Of Most Resilience

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

To only say that Brooke Blurton was on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, would not only be a crime to Show Notes, but a huge disservice to you. As Hugh, Ryan and Josh quickly discover, that doesn’t even scratch the surface of what makes Brooke the inspiring, resilient, game-changing, youth-working, breath of fresh air that she is.

While Brooke does touch on her Bachelor and Bachelorette experiences (and why she decided to do it), what makes this Vulnerabilitea House truly special is the story that she vulnerably tells about her upbringing in WA. An traumatic experience that no doubt changed her forever, but one that she now says she wouldn’t change.

To watch Brooke's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46fdGwB

To listen to Brooke's podcast, Not So PG, with co-host Matty Mills, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PG88FR

To purchase Brooke's memoir, Big Love, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45PfSLs

To learn more about the Uluru Statement of The Heart and The Voice, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3Pmd69F & https://bit.ly/3Rs7T2y

To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

This episode contains a conversation which mentions sexual assault and suicide. If this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

Additionally, if are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

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Penny Moodie's New Book - OCD & Finding Joy Again

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Penny Moodie first shared her OCD story on The Imperfects in 2020. Since then, we and she have been flooded with incredible feedback from OCD sufferers who finally felt seen. Now Penny is back because she’s written an incredible book about OCD called The Joy Thief and it’s out now (link below).
In this beautifully moving episode, Penny talks openly with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about some of the confronting moments from her book.
The reason Penny calls OCD ‘the joy thief’ is because it attempts to steal so much of the joy from your life. In Penny’s case, it almost stole her blossoming relationship with Hugh in the early days, and as a child it tried to take the one thing she held most sacred - the safety of her mother.
This may be a b-b-b-bonus episode, but it’s also a v-v-v-very special one.

To purchase Penny's book, The Joy Thief, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RkMTuC

To learn more about OCD and to access resources to assist with getting help and how to manage it, follow these links:

So OCD - https://soocd.com.au/
This Way Up - https://thiswayup.org.au/
The International OCD Foundation: https://iocdf.org/

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Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Food is such a mystery. Well, I mean, it’s the stuff we eat when we’re hungry, we know that much. But there are so many mysterious things ABOUT food. Like… What actually are healthy foods? What are good fats? Is meat good for you? Is orange juice really that bad? And can food truly be as effective as medicine?

Professor Tim Spector has done all the research, written books (link below) and is one of the world’s top 100 most cited scientists. Tim really knows about food and he really wants to help all of us eat better and feel happier.

And he’s here to answer all of the questions from students Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Academy of Imperfection.

To purchase Tim's book, Food for Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EvBP6c
To learn more about Tim, his other books and his research, follow this link: https://tim-spector.co.uk/
To learn more about Zoe, Tim's personalised nutrition company, follow this link; https://zoe.com/

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Grant Denyer - Self-Worth Was Worth Fighting For

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Sep 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Whether it was Family Feud or whether it was the weather, Grant Denyer has been a larger than life fixture on Australian TV for 25 years. But it hasn’t all been big smiles and Gold Logies.

In this raw and vulnerable chat with the most joyous man on the telly, Grant opens up about his past dependence on the pain medication (OxyContin) that he needed after suffering a serious injury that broke his back. He tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how that dependence not only jeopardised his career, but his marriage and family.

While this is a side of Grant Denyer that you may not know, it is a story of hope and resilience about a successful (and loveable) man who nearly lost it all… but found enough strength and self-worth to fight for his life.

To watch Grant's Gold Logie acceptance speech, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EmsIEL
To watch the trailer for Painkiller on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3R5H308
To listen to Grant's podcast, It's All True, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4bN6ATO

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Dr Emily - Friendship 4 Eva

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Aug 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Monica. Chandler. Rachel. Ross. Phoebe. Joey. We all love Friends. But what about friendSHIPS? Why are our friendships so important to us?

In this episode, Dr Emily explains everything - our different types of friends, why they matter SO much, and what it is about someone that makes us like them? (Spoiler alert: it’s got nothing to do with how impressive they are)

To listen to Will McMahon's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3E9qfxF

To listen to 360's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45p6qy7

To learn more and read some of Robin Dunbar's research, follow these links: https://bit.ly/45KyDiy & https://bit.ly/45KKjls

To learn more about William Rawlin's work around expectations in friendships, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OOaZLj

To learn more about The Beautiful Mess Effect, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qNcSA2

For book recommendation, 'Platonic, The Surprising New Science of Making and Keeping Friends As an Adult', by Marisa Franco, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GZU5v

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Aug 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Myf Warhurst is an icon. An Australian icon. Everyone, we have an icon on our podcast.

From Spicks & Specks to Triple J, and Eurovision to Bluey… oh and doing a whole show about menopause… HER menopause… Australia has LOVED Myf Warhurst for a long, long time.

You might even think it’s impossible to love her more, well just wait until you hear her honesty and vulnerability in this Vulnerabilitea House.

Myf talks about the anxiety that comes with her line of work, how she’s dealt with the ups and downs that come with a career in the entertainment industry, and what she’s learned from the tragic loss of people close to her.

To watch The Truth About Menopause with Myf Warhurst, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47C1nMo

To listen to Myf's podcast, 'Bank On' with Zan Rowe, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YFBIyc

To purchase Myf's memoir, Time of My Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OIOjMp

To listen to Chrissie Swan's Imperfects episode that Myf talks about, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO

This episode contains a discussion about suicide. If this feels like it's too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

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Osher Günsberg- In & Out Of Control

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Aug 2023 20:00:00 -0000

For 20 years, Osher Günsberg has been one of Australia’s most famous and successful TV/radio/podcast personalities. Since hosting the wildly popular Australian Idol, to handing out roses on The Bachelor (and SO MUCH in between), there aren’t many showbiz stories that rival Osher’s sustained success.

But if we’ve learned anything on this podcast, behind every perfect story is an imperfect reality. And as you’ll hear in this honest chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Osher’s journey has been exactly that... imperfect.

Osher talks about his struggle with alcohol addiction, his relationship with control, and living with ADHD. He also explains why he decided to change his name at the height of his fame.

To listen to Osher's podcast, Better Than Yesterday, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YuYEjN

For book recommendation, Emotional Agility, by Susan David, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3KF6GAV

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dr Richard Harris - “That Thing In Thailand”

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Aug 2023 20:00:00 -0000

While our guest might humbly refer to his heroics as “that thing in Thailand”, it was in fact far more significant…

In 2018, the world was gripped by the terrifying story of thirteen boys who were miraculously saved from inside a Thai cave. Maybe you’ve seen one of the billion docos made about it, or the Hollywood film directed by Ron Howard. As you probably already know, the most miraculous part was HOW these boys were saved, thanks in large part to today’s guest, Australian deep-diving anaesthetist, Dr Richard “Harry” Harris.

In this fascinating Academy of Imperfection, “Harry” answers some of the 5000 questions that Hugh, Ryan and Josh wanted to ask (but didn’t have time), and then ultimately shares some valuable insights on the art of risk.

To learn more or purchase 'The Art of Risk' by Dr Richard Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44R70EP

To listen to Dr Harris's podcast, Real Risk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OJil3Q

To learn more about the National Geographic documentary, The Rescue, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpDeEp

Documentary, 'The Trapped 13' that Dr Harris mentions in the episode in available to watch in Australia on Netflix.

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Dr Emily - When Are You Triggered?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Jul 2023 20:00:00 -0000

The phrase, “That’s triggering” or “I’m triggered”, has become more and more common. And while people are triggered by an event, or a topic, or even a scene in a TV show, what does it truly mean to be ‘triggered’? And should we really be avoiding triggering topics, or should we be exposing ourselves to them?

In this extremely helpful episode, Dr Emily goes deep on triggers. She explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it means to actually be ‘triggered’, and how we often use the term incorrectly. She also talks about the use of Trigger Warnings in shows and podcasts, like the ones you often hear at the beginning of The Imperfects.

There’s a HEAP more fascinating information in this one so get your notebooks out and listen up to the brilliant Dr Em!

To watch Susan David's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YfosA1

To delve further into the research around trigger warnings, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3KCvObB, https://bit.ly/3Kh6uHH, https://bit.ly/3q9hBLW, https://bit.ly/3Qeuwaa, https://bit.ly/3rOVrz2, https://bit.ly/3rPrNcV

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Christie Whelan Browne - Unbreakable

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Jul 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Christie Whelan Browne is one of the funniest (and most talented) people in Australia. If you know, you know. She’s won multiple awards and done everything from stage and musical theatre, to TV drama and comedy… and most recently Dancing with the Stars.

But it’s her journey, before the #MeToo movement (and continues today) that’s making the biggest impact. Christie has rarely spoken so openly about her very public and tumultuous experience through the courts, in the media and even within her own family, as she became the face of a high-profile criminal trial and subsequent defamation trial that turned her life upside down.

Historically, making the world a better, safer and more equal place for women has never been easy. Far from it. And in this episode Christie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like for her, as she landed in the firing line while trying to protect other women like her. To us, Christie is an inspiration and we couldn’t be more grateful to her for sharing her imperfect story with us.

To watch the True Stories episode with Christie, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BV2x6Y

To view The Blessed One on Instagram, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NYEiu7

This episode discusses allegations of indecent assault, if this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

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Laura Henshaw - What Do They Think Of Me?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Jul 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Laura Henshaw has achieved a lot. Not only is she an author, law graduate and podcaster, but she is the CEO and co-founder of the wildly popular and successful health & fitness app, KIC - which she started and still runs with friend, and former Imperfects guest, Steph Claire-Smith.

But behind her success, Laura still worries what people think of her. And in this Vulnerabilitea House, she vulnerably tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh where this comes from and how this anxiety continues to crop up for her in everyday life.

We’ve got a feeling this’ll be a verrry relatable one.

To listen to Ben Crowe's episode that Laura mentions in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Ockd52

To listen to Steph Clare Smith's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46G3luN

To learn more about KIC and to download the app, follow this link: https://kicapp.com/

To listen to Laura and Steph's podcast, KICPOD, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NX7XUM

To read and purchase Laura and Steph's new book, You Take Care, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43tzMJS

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James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Jul 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Other than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode.

James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics.

This episode is not just about kids. It’s about the human experience and why we should all acknowledge and love our “wonky bricks” and make the most of our short time on this floating ball we call earth. PRESS PLAY ALREADY!

To learn more about James's work, or book into see him or another psychologist at Engage One on One, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MV947W

To learn more about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC

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Dr Emily - How to Stress Less

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Jul 2023 20:00:00 -0000

What do you do when you’re stressed? Watch the telly? Scroll the innuhnet? Fix yourself a stiff VB on the rocks?

We all feel stressed and burned out from time to time. It’s unfortunately a reality of life. But double-unfortunately, most of us don’t know how to correctly deal with it. And that’s why Dr Emily is here to help!

In this extremely practical episode, Dr Emily explains the science behind WHY we get stressed. But more importantly, she tells us what we can do to alleviate the stress and WHY it will work.

And why does she know all these things? Because she’s a… [to be sung] PSYCHOLOGIST!!!

To listen to Kate Reid's Imperfects episode, follow these links: (pt1) https://bit.ly/45wqwqQ & (pt2) https://bit.ly/3BQFAlz

For book recommendation, 'Burnout, The secret to solving the stress cycle', by Emily & Amelia Nagoski, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IGQZrY

For book recommendation 'The Joy of Movement' by Kelly McGonigal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ODdzoU

For app recommendation, 'One Sec', follow this link: https://one-sec.app/

For book recommendation, 'Mans Search for Meaning' by Victor E Frankl, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BSddDq

For further reading on The Polyvagal Theory, follow this link https://rb.gy/23wtb

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Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Jun 2023 20:00:00 -0000

You might remember Penny Moodie from her first appearance on The Imperfects when she talked about her own experience with OCD. Link below if you don’t! Well, Penny is back to talk about something else; her marriage with Hugh. Or, more specifically, and far less click-baity, the mental load in her marriage with Hugh.

“The mental load” is the cognitive effort that’s required to juggle the often invisible labour of running a household. Something that Penny noticed was becoming too much for her to handle.

In this unique episode, Hugh and Penny talk about how they dealt with this, and in doing so give us the rare opportunity to hear a real married couple talk about their real issues. All while Ryan and Josh pretend to not be on Team Penny. If you or your partner is struggling with the very real issue of mental overload, this episode is probably for you.

To learn more about Fair Play, the book, the cards and Eve Rodsky's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45uLCFS

To watch Bluey episode The Pool, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MSORzF

To read more about how breast feeding equates to a full time work load, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sLkPR

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Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 Jun 2023 20:00:00 -0000

If you live in Sydney, you probably know Wippa. He’s on NOVA every morning with Fitzy and Kate Ritchie (or 6-7pm in the rest of the country), but he's also a veteran of Australian radio, having been on air for 20 years, making his start in Port Augusta before moving to Perth, then Melbourne and now Sydney.

Wippa and Ryan have been great friends for a long time. They even co-hosted the NOVA drive show for two years with Monty Dimond in 2009 and 2010. During this time, Wippa went through one of the darkest periods of his life and leant on Ryan for support. Wippa talks about that time in this episode - how he got through it and the positives he takes out of it all these years later.

But if it’s not Wippa’s extreme vulnerability that will stay with you after this episode, it’s the truly bizarre but incredible gift that he surprises Ryan with at the end. Wow.

To watch Wippa sing 'The Confrontation' from Les Miserables with Hugh Jackman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BVhcPH

This episode contains a conversation which mentions depression and suicidal thoughts. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

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Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Jun 2023 20:41:18 -0000

We all want to be successful. But what is ‘success’? And what if we’ve been thinking about it in the wrong way?

Enter Kemi Nekvapil… back for the second time on The Imperfects!

Kemi has worked in the wellness industry for 25 years and holistic leadership for 10 years. She is a mother, a wife, an endurance athlete, a gardener, an author with three books, and a certified Dare To Lead facilitator having trained personally with the one and only Brené Brown!

In this Academy of Imperfection, Kemi joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about finding TRUE success - which… surprise, surprise… has nothing to do with your achievements or your salary.

To listen to Kemi's first Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BT7VaY

To listen to Kemi's new Audible Original podcast, Power Talks with Kemi Nekvapil, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ovvun1

To learn more about what Kemi does, and to purchase her book, 'Power, A Woman's Guide to Living and Leading Without Apology', follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sFDBt

To listen to Will McMahon Imperfects episode, mentioned in this episode follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MyMa4U

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Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 Jun 2023 22:00:00 -0000

This is Pt2 of our chat with award-winning chef and owner of Melbourne restaurant, Attica. Go back and listen to Pt 1 if you haven’t yet. It’s a doozy. As the second part, this is a double-doozy… or a... twoozy… I guess.

In this episode, Ben explains how he managed to build empathy amongst the staff at Attica through something he created called Staff Speeches. He also shares a harrowing bullying story from his childhood when his mother saved him from certain catastrophe, and finally Ben opens up for the first time publicly about his challenging journey with body image.

As one of the most respected and celebrated chefs in the world, we’re very grateful that we were able to sit down with Ben like this. He left a very positive impression on all 3 of us, for very different reasons. Thanks Ben.

To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

To listen to our episode on how to write a gratitude letter, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GtpVT

To learn more about the mountain bike riding trip that Hugh, Ben and Hamish went on, visit Blue Darby Pods Ride Tasmania or follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IEs1tg

This episode contains a graphic description of bullying experienced by our guest at a young age. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

If you or someone you know is experiencing body image issues or an eating disorder, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

For family and carer support please contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 May 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Originally from New Zealand, Ben Shewry is the head chef and owner of Melbourne-based restaurant Attica - the highly respected restaurant that has been included in the World’s 50 Best Restaurants numerous times.

Ben’s chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh was so big and so special, it needed to be split across 2 big and special episodes.

In this first big and special part, they talk about what makes Attica such a unique place, how he approaches his work, and how he deals with the anxiety that arose from his divorce.
But, what is sprinkled across everything Ben does, is his unwavering commitment to excellence and his adoration of change.

To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

For book recommendation, Kitchen Confidential, by Anthony Bourdain, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43hC7rC

To watch the trailer for 'The Menu' movie, that ben mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BPYEQC

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Dr Emily - Curb Your Perfectionism

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 May 2023 20:00:00 -0000

We’ve spent about four and a half years on this podcast telling you why we’re all imperfect. But on this episode, Dr Emily actually explains why trying to be PERFECT is… well… really bad. And not only why it’s really bad, but why perfectionism’s mere existence is stealing all the good from our lives.

Take it away Dr Emily……… PSYCHOLOGIST!

To learn more about Lynn Lyon's work around anxiety and perfectionism, follow this link: https://www.lynnlyons.com/

To hear Josh's first VulnerabiliTea House, where he talks about "the notebook" and why he struggles to write music now, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OsQVj2

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Broden Kelly - When Anger & Creativity Collide

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 May 2023 20:00:00 -0000

If you don’t know comedy sketch group Aunty Donna, then take a moment, open your local internet browser and watch their incredible stuff for a bit (some of it is linked below). Then come back and listen to this episode with Aunty Donna's, Broden Kelly.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Broden talks about his own and Aunty Donna’s creative process, and how it’s evolved over the years while working together on stage and on the telly. But at the heart of this conversation, is Broden’s vulnerability in regards to his anger - how it affected his life and work, and what he did to get on top of it, before it got on top of him.

To watch Aunty Donna's Coffee Cafe on iview, follow this link: https://bit.ly/450zgVE

To watch Aunty Donna's Real Estate Agents video, that is mentioned in the podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nTvEV4

To Listen to Broden's podcast, The Footy with Broden Kelly, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3pv8S6

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Emma Murray - How Mindfulness Actually Works

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 May 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Emma Murray is the high-performance mindset coach for the Richmond Football Club and Mum to four children.

As the founder of High-Performance Mindfulness - a company that uses mindfulness, psychology and meditation to help people perform at their best - Emma works with elite athletes, corporate executives, students and actors.

In this very practical and vulnerable episode, Emma explains how high-performance mindfulness has not only helped her clients, but also helped her when in 2016, her son Will (13 at the time) sustained a spinal cord injury that left him in a wheelchair for life.

To learn more about Emma Murray and High Performance Mindfulness, follow this link: https://www.highperformancemindfulness.com.au/

For book recommendation, The Mindful Athlete by George Mumford, follow this link: https://bit.ly/417XF8R

For book recommendation, Sacred Hoops by Phil Jackson, follow this linkhttps://bit.ly/3pcXL1L

To listen to Emma's son Will on The Dyl and Friends podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NGoGgD

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360 (Matt Colwell) - From Addiction to Authenticity

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Apr 2023 20:30:00 -0000

This extremely raw and revealing episode with Australian rapper 360 is all about authenticity. 10 years ago, 360 (Matt Colwell) was one of the most successful and respected artists in Australia. His songs and albums went multi-platinum, he was winning prestigious ARIA and APRA awards and his enormous tours sold out nationally. But what no one knew at the time, is he was simultaneously battling an addiction that nearly took his life.

Here, with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, 360 tells the whole story, including how he reached a point where he could make music and tour again in his own authentic way.

To buy tickets to 360's 2023 tour and listen to his new music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LvcjSO

To purchase book recommendation, Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LawC6D

To watch Johann Hari's Ted Talk, Everything You Know About Addiction is Wrong, follow this link: https://bit.ly/446s4qA

To watch Karen Perlmutter's Ted Talk, 'The island of sanity: Navigating through loved ones' addictions', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NagDs4

To listen to "I'm Sorry" by 360, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3V9GbaT

If you are a friend or family member of someone with an addiction, below are some support services:

The First Stop: https://thefirststop.org.au/
The Parent and Family drug support line: https://bit.ly/3neo46V
Family Drug support: https://www.fds.org.au/

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Dr Emily - How Anger Affects Us All

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0000

We all get angry. Some of us show our anger and some of us suppress it, but at the end of the day, we’re all susceptible to being angry.

In this episode, Dr Emily goes into the many aspects of anger - how it can show up in our lives, how it affects us and the people around us, and of course, what we can do about it.

If you liked this episode, you might be interested in book recommendation, When the Body Says No, The Hidden Cost of Stress, by Dr Gabor Mate: https://bit.ly/3NcTFQS

To view research and studies around emotional suppression, anger and mortality, follow these links, https://bit.ly/3UZvOGr , https://bit.ly/3H5h8zS and https://bit.ly/3LlBDup

To learn more about Chris Germer's work, around anger as information, mindfulness and self-compassion, follow this link: https://chrisgermer.com/

To lean more about Robyn Walser's work on the four components of anger and to purchase a self-directed, commitment and acceptance therapy based workbook on managing emotions and anger, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H6QINY

To listen to Tarang Chawla's Imperfects episode about men's violence against women, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3N4altS

To listen to Tarang Chawla's podcast, There's No Place Like Home, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H5w2Wy

To learn more about the Oura Ring Hugh spoke about, follow this link: https://ouraring.com/

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Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0000

What if you were one of the best swimmers in the world, but you still couldn’t beat your older sister? That’s what Olympic swimmer Bronte Campbell has been facing for most of her career with her sister, Cate Campbell.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Bronte opens up about being at the top of the professional swimming world, but still living in someone’s shadow. And how comparison stole much of the joy she might have otherwise felt. But she also describes how the perspective provided by her brother with Cerebral Palsy made her realise what’s truly important.

To listen to Libby Trickett's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MMGupL

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Some Things We Wish We Knew Earlier

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0000

This B-B-B-BONUS episode arrives thanks to Hugh - a man who claims to hate lists. At least he did until he saw a list called “40 Things I Wish I’d Known at 40” (link below).

The list of things resonated with Hugh so much, that he sent it to Ryan and Josh and they decided to do an episode about it. This is that episode. It’d be weird if it wasn’t though wouldn’t it?

There’s no guest in this one, it’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh speaking about the things from the list that spoke to each of them most.

But we’ll be back soon with a proper guest next episode!

To read the full list of 40 things from Robin Sharma, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Mzwcci
The list is originally from The Everyday Hero Manifesto, by Robin Sharma: http://bit.ly/3KCnYh7

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Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0000

When Ryan spoke about his ongoing indecision surrounding whether or not he should have children (Episode: To Breed or Not To Breed - link below), it definitely struck a chord with a lot of people who could relate. One of those people was “Parenthood Clarity Mentor” Ann Davidman, who helps people all over the world to answer the question, ‘Should I have children?’

So, as a sort-of-follow-up episode, Ann joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Academy of Imperfection to provide some much-needed guidance to anyone who is also stuck in the ‘not-knowing’!

Ann started her Parenthood Clarity Course in 1991 (link below) and it has helped thousands of parents and non-parents find the clarity they needed. So Ann certainly has some experience in the area.

To listen to Ryan's episode, To Breed or Not To Breed, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Ko2N2p

To learn more about Ann Davidman, her work and her motherhood clarity course, follow this link: https://www.motherhoodisitforme.com/

To learn more about Ann's fatherhood clarity course, follow this link: http://bit.ly/43fx7ok

To purchase the book, 'Motherhood Is It For Me?', by Ann Davidman & Denise L Carlini, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3ZZmcMU

To read Ann's article in Vox, 'Should I have kids: 6 tips to help you decide if you want to start a family', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nXj9aF

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Dilruk Jayasinha - When Drinking Stopped Being Funny

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Apr 2023 20:00:00 -0000

Dil’s rise from accountant, to one of Australia’s most successful stand-up comedians is incredible. But what might be even incredible…er is how he was able to finally get sober after years of relying on alcohol.

In this vulnerable episode, Dil reveals to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what his life was like when his drinking was out of control, and how when he stopped, it forced him to change the way approached his work and his life.

To purchase tickets to Dilruk's comedy show "Heart Stopper", follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zqxaQE
To listen to Dilruk's podcast 'Fitbet' with Ben Lomas, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3znp2jV
To listen to Dilruk's podcast, 'The Drivers Seat', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nsEwAb

To listen to Dil phone into Hamish and Andy's radio show in 2010, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZCw0fr

To watch the "Life Force" clip from Jonah Hill's documentary "Stutz" (full documentary available on Netflix), follow this link: http://bit.ly/3U1BJKw

For book recommendation 'The Tools' by Philip Stutz and Barry Michels, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3K4h8AJ

To learn more about Philip Stutz and his work, follow this link: https://www.thetoolsbook.com/

To read the article Hugh mentions, 'Exercise more effective than medicines to manage mental health', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3U5zo1p

For book recommendation, The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nFhZAr

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Dr Emily is back in the studio with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to deliver a slightly different, but extremely practical episode.

You may not be ready to see a therapist, but even the thought of it can be really overwhelming. Where do you start? Who’s the right therapist for you? What even happens once you’re in a therapy session? And which movies or TV shows get it right?

Dr Em guides us through all of that, which will hopefully help you in your journey to find the right therapy for you. Whether that be now or down the track.

If you are thinking about seeking professional support, but are not sure where to start, try the below resources:

To learn more about different types of mental health professionals and find services near you, visit Beyond Blue's Find a Mental Health Professional: http://bit.ly/3FMLyGs

To learn more about what is Medicare rebatable, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nbibXP

To learn more about counselling or to find a counsellor, visit The Australian Counselling Association: https://www.theaca.net.au/

Or, visit The Australian Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists: https://www.arcapregister.com.au/

To learn more about group therapy, visit Open Ground: https://www.openground.com.au/

For self directed workbook recommendations try:

The Mindful Self-Compassion : http://bit.ly/3Z6nsgE
The Mindful Way: http://bit.ly/3K3a6xb
Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: http://bit.ly/3TBwYat

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Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 22 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

This Academy of Imperfection is a Part 2, or… addendum episode… with the phenom that is Ben Crowe! So, if you haven’t heard Part 1, please listen to that one first by following the link below.

In this episode, Ben expands on what he said in Part 1 about listening to your inner fan rather than your inner critic. He guides Hugh, Ryan and Josh through some simple exercises where they access positive memories from their past, so they can reframe their belief system, that they’re worthy of love and connection and belonging, and also worthy of having the courage to chase their dreams and goals.

These are exercises anyone can do - either during this episode, or even better, with Ben’s MojoCrowe Mindset Course available at the link below.

To listen to part 1 of our chat with Ben, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Z0duNC

To learn more about Ben Crowe, the Mojo Crowe app and course, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

To watch Ryan's short film, Loop Hole, follow this link: https://bit.ly/42rAGr2

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Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Ben Crowe is a huge part of our humble Imperfects history. Ben’s first episode with us in 2021 continues to be one of our most listened to episodes, helping many of you, your friends and your family members.

Ben is back in the Academy of Imperfection (split over two episodes) to spread even more wisdom that he's accrued from decades of working with elite athletes at Nike and now at MojoCrowe. Ben’s mission is simple yet powerful… be a good human-being first and a great athlete second. And the athletes he’s helped reach their peak, including Ash Barty, Andre Agassi and Dustin Martin will attest to the amazing impact his tools can have on all of us. Because it's like Ben says, if you play, have fun and compete… you’re an athlete.

Most of what Ben talks about in this 2-part Academy of Imperfection is available to you via his incredible Mojo Mindset Course and app.

To learn more about Ben, Mojocrowe and the app, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

To listen to Ben's season 3 Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN

For book recommendation, 'The Top Five Regrets of The Dying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2FFejai

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Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Most of us first met actor and writer Samuel Johnson - and his silky voice - when he burst onto our screens over 20 years ago in the iconic show, The Secret Life of Us. Since then Sam’s experienced a lot of good times, but also some of the most challenging times any of us could imagine.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Sam chooses to answer the card, ‘What childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?’. And he not only explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh why he feels so passionately about the importance of vulnerability, but he also goes on to be vulnerable in ways that we can all benefit from.

Thank you, Sam.

To support Samuel's charity 'Love Your Sister' and purchase a copy of Dear Lover, please follow this link: http://bit.ly/3J0ZWM8

To donate directly to Love Your Sister, please follow this link: https://www.loveyoursister.org/

This episode contains frequent references to suicide. If this topic sounds like it might be distressing for you to hear right now, we recommend skipping this one and coming back to it another time. The views and perspectives expressed in this episode come from our guests personal experience of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.

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Hugh's Special... Verrry Special

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

A lil b-b-b-bonus ep to announce some exciting news...
Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg has filmed and released his Resilience Project talk as a Special on Amazon Prime Video! It's called 'Hugh van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' and it's out now.
Hugh has been talking to people about Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness for a loooooong time, but now it's finally been filmed so everyone can watch it whenever they want.
Watch 'Hugh Van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' now on Prime Video, or listen to it on Audible.

For Hugh's thickening hair spray recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3STaa5N
For Hugh's volumizing hair powder recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpMCXl

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Chrissie Swan - Honesty

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0000

A few years ago, Australian TV and radio legend Chrissie Swan decided to finally be honest with herself. She stopped doing the things she didn’t want to do anymore, and started doing the things that made HER happy.

In this inspiring episode, Chrissie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she was able to turn her life around and live as her true self. No more role-playing, just 100% Pure Swan.

For book recommendation 'The 12 Hour Walk' by Collin Obrady, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3KELETB

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Season 5 Trailer

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Feb 2023 19:00:00 -0000

It’s Season 5 and oooooooooooh baby, are we excited!!! Yes we are. Why? Because everything’s new BUT everything’s also the same! Y’know? Like when your fish and chip shop does a big renovation and you’re really excited because the shop’s all spiffy and new, but you’re also really excited and relieved that they still have potato cakes and dim sims and prawn toast and all the stuff you liked last year.

So yeah it’s kinda like that. Sort of.

Anyway, hi. We missed you.

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Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 02 Feb 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Okay so quick brag… last year’s episode with parenting expert Lael Stone was 2022’s #1 Most Shared Episode on Apple Podcasts, which you can listen to at the link below. 💁‍♀️

But now, Lael is back for a brand new b-b-b-bonus ep with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about YOU! Well… you and your kids and your loved ones and some other very shareable things that you might be verrrrrry interested in.

As your kids start a new year of school and you start a new year of… you… you might be a lil overwhelmed with… everything. But as Lael explains, self-care is important. Because when we’re at our best, we bring the best version of ourselves to our family, friends and work.

Thanks Lael… we LOVE this one.

To listen to Lael's previous Imperfects episode, 'Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans' follow this link: https://apple.co/3HMCbH5
To purchase Lael's book, follow this link: https://amzn.to/3WWCpRe
To learn more about Lael's work, follow this link: https://laelstone.com.au/
To watch Bluey episode, 'Facey Talk', on abc iview, follow this link: https://ab.co/3Yi5ojz

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How (and Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 Jan 2023 19:00:00 -0000

Ryan loves his smart phone. Or at least, he used to.

Recently, he became fed up with it ruling his life. Endless scrolling, lost time, and just general bleh. So, three months ago he traded in his beloved iPhone for a not-so-smart flip phone - which he affectionately refers to as his ‘SmugPhone’.

In this b-b-b-bonus episode, Ryan talks Hugh and Josh through every aspect of his smug journey so far:

- Why he gave up his iPhone
- How it’s going - pros and cons
- What’s his actual set up (how YOU can do it too!)
- His fantasy phone/device that doesn’t exist… YET

If you’ve been spending too much time on your phone, this could be the episode that inspires you to make a change as well.

For more information, or to purchase the Nokia 2720 Flip, follow this link: https://nokia.ly/3WyNnMU

Update* Ryan is now using Opel Mobile's Touch Flip which can be purchased via this link: https://bit.ly/3GUSd0K

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Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 Dec 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Well… it doesn’t get more exclusive than this!

During the busiest time of his year, Santa Claus has been kind enough to join Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Imperfects studio, so he can enter The Vulnerabilitea House.

Despite some issues with parking his sleigh and some disruptive reindeers during the recording of this episode, Santa still manages to answer all three of the cards he pulls from the Vulnerabilitea House deck.

It’s safe to say that this is not our normal type of Imperfects episode. Obviously. But we couldn’t be more thankful to Glenn Robbins for making this interview happen.

All the money we make from ads in this episode will be donated directly to ASHA to help the incomparable Dr Kiran Martin (former guest) provide essential medical care to the millions of poverty-stricken people currently living in the slums of Delhi. To learn more or donate to this incredible organisation, follow this link… https://asha-india.org

Merry Everything to you all! See you in 2023!

To listen to Glenn Robbin's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3G0mBI5
To listen to Glenn's podcast, Somehow Related with Dave O'Neil & Glenn Robbins, follow this link: https://apple.co/3FXxZUZ

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Hugh van Cuylenburg - Ageing, and Other Reflections

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Dec 2022 19:00:00 -0000

In this third of three b-b-b-bonus episodes, Hugh enters the Vulnerabilitea House and answers the question, ‘What do you see when you look in the mirror?’

For the first time in Hugh’s life, he doesn't see a young man reflected back at him, and he generously tells Ryan and Josh how this is effecting him.

How do we feel when we realise we’re not “young” anymore? It really is the age-old question isn’t it?

P.S. Keep an eye out for a very special Christmas episode next week!!! You won’t believe who our final guest of the year is!! Although, your kids will definitely believe it. 😉

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Josh van Cuylenburg - How to Defeat Envy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 Dec 2022 19:00:00 -0000

In yet another b-b-b-bonus episode, it’s Josh’s turn to draw from the deck Vulnerabilitea House cards.

And in doing so he shares his struggle with envy and jealousy amongst his successful friends, but also how it’s changed for him in recent years. And why.

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Esther Perel - Let's Be Better Lovers

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 30 Nov 2022 19:00:00 -0000

If there’s such thing as a b-b-b-bonus B-B-B-BONUS ep, this is it.

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is THE woman to turn to for relationship advice - IYKYK! Her two TED talks have been viewed over sixty million times, she’s written two books that have both been featured on the New York Times Bestseller list, and her intimate podcasts with real people in real counselling sessions have positively changed the relationships of millions of couples - including ours.

In this Academy of Imperfection, among other things, Esther tells Ryan and Josh (Hugh was sadly sick) why no relationship or partner is perfect, and to expect anything different is at our own peril.

Whether you’re already in a relationship or currently looking for a partner, YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS EP! Pinky promise.

To learn more about Esther Perel and her work, follow this link: www.estherperel.com

To listen to Esther's podcasts, Where Should We Begin and How's Work with Esther Perel, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

To purchase Esther's card game, Where Should We Begin, A Game of Stories, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/australia2022

For tickets and tour information for Esther's remaining Australian shows, visit: www.tegdainty.com

For book recommendation The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3gHVNCH

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Ryan Shelton - To breed, or not to breed

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Nov 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Teeeeechnically the season is over… but who cares about rules when you’ve got three hosts who eat rules for breakfast!

Hugh, Ryan and Josh have decided to add three B-B-B-BONUS Vulnerabilitea House episodes to the end of the season!

To kick things off, Ryan answers the question: What parts of ageing scare you most?

Ryan goes on to share something big that’s been on his mind recently - whether or not he should have children - and his fear around making a decision that he may regret later in life.

Next time it’s Josh’s turn, as he picks a card for another special Vulnerabilitea House.

For book recommendation, Embracing Uncertainty, by Susan Jeffers, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3AOkSCN

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Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Nov 2022 19:00:00 -0000

If you look up ‘Nedd Brockmann’ in the dictionary you won’t find anything because it’s a proper noun. But if you google ‘Nedd Brockmann’, you’ll see the true meaning of ‘legendary’.

For 46 days in 2022, Nedd ran 100km a day from Cottesloe Beach to Bondi Beach, literally RUNNING ACROSS THE ENTIRE COUNTRY.

Why? That’s the best part. Nedd (23!) not only wanted to raise $1m for homelessness (it’s currently at $2.5m - link below to donate), but he also wanted to inspire people and show them they’re more capable than they think they are.

But as Nedd explains to a stunned Hugh, Ryan and Josh, this superhuman feat came at great cost to Nedd’s physical and mental health.

To donate to We Are Mobilise for Nedd's Record Run, please follow this link: https://www.neddsrecordrun.com/

To learn more about the charity group We Are Mobilise, follow this link: https://wearemobilise.com/

To listen to our episode with Harry Garside, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UNSzMy

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Dr Emily - Lonely? You're Not Alone

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Nov 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Dr Emily is back with Hugh, Ryan and Josh for the final Emisode of the year, and she’s chosen to talk about something we can all relate to in one way or another… loneliness.

In reflecting on last year’s raw episode with Christian O’Connell (link below), Dr Emily deep-dives into the many facets of loneliness.

- Why do we feel lonely?

- How do we handle our own loneliness?

- What can we do to help others who feel lonely?

The holiday season is approaching, which for some of us signals a happy time spent with the people we love. However for many of us, it can highlight feelings of loneliness. But like anything, the more we understand it, the more we can help ourselves and each other.

As always, Dr Emily is here to help.

To listen to Christian O'Connell's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3TxWonu

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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A DARN GOSH BIG ANNOUNCEMENT

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 10 Nov 2022 22:00:00 -0000

We’re doing it. Well… there’s no turning back now.

Hugh, Ryan and Josh are going live on tour around the country with a stage show that they promise will be some of the most imperfect shows they’ve ever done. Live. Uncut. 100% guaranteed imperfection!

The Imperfects… LIVE ON STAGE in 2023

Special pre-sale tickets available from November 11-14 2022

Tickets available from livenation.com.au

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Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Nov 2022 19:00:00 -0000

If you haven't heard Part 1 of our chat with Lune founder and master-baker, Kate Reid, we recommend you do that first. Because this episode, the sequel in our Croissantology, continues Kate's miraculous story as she attempts to overcome an eating disorder that forced her to leave her dream career in Formula 1.

Here, Kate explains how she did that by going all in on creating the "perfect" croissant. And how that croissant launched a new pastry obsession for Melbournians, which eventually led to the pastry empire that is now Lune.

This inspiring story is one of hope and resilience and... well, it will make you want a croissant... desperately.

To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in part 1, contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

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Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Lune is highly regarded as the most respected patisserie in Australia. The New York Times even called the Lune croissant the best in the world. And the woman behind it all is Kate Reid, a former Aerospace Engineer at the Williams F1 Team in the UK.

Kate’s story has to be heard to be believed. It’s so epic, we had to break it into 2 parts.

In Part 1, Kate talks about her time at Williams, and generously shares her struggles with anorexia, which eventually forced her to end her F1 dream and return home to Australia for her recovery.

In Part 2, Kate tells the inspiring story of how she created Lune Croissanterie, and how she’s learned to embrace the fact that her world-renowned croissant will never be perfect.

JUST. LIKE. US.

To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in the episode contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

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Oliver Burkeman - The JOY of Missing Out

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 Oct 2022 19:00:00 -0000

4000 weeks. Like it or not, that’s (approximately) the average length of a human life. And while we intend to use that time wisely, and do all the things we care about, we often find ourselves doing the opposite.

In this episode, UK author Oliver Burkeman tells us how to focus on the things that REALLY matter, rather than filling our time with the not-so-important things. Pulling from his best-selling (and incredible) book, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals, Oliver is this week’s lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

For Josh and Ryan, this book has already changed the way they are approaching their own 4000 weeks, and after hearing this episode, they hope you will also embrace your limitations and accept all the things you simply don't have time to do - no matter how much you think you want to do them.

To learn more about Oliver's work and to subscribe to his newsletter, The Imperfectionist, follow this link: www.oliverburkeman.com

To purchase Oliver's Book, 4000 Weeks, Time and How to Use It (the Australian release), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3F6AsMM

For productivity app recommendation 'Things 3', follow this link: https://apple.co/3THRVjn

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Linda Marigliano - Strict Parents & Being a ‘Good Girl’

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 16 Oct 2022 19:00:00 -0000

As a DJ, TV presenter, award-winning podcaster and Triple J royalty, Linda Marigliano has had a big career and spoken to some of the biggest artists of all time. And now she joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Vulnerabilitea House.

Linda talks about her life growing up as the child of an Italian father and Chinese mother, and explains about how the criticism she received from her mother made her feel about herself - both then and now.

Oh, and there’s some very practical advice on nose-hair trimming, thanks to Linda’s Mum, Janet.

To listen to Linda's podcast, 'Tough Love', follow this link: https://apple.co/3EGNIrg

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Dr Kiran Martin - Truth, Leadership & Gratitude

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 Oct 2022 19:00:00 -0000

After listening to this Academy of Imperfection, you’ll no doubt be heartily agreeing with Hugh, who introduces Dr Kiran Martin as the most impressive person he’s ever met.

Over 30 years after jumping the fence to get inside a slum in Delhi so she could help treat the people in need, Dr Kiran now runs ASHA, an organisation she created that has helped over 900,000 people in over 100 slums across India. And counting!

This is the story behind ASHA. And well… it’s incredible.

But as this is an Academy, you will also learn things! Later in the episode, Dr Kiran shares her values around leadership and gratitude and explains the impact we can all have, when we simply “insist on the truth”.

To learn more about Asha and to donate, follow this link: https://asha-india.org/

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Dr Emily - Rejection Sensitivity

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 02 Oct 2022 19:00:00 -0000

None of us like to feel rejected. Whether it be at work, with friends, or on a date.

In this Dr Emisode, Dr Emily - our very own psychologist - tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh why some of us have a sensitivity to rejection. She explains what we can do about it, and how we can act compassionately towards others, and avoid making them feel unnecessarily rejected as well.

For research article, 'Recognising Emotion In Faces: Developmental Effects of Child Abuse and Neglect', by Seth Pollak, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3CqDee9

For research reference and book recommendation, 'The Joy of Movement', by Kelly McGonigal follow this link: https://bit.ly/3fv6Uhb

To watch the Ted Lasso clip about making yourself feel confident through movement, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3dTVYcF

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

While many of us may think of Channel 7’s Hamish McLachlan as the voice of sport in Australia, Hamish is very quick to point to Bruce McAvaney instead. As it turns out, we all love Bruce McAvaney A LOT and apologetically talk about him for quite a while - including a few wonderful Bruce stories from Hamish.

When we finally get to the Vulnerabilitea House card selection, Hamish answers the question, ‘When did your life get turned upside down and how did things change?’. This prompts Hamish to show incredible vulnerability and recount two formative events from his family life, and how they’ve reframed his own relationship with the meaning of “challenging times”.

For book recommendation, '4000 Weeks', by Oliver Burkeman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3C4G6x3

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Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 18 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Stand-up comedian Nazeem Hussain lost his father to COVID-19 in 2021. In this episode, Nazeem shares the difficulties surrounding his family’s loss, and how his Dad’s life and sudden death has impacted his own life. But Nazeem also tells some wildly funny stories - in particular one about a "comedy concert" he did in Sri Lanka in front of The Prime Minister, which turned out to be organised by none other than his Dad.

You probably already know Naz from his many, MANY appearances on the telly including The Project, Orange Is The New Brown or maybe even I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here. But his latest work sees him acting and writing on the new ABC show, Summer Love. Link below.

To watch Nazeem in Summer Love, follow this link: https://ab.co/3BR4gLC

To pre-order Nazeem's new children's book, follow this link https://bit.ly/3UlxSHW

For recommendation, 'Raising Boys', by Steve Biddulph, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RLMpuV

To read '7 Sneaky Ways Your Parents Influence Is Still Affecting Your Life', by Suzannah Weiss, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UhkTam

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Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 14 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

In Part 2 of this Academy of Imperfection, author and profanity purveyor, Johann Hari answers more of your brilliant questions.

As a result, Johann talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about intrinsic and extrinsic values, and how they affect the things we do and social media’s role in why we do them.

Also (speaking of click-bait), in an Imperfects exclusive, Johann reveals his go-to KFC order.

And double-also, we recorded this episode before the passing of Queen Elizabeth II, which will make more sense when you listen.

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Johann Hari (Pt 1) - How Can We Change?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Imperfects regular, Johann Hari joins us IN STUDIO for the first time to answer your questions!

In this very special edition of The Academy of Imperfection (which we’ve split into 2 MASSIVE EPISODES OVER 2 MASSIVE... um... EPISODES!), Johann Hari talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about our ability to change our habits in the face of addiction. And why we can learn from the approach of Overeater’s Anonymous to help our addiction to our phones and the internet.

Johann will be back later this week to answer more of your questions.

For app recommendation 'Freedom', to block websites, follow this link: https://freedom.to/

To learn more and purchase Johann's books, follow this link: https://johannhari.com/

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Mark Wilson from JET - Dealing with Loss

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

In 2003, JET’s Are You Gonna Be My Girl was one of the biggest songs on the planet. It was so big, Apple even used it for their first iPod ad. Remember? The one with the dancing silhouettes on the colourful backgrounds? Yeah, that was JET.

As the bass player for JET, Mark Wilson has lived the dream of any musician. He’s toured the world and played to packed stadiums, and even stood with Beyonce and Jay Z at the MTV Video Music Awards before playing on stage in front of them.

But Mark has also been dealt with some of the most challenging tragedies we can face. In this emotional episode, Mark talks about the good times and the bad times and how he’s dealt with loss in his life.

After the interview, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh about some practical ways we can all deal with loss and trauma in our own lives.

To watch Bessel van der Kolk's "6 ways to to heal trauma without medication" on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3q7FnEH

To read or purchase book recommendation, "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BdSPgH

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How to Write a Gratitude Letter

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 01 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0000

To celebrate Father's Day, Hugh plays some intimate audio of him reading a chapter of his book, 'Let Go', to his Dad (and Josh's Dad incidentally). But not just any old chapter, the final chapter ABOUT his Dad.

Afterwards, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh, how writing a gratitude letter to your Dad (even if he isn't around anymore) can have a hugely positive impact.

But of course, Gratitude Letters aren't just for Dads, they're for your Mum or any carer in your life as well.

Happy Fathers Day. Have a listen, then go write a gratitude letter. ❤️

To watch Fitzy (Ryan Fitzgerald) read his gratitude letter to his dad, follow this link: https://vimeo.com/352402397

To view a version of the 'Power and Privilege Wheel' please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ecWnGS

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Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Aug 2022 20:00:00 -0000

In this Emisode, Dr Emily explains some reasons why the inner critic is there in the first place, and where it’s coming from.

To watch Shirzad Chamine's Ted Talk, 'Know Your Inner Saboteurs', follow this link: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa

To learn more about Daniel Siegel research and to purchase Mindsight, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5

To read the research article 'Positive Self-Statements, Power For Some, Peril For Others', follow this link, https://bit.ly/2L4k0k3 or, https://bit.ly/3RiTeDo

To listen to Russ Harris talk about the problems with positive self-talk on The Life Lessons podcast with Simon Mundie, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TlOZJ8

To learn more about Russ Harris's research and to purchase The Happiness Trap, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3wDAgzM

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Darcy Vescio - They/Them Matters & Here’s Why

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 21 Aug 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Carlton footballer Darcy Vescio is one of the biggest names in the AFLW, having won multiple awards including the Carlton Best & Fairest, 2-time All Australian selection and the Mark of the Year. As a marquee player, Darcy is at the top of their game.

But that’s just part of Darcy’s story. Less than a year ago, Darcy publicly came out as non-binary, announcing to the football community that they would now go by the they/them gender pronouns.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Darcy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what that experience was like for them. But also, after Hugh and Ryan regrettably slip up a few times during the episode, Darcy graciously explains why it matters so much to them when people do get their pronoun right.

To watch Darcy's 2017 Mark of The Year, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Cp54Yy

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Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Aug 2022 20:00:00 -0000

This Academy of Imperfection is a little different. As Hugh explains in the opener, this episode actually IS more like a lecture. But trust us, that’s a good thing.

Dr Paul Callaghan has a lot of wisdom to share that he's accrued over a lifetime of wins, losses and even a near death experience that changed his life forever. As an Aboriginal man, much of Paul's wisdom has come from his experience on The Dreaming Path, which also happens to be the title of the book he’s co-written with his friend and Aboriginal elder, Uncle Paul Gordon.

This book is one of the most impactful books we've ever read. Some might assume that aboriginal lore from tens of thousands of years ago would be irrelevant in today’s world. Faaaaar from it. Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon wrote this book for all of us, so after you finish this episode, pick up a copy at your local bookstore, and then, let’s all go bush with Paul!

To purchase The Dreaming Path, Indigenous Thinking To Change Your Life, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3SLD0V4

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We Need to Talk... Again - Hugh, Ryan & Josh have a chat

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 07 Aug 2022 20:00:00 -0000

B-B-B-BONUS EP!!! A-A-A-AGAIN!!!

Every now and then, Hugh, Ryan and Josh like to get together and chat about their own imperfections that they’ve been dealing with recently. This is one of those episodes.

Hugh talks about “life seasons”, Ryan explains why European holidays aren’t always as perfect as they appear, and Josh talks about watching Morning Wars with Jennifer Anniston.

To read Hugh’s recommendation of Kimberly Gillan’s article in the Age, ‘Are You In Tune With Your Life Season’, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q6o4iC

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Dr Emily - You Are Not Your Emotions

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 31 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0000

She’s back again! Our very own psychologist, Dr Emily!

In this emisode, Dr Emily reflects on a very moving chat we had with comedian Steen Raskopoulos.

She talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Emotional Awareness, and explains why it’s not only important to identify your unpleasant emotions, but why it's even more important to express them when they arise.

Oh, Hugh and tells us about going to Bondi.

For book recommendation Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zmHW9Y

For Susan David’s Ted Talk, The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OQvFAm

To learn more about Matthew Lieberman’s study on ‘affect labelling’, (putting emotions into words) and its impact on our negative emotional experience, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PQrUMO

To learn more about Dr Dan Siegel’s research into ‘mindsight’ and how we can ‘name and tame’ emotions, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q8PLqM

To learn more about The Resilience Project’s Journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3cSVItf

For app recommendation Day One, follow this link: https://dayoneapp.com/

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Steen Raskopoulos (REPEAT - but with new intro!)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Okay, so we're dabbling with repeat episodes because we've taken a week off. But we have recorded a new intro bit so there ya go, at least there's SOME new stuff!

This episode with comedian Steen Raskopoulos is not only one of our favourite episodes, but it's also the subject of next week's emisode with Dr Emily - which we can't wait for!

So yeah, back to regular, imperfect programming next week!

To listen to Steen’s podcast, Congrats On The New, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3yUjhtc

To listen to Ryan on Steen’s podcast, please follow link: https://apple.co/3cyEC3Y

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Michelle Brasier - The Case For Optimism

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Maybe you know Michelle Brasier from Aunty Donna. Or maybe from Shaun Micallef’s Mad as Hell. Or maybe she’s made you laugh (or cry) in any number of things she’s done on the stage and screen over the years.

Or maybe you don’t her……… YET!

Michelle Brasier is a singer, actor, writer and comedian who - as you’ll hear in this Vulnerabilitea House - has overcome multiple adversities since a young age. But despite the challenges, she still firmly believes in the practice of optimism. And after selecting the card, “Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist?”, Michelle explains why optimism is such an important part of her life.

Thanks Michelle - you are a breath of fresh air!

To see when and where Michelle is performing next, follow this link: https://www.michellebrasier.com/tour

To listen to the soundtrack from the movie Once, follow this link: https://spoti.fi/3Rmckd0

Parting Glass by Audionautix is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Artist: http://audionautix.com/

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Martin "Rac" Heppell - The other F word... FAILURE

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0000

We all fail. All of us. Why? Because we’re all imperfect. And no one talks about failure more passionately than The Resilience Project’s own Martin “Rac” Heppell. And he’s today’s guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

Some of you may remember Rac’s first memorable appearance in The Vulnerabilitea House last season. If you haven’t heard it, we know you’ll want to listen (or re-listen) after this one - link below.

Failure, the other F word, is something we don’t like to talk about. It’s embarrassing. And sometimes it’s shameful. But as Martin explains, it’s important that we DO talk about failure. Because failure isn’t just normal… it’s crucial for our growth.

Feel like a rev up? This ep’s for you.

Rac’s back, baby… RAC’S BACK.

ALSO… here’s some extra info about Rac that’ll be helpful before listening to the ep:

- When Rac was a kid, his family spent some time living with a head-hunting tribe (there’s more on this in Rac’s first episode from last season)

- Between 1993 and 1995, Rac played 7 senior AFL games for St Kilda and Melbourne

- Rac works with The Resilience Project as one of their main Speakers, spending the majority of his time at schools, helping kids around Australia.

To listen to our previous episode with Rac, follow this link: https://apple.co/3xWoKPy

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Libby Trickett - When is Enough, Enough?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Australia has had a LOT of success in the Olympic Swimming Pool. That’s an understatement. But one of our most successful and loved Olympians of recent times is golden girl, Libby Trickett. During her successful swimming career Libby was all smiles after winning gold medal after gold medal at three consecutive Olympic Games, but as she shares in this episode, on the inside she was struggling with a powerful feeling that she wasn’t enough.

Libby tells us all about what that was like, as well as sharing her more recent struggles with motherhood, and how both have led to bouts of depression and anxiety.

Libby displays extreme vulnerability in this episode - more of which is in her new book, Beneath the Surface.

Thank you Libby.

To listen to Libby’s podcast, All The Glitters, buy her book “Beneath The Surface, or learn more about her business “Unlocking Her Potential”, please follow this link: https://linktr.ee/libby_trickett

For book recommendation “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2ylEihJ

To listen to the Oprah’s Super Soul Conversation podcast with Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3ub2Nvl

For book recommendation Atomic Habits by James Clear, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2CbKTNL

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Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 26 Jun 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Dr Emily is back to help us all!

Reflecting on our episode with Olympic BMX rider, Sam Willoughby from Season 2, Dr Emily talks us through the dangers of the Hedonistic Treadmill, and its slightly lesser known cousin, Hedonistic Adaptation.

There’s a lot covered in this episode, including ‘Growth Mindset’, being mindful of what we want and why, and how quickly we actually adapt to finally getting those things we want.

For book recommendation Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tTaRjU

For book recommendation The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tT6e9E

To watch Carol Dwecks Ted Talk, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OydHTz

Reference for Sonja Lyubomrisky’s stats for the determinants of happiness: https://bit.ly/3xPDSy6

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 20:00:00 -0000

For over 30 years, Glenn Robbins has been one of the funniest and most loved performers in Australia. From The Comedy Company and Kath & Kim, to The Panel and of course Russell Coight, Glenn has guaranteed his spot in the comedy history books.

But Glenn hasn’t always seen it that way. From a young age he was told he was "average", and despite his many successes, has dealt with a lifetime of performance anxiety.

In this edition of The Vulnerabilitea House, Glenn opens up and tells us how he manages to ignore the 'bad voice' in his head that tells him he's not good enough, and instead listen to the ‘good voice’, so he can face his fears and make good work he's proud of.

We highly encourage you to listen to this episode - especially while power-walking through the suburbs with a set of hand weights.

To listen to Glenn’s podcast with Dave O’Neil, click this link: https://apple.co/3O41PZv

To watch Shane Warne on The Panel, click this link: https://bit.ly/39DB1R0

Book recommendation Before & Laughter by Jimmy Carr can be found here: https://amzn.to/3y3Xss7

Book recommendation From Strength To Strength by Arthur C Brooks can be found here: https://amzn.to/3OqJQfS

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Lael Stone - Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 12 Jun 2022 20:00:00 -0000

In the words of her own child, Lael Stone “works for the kids”.

But while Lael is technically a therapist who supports parents in understanding their children, everything Lael talks about in this edition of The Academy of Imperfection could easily be applied to all of us in understanding the people in our lives - no matter what age. Whether that be our friends, parents, colleagues or even ourselves.

Through her work, Lael helps adults process their own childhood trauma, and creates education systems that value emotional awareness, demonstrating why it all comes back to connection and compassion.

Oh, and listen out for the dramatic moment when Ryan swoops in and inadvertently steals Josh’s “Good Question” (patent pending).

To learn more about Lael’s work please visit her website at: https://laelstone.com.au/

To watch Lael’s Ted Talk please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6fL09e8Tm9c&feature=emb_imp_woyt

To learn more about Lael’s school please follow this link: https://woodlineprimary.com.au/

To watch It’s Not About The Nail, please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

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Harry Garside - A Boxer Who Dares To Be Different

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 05 Jun 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Harry Garside is an Australian boxer who won bronze at the Tokyo Olympics - the first Olympic medal in boxing for Australia in 33 years. But to simply describe Harry Garside as a champion boxer, would be to sell him waaaaaaay short.

Because Harry is also a ballet dancer, a plumber and the guy who asked to wear a dress at the Olympic Opening Ceremony with the desire of defying gender stereotypes (request denied).

To listen to the podcast with Deeyah Khan that Harry recommends, please follow the link https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-kunkEfHiLI

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Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 29 May 2022 20:00:00 -0000

In this Emisode, Dr Emily returns to talk about a topic that is VERRRRRY close to the bones of Ryan, Hugh and Josh. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

Does that ring any bells for you? Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? What’s the difference? And how do living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

Dr Emily goes into all of it.

In this episode, Dr Emily references conversations from Hamish Blake's episode and our last bonus episode. To listen to those, follow the links below:

Hamish Blake's episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/hamish-blake-lets-talk-about-self-doubt/id1476501557?i=1000555382728

Bonus episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/we-need-to-talk-hugh-checks-in-with-ryan-josh-after-a-big-month/id1476501557?i=1000556568682

Dr Emily also references Rick Hanson, to follow his work visit: www.rickhanson.net

If you have experienced, or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. - https://www.1800respect.org.au/services

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Max Gawn - The Comment That Changed Everything

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 22 May 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Big episode. HUGE episode in fact. Especially for Ryan.

Ryan has been a long-suffering/recent-celebrating supporter of the Melbourne Demons his entire life. And today, Premiership captain of the Dees, Max Gawn is in The Vulnerabilitea House.

Ryan. Breathe.

Max tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about a courageous comment made by one of the players in a team meeting that addressed the negative way players were speaking to each other. The comment cut deep - not only for Max who felt shame for his own behaviour, but one that lead to greater connection, trust and respect between the players, and ultimately to their lifelong dream of an AFL Premiership (the greatest, most joyous day for their fans).

Once again… breathe, Ryan.

For more information on Active-Constructive Communication, start here… [https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/](https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/)

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Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men’s Violence

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 15 May 2022 20:00:00 -0000

We seriously hope you listen to this one. I mean, obviously we hope you listen to all our episodes but THIS ONE... well, we reckon this one’s important.

Tarang Chawla’s younger sister Niki was the kindest person he knew. But in 2015, Niki was murdered by her partner who she was trying to break up with, as a result of domestic violence. Since then, Tarang has become an activist against men’s violence, educating all Australians on the many forms of abuse and its role in the mental health crisis.

But as Tarang explains, “abuse” is often not what we think.

In this Academy of Imperfection, guest lecturer Tarang Chawla talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the many forms of abuse, violence, coercive control, gender inequality, and how we can all play a part in a safer future and why that’s so important for all of us.

If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000

To listen to Tarang's podcast, "There's No Place Like Home" please follow the link below: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/theres-no-place-like-home-by-future-women/id1608086343

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Narelda Jacobs - Being True To You

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 08 May 2022 20:00:00 -0000

You might think that TV journalist and proud indigenous woman Narelda Jacobs has a perfect life. She’s the co-host of Studio 10, makes regular appearances on The Project, she’s a three-time host of the Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras, and she’s... done lots of other things that are also on her Wikipedia page.

But like all of us, Narelda’s life has been far from perfect. I mean come on guys, we’re all imperfect, surely you’ve learnt that by now!

In this episode, Narelda talks openly about the challenges of falling pregnant as an 18-year-old... and then having to tell her parents. This would be hard for anyone, but Narelda grew up in an extremely religious household and her father was a Reverend of the Uniting Church. But that turned out to be a mere warm up for what was to come three years later, when she came out to her parents as gay.

We loved this chat with Narelda. And well, we love Narelda. We’re sure you will too.

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Dr Emily - Managing a Panic Attack

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 May 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Welcome back to Dr Emily, our very own... PSYCHOLOGIST!

Reflecting on the recent episode with Luke McGregor, in this episode Dr Emily talks about panic attacks. What are they? Why do we get them? And what do we do when they show up and scare the hell out of us?

Thanks Dr Em

To find out more about by Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap and his work as an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Trainer visit; https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Oliver Twist - Where is Home?

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 24 Apr 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Originally from Rwanda, stand-up comedian Oliver Twist spent 14 years in a Malawi refugee camp before finally arriving in Ipswich, Queensland with his family.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Oliver answers the question, “Where is home for you?” - a simple question for some, but a complicated one for Oliver.

Oliver shares stories from his extraordinarily imperfect life in great detail. Everything from being displaced by the Rwandan Genocide, to living in the refugee camp, and eventually seeing Trevor Noah perform stand-up comedy on the internet. And, thanks to ANOTHER “good question” from Josh, Oliver reflects on what his Australian citizenship actually means to him.

Oliver Twist’s incredible live shows, Jali and Griot, are still touring in select cities. You can find tickets on the link below:

https://www.livenation.com.au/artist-oliver-twist-1340595

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Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Okay, so get this...not only is Kemi Nekvapil an author, speaker and coach, but she was trained by Brené Brown. Yuh. THE Brené Brown.

As an author, Kemi has written a new book that you must read. It’s called ‘POWER: A woman’s guide to living and leading without apology’. And in our imperfect opinion, as 3 NON-women, it’s exactly what we all need right now.

In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, Kemi shares her childhood experience living in foster care - being moved between 5 different families across England - and how it’s shaped her as the powerful woman she is today. Kemi then takes us through her interpretation of POWER - which happens to be a very convenient acronym...

- Presence to understand what is and isn’t working in our lives.

- Ownership of our personal narratives, especially our power stories.

- Wisdom about our needs, boundaries and growth.

- Equality as part of the diverse human family, all of us worthy.

- Responsibility for our choices, healing and happiness.

https://www.keminekvapil.com

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Luke McGregor - Being Funny And Having Panic Attacks

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 10 Apr 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Like all of us, Luke McGregor is imperfect. From his challenging childhood at home and school, to his crippling panic attacks on stage as a stand-up comedian, Luke generously shares some of the many stories from his imperfect life with us and of course with you.

A lot gets covered here, including Luke’s ongoing battles with OCD and why he eventually turned to professional comedy after trying a handful of other careers first.

But also, as you’d expect, Luke’s hilarious in this ep so please put your Giggle Hat on. Wait, you DO have a Giggle Hat don’t you?!?!

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We Need to Talk - Hugh checks in with Ryan & Josh after a big month

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 20:00:00 -0000

B-B-B-BONUS EP!!!

After what has been a very vulnerable month for The Imperfects, Hugh wanted to check in with Ryan and Josh to see how they’re feeling after some “big shares” in the first 4 episodes of the season.

Firstly, Ryan reflects on how he’s feeling after revealing his worries around the supposed “love triangle” with Hugh and Hamish during Hamish’s Vulnerabilitea House episode. Then Josh talks about his self-doubt surrounding his role on the podcast, and of course where he’s at with his internet use since bravely sharing addiction with the group during the Johann Hari episode.

We’ll be back to normal programming next episode with Luke McGregor, but until then, this episode’s all about us!

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Introducing Dr Emily… PSYCHOLOGIST!!!

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 03 Apr 2022 20:00:00 -0000

Please welcome the newest member of The Imperfects family... our resident psychologist, Dr Emily!

Dr Emily recently joined The Imperfects behind the scenes, ensuring our episodes are released with care, compassion and professionalism.

This season however, Hugh, Ryan and Josh begged Dr Emily to bring her knowledge directly to you with her very own regular episodes! Each month she will join Hugh, Ryan and Josh and bring in something from The Imperfects archives, to then give general advice and information based on the stories and themes from the episode.

In this debut ‘Emisode’, Dr Emily discusses the final episode of 2021; “Georgia & Hugh”. If you haven’t heard that incredibly moving episode, you could listen to that first, but you’ll definitely be able to follow along if you haven’t heard it. Here’s a link to that ep just in case... https://apple.co/35xOmbs

And here’s a link to the book by Oprah and Dr Bruce Perry mentioned by Dr Emily: https://bit.ly/3u1y1VV

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Hamish Blake - Let's Talk About Self-Doubt

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 27 Mar 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Hamish Blake is a very funny man. No surprises there. But as it turns out, Hamish Blake is also a man who experiences self-doubt. Hmm, SOME surprises there!

And as the latest guest in The Vulnerabilitea House, Hamish tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the self-doubt he’s experienced while performing on TV, even after doing it for almost 20 years. Whether it be during one of his many appearances on panel shows, or even while standing in front of the contestants on his first day as host of Lego Masters.

Later in the ep, Hamish, Ryan and Hugh openly discuss their evolving “love triangle” that has been triggering feelings of self-doubt within Ryan. Then Josh talks candidly about his own self-doubt regarding his role on The Imperfects.

Yep. This one’s a big ol’ share-fest. Let’s hug.

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Johann Hari - Why You Can't Pay Attention

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Mar 2022 19:00:00 -0000

We can all feel it. And unfortunately, it’s getting worse. Paying attention and properly focussing these days is getting harder and harder. And in the first Academy of Imperfection for 2022, Johann Hari is here to explain to Hugh, Ryan and Josh exactly why that is. The good news is... it’s not our fault. But luckily there are things we can do about it. If you want to delve deeper into the topics and themes from this episode, please read (or listen to - like Hugh and Ryan did) Johann’s incredible new book, Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention. It might just be the thing that gets you off your phone for a bit. However, while Johann may be this week’s guest lecturer, Josh is certainly this week’s star pupil, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast. Josh didn’t plan to say what he said, but in finding the courage to speak his truth, his hope is that others with similar struggles will feel more supported, or at least feel less alone.

Thank you Johann for returning to The Imperfects, and thank you Josh for being imperfect.

For more information about Johann Hari and where to his book visit: https://stolenfocusbook.com/

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Kate Langbroek - Love Story

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Mar 2022 19:00:00 -0000

Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person and we absolutely love her.

Kate has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel, or with her mate Hughesy on the radio. Now she’s written her first book, “Ciao, Bella” - filled with stories from her amazing and colourful life. But even with all her success, like all of us, Kate’s life hasn’t been perfect.

In this raw episode, Kate generously shares what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now. Afterwards, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh and gives us some insight on the emotion of LOVE, and how positive emotions like love can drastically improve our mental health.

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Season 4 Trailer

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 06 Mar 2022 19:00:00 -0000

We’re back... for a warm up ep... and as you’ll soon hear... we’re properly professional now!

Not because of the three of us, because of the new members of our Imperfects team... Bridget Northeast, BOTH British Andys (Hall and Poole), George Martin, Jamieson Moore and Dr Emily!

This really is our highest level of excitement EVER.

So, so, so good to see you,

Hugh, Ryan & Josh

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Georgia & Hugh

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 22 Dec 2021 19:00:00 -0000

In this extremely special episode, Hugh reads the opening chapter from his second book, ‘Let Go’ to his younger sister (and Josh’s older sister) Georgia van Cuylenburg - a heartfelt letter from him to her.

What follows is an incredibly powerful conversation between the two of them that, for the first time, addresses unspoken feelings and issues that have existed for years.

We’ve been fortunate to have witnessed many beautiful examples of vulnerability on this podcast over the years… but guys… seriously… this is next level. (And I can say that because it’s me Ryan writing this)

Thank you Georgia for allowing us to share this. At times it doesn’t feel like we should be listening in, but gee whiz, I think I can pre-speak for everyone here and say we feel so lucky and privileged that we are.

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Almost end of year wrap - (Part 2)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 16 Dec 2021 07:32:35 -0000

A Part 1 wouldn't be complete without a Part 2.

So here it is... wrapping up the wrap up!

After Hugh kicked things off with a beautiful bang in Part 1, Part 2 sees Josh and Ryan follow suit and reflect on 2 moments from the podcast that meant a lot to them in 2021 - powerful moments from Martin Heppell and Ben Crowe.

Once again, thank you for your ears. We love you. Now go tell someone special that you love them.

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Almost end of year wrap - (Part 1)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 08 Dec 2021 00:48:00 -0000

We had to split our "End of Year Wrap" into 2 parts because of what came up in this ep.

Without wanting to spoil it, it's yet another example of what can happen when we start the conversation and show a lil vulnerability to the ones we love.

There will obviously be a Part 2, and then a few more very VERY special episodes to round out the year.

Thank you for listening to us. We love you and appreciate you a LOT.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Peter Helliar

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 22 Nov 2021 01:31:00 -0000

Whether it’s TV, film, stand-up comedy, radio, books, podcasts... or... Straughanie, Peter “Pete” Helliar has been making us laugh for over 20 years and has found a lot of success doing it. But like anyone, Pete’s life has at times been imperfect.

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Pete speaks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about one of the most difficult times in his life when one of his close friends and colleagues, Richard Marsland, took his own life.

Hugh then shares some practical ways you can talk to people in your life who you think might be struggling.

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Your Non-Free Gift! (Unannounced Surprise Podcast Episode)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Nov 2021 23:54:00 -0000

Surprise! We have something special for you. Okay fine... it MAY be merchandise. Fine, you twisted our arm... it IS merchandise. But GOOD merchandise! PUN merchandise!!!

Have a listen and go to thevulnerabiliteabag.com. BUT BE QUICK!

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The Academy of Imperfection - Jeff Warren

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 09:03:35 -0000

You may have an image of what a “meditation teacher” sounds like. Whatever you’re thinking of, we’re pretty sure you’re not thinking of Jeff Warren. Jeff Warren is not your traditional meditation “guru”. He’s just... well, a guy. A Canadian guy! And alongside his own challenges with ADD and Bipolar diagnoses (among other things), he’s found a life and successful career in mindfulness and meditation. And if you’re like us, you’ll want to be his best friend.

Jeff is currently best known for his “Daily Trip” meditations on the Calm app. But he’s also written books and taught meditation to all walks of life around the world. For everything you need to know about Jeff including his weekly Do Nothing Project, go to jeffwarren.org

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The Dyl & Friends crossover episode

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 01 Nov 2021 00:52:00 -0000

We’ve been big fans of the Dyl & Friends podcast for a long time now. We love everything about the former AFL footballer and host of the Dyl & Friends podcast, Dylan Buckley. To that end, we are very excited to release this episode of our podcast as a Dyl & Friends and The Imperfects collaboration. As you will hear, Dylan is authentic and open. He embraces his imperfections and as such this chat is a true mix of both shows. Dylan starts off interviewing us about how The Imperfects started, and then we welcome Dylan into the Vulnerabilitea House where he delivers one of the most vulnerable and heart felt tea house shares we’ve had to date.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Dr Yves Rees

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 25 Oct 2021 06:09:00 -0000

Today we welcome Dr Yves Rees into The Vulnerabilitea House.

One morning, in a hotel room in Canada, aged 30, Yves had a life changing epiphany. With this came a range of emotions - happiness, confusion, pain, joy...and almost everything in between.

As well as being a renowned history professor at La Trobe University, Yves is transgender.

In today’s episode of The Imperfects, Ryan, Josh and Hugh are educated and enlightened by the insightful and vulnerable Dr Yves Rees. Dr Rees has recently released their memoir, All About Yves.

If this episode sparks anything for you that you wish to explore further, we recommend transhub.org.au as a fantastic resource to learn more.

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Becky Lucas - The power of laughter

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 12 Oct 2021 03:05:00 -0000

On this week's episode of the podcast we talk to Australian comedian Becky Lucas. Becky has written a book -Acknowledgements, and as you will hear Hugh is BIT of a fan.

We cover a-lot in this ep, from bitchy English exchange students, Becky’s parents' divorce, 'dick-lit’, the stresses of lock down; and somehow we manage to squeeze in a discussion of 90s NBL basketball under the ‘auspice’ of a special birthday surprise.

Afterwards we discuss the role of laughter and comedy in our lives and why laughter is such an incredible thing for changing our mood and improving our mental health.

Yep, as I said, we cover quite a lot...

If this chat has brought up any troubling emotions or thoughts for you, as always we strongly recommend Lifeline on 13 11 14.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 04:31:00 -0000

There is no one else in the world quite like our guest this week.

For years people kept telling Hugh he needed to bring on a new presenter to meet the demand from schools and workplaces around the country. He said he would only ever do it if he found someone extraordinary. In 2015, Hugh found that extraordinary person - Martin Heppell. In today’s episode, Ryan, Hugh and Josh are both moved and inspired as Martin steps into the Vulnerabilitea and shares a heart breaking story from his childhood. As only Martin can do, he starts the interview by sharing the trauma of his past, but ends the interview leaving the boys inspired to be better people. Warning. This episode contains references to child abuse.

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The Academy Of Imperfection - Daniel Ellenberg

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 23:23:00 -0000

Ready to learn? Us too.

In The Academy of Imperfection this week, imperfect students Hugh, Ryan and Josh speak with American psychologist, leadership coach and specialist in the area of male relationships, Daniel Ellenberg. Daniel shares some very insightful stuff on how men relate to other men - why they do what they do, and why they DON’T do what they don’t do! But by the end of the episode, what was supposed to be a casual “lecture” turns into a men’s workshop of sorts, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh show a lot more vulnerability towards each other than they were expecting. The recording of this episode was definitely a memorable experience.

Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a co-founder of Relationships That Work https://www.relationshipsthatwork.com, the founder/director of Strength with Heart men’s groups and workshops https://www.strengthwithheart.com, and a principal in Rewire Leadership Institute https://rewireleadership.com

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh Van Cuylenburg

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 30 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0000

Two episodes in a week, what is going on? Well, it's another Vulnerabilitea House that's what. This week it's Josh's turn.

Lockdown rules meant this teahouse was spread across three tea houses but it doesn't detract from the quality of the tea, and the vulnerableness. Josh discusses an issue he's had for a long, long time and Hugh takes some time to delve a little deeper into the concept of vulnerability. What is it? Why is it important? How do we best practise it?

Being vulnerable can be scary, but it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

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Just The Three Of Us (a bonus snap podcast because we needed a chat)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 24 Aug 2021 04:07:00 -0000

In the beginning, it was novel. A change of pace. A good excuse to bake our own bread and believe that “we’ll always bake our own bread from now on because it’s so nice to wake up to the smell of fresh bread in the morning!”

But come on... seriously... we’re not baking bread anymore are we? This whole COVID thing has become a proper bummer. Like, next-level maximum bummer.

So, because we’ve all been feeling the pinch recently, Hugh assembled Ryan and Josh for a very unplanned Snap Podcast to talk about it, and share what’s been helping him cope with the current and ongoing shitness of lockdown.

This isn’t a regular episode. There’s no guests, no experts and no tea. It’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh trying to find some light during an extremely challenging time.

Hope you’re doing okay out there. We know it’s tough. But hopefully this helps a little.

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Travis Boak - Dealing with trauma

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 16 Aug 2021 03:17:00 -0000

Travis Boak is one of the best footballers in the country. At age 33, he is showing no signs of slowing down, in fact many believe he is just getting better. His brilliance on the ground is a direct result of the hard work he puts into his game. What many don’t know however, is that he works just as hard on his mental and emotional health. Due to the tragic passing of his father, Travis has, for way too long, carried the baggage and trauma of this tragedy. Join Travis for this heartfelt conversation as he talks us through the power of letting go of the things you cannot control and embracing the uncertainties of life.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 01 Aug 2021 21:00:00 -0000

Thirsty? How about a nice cup of Vulnerabilitea from The Vulnerabilitea House? Join Hugh and Josh as they listen to co-host Ryan Shelton pick a card at random and get vulnerable.

Ryan shares some recent discoveries he’s had with his psychologist in regards to how certain aspects of his childhood prepared him... or DIDN’T prepare him for adulthood.

N.B. There’s also a quick digression into the nostalgic world of 90s NBL Basketball. Don’t worry, it’s quick.

Also, while being vulnerable can be scary, it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

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The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 19 Jul 2021 04:08:00 -0000

Go get your pens and notebooks everyone!

In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, students Hugh, Ryan, Josh sit down with famed paediatrician, Dr Billy Garvey of The Royal Children’s Hospital.

Currently, Billy regretfully has a two and a half year waiting list to see him in person, but is keen to reach as many of you as possible NOW. And with all the talk on our podcast about parenting recently, we felt this was a very necessary episode.

Billy may not look like one of Australia’s most respected and in-demand paediatricians, as we speak about in the episode, but gee whiz, he sure does talk like it!

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg... Round 2

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 04 Jul 2021 23:37:00 -0000

Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg is back in the hotseat for a second round in the Vulnerabilitea House! And guys... wowee. Potentially inspired by the most recent Vulnerabilitea House episode with Missy Higgins, Hugh opens up about how much he is actually struggling right now. In fact, he’s probably as raw and honest and vulnerable as he’s ever been on The Imperfects. The Vulnerabilitea House (and the whole podcast tbh) is all about encouraging vulnerability by sharing our own struggles and imperfections. Why? Because being vulnerable creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. But like we’ve said a number of times on this podcast, you can’t just be vulnerable with anyone. It’s important to always trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg.

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Christian O'Connell - Breakfast Radio, panic attacks & starting afresh

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 20 Jun 2021 23:54:00 -0000

At the beginning of 2018, Christian O'Connell was the host of the number one breakfast radio show in England, he averaged over 2 million listeners a day, he'd won basically every award possible in the radio industry, he was seemingly on top of his world.

Unbeknownst to almost everyone in his life though, he could barely make it on the air. At the age of 45, Christian had started suffering debilitating panic attacks. And they were becoming an almost daily occurrence.

In this episode of The Imperfects, we talk with Christian about his anxiety & the panic attacks that nearly ended his career in radio. We chat about the life changing move him and his family have since made; we talk about being a vulnerable father; we talk about the challenges of starting a new in Australia...we talk about alot...it's a really good chat.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Missy Higgins

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 09:58:00 -0000

Prepare yourself for a very different episode of The Vulnerabilitea House (for a few reasons):

We welcome our first guest... MISSY HIGGINS IS BACK ON THE POD!
We all live in Melbourne and it was COVID lockdown at the time of recording so we were on Zoom.
The whole thing almost didn’t happen at all... and you’ll hear why.

For those new to The Vulnerabilitea House, here’s how it works. We get together, we sip tea, someone picks a card from the deck of vulnerability-invoking questions, and then they answer that question, making themselves vulnerable to the group AND YOU.

In theory, it should be pretty simple. But on this occasion, we kinda messed up and accidentally made it very unsimple for Missy. We felt terrible. But boy oh boy...did she bounce back!

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The Academy of Imperfection - James Victore

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 23 May 2021 21:35:06 -0000

Welcome back to The Academy of Imperfection - a conversational lecture series that features guest lecturers talking with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you about different areas of imperfection. Today, designer, author and teacher, James Victore talks about CREATIVITY.

Before writing his brilliant 2019 book ‘Feck Perfuction: Dangerous Ideas on the Business of Creativity’, James created commerical work for Moet & Chandon, Time magazine and Yohji Yamamoto and has had his work exhibited in Nwe York’s MoMA and The Louvre in Paris. Oh... AND HE’S WON AN EMMY.

James is verrrrry passionate and hence there’s a language warning on this ep.

For more James Victore stuff, please visit him on his website jamesvictore.com or on Instagram @jamesvictore.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 09 May 2021 21:00:00 -0000

We’re back in The Vulnerabilitea House! This time it’s Josh van Cuylenburg. The proven question-ASKER, becomes a first-time question-ANSWERER as he sips some Vunerabilitea and shares an honest and raw story from his past that not even his brother Hugh knew about - all in the name of vulnerability and connection. Pour yourself a cup of tea everyone... it’s great to see you again.

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Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumor

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 21:00:00 -0000

Jamila Rizvi is a writer/author, journalist, commentator, change advocate, feminist and all round wonderful human being.

In 2018 Jamila was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour. In the podcast, Jamila tells us of these challenging recent years...the multiple surgeries, the radiotherapy treatment the continuing recovery and the effects all of this has had on her life, her family and her mental health.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. This episode was edited with the help of Michael Liberale. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 11 Apr 2021 21:00:00 -0000

This week on the podcast we return to The Vulnerabilitea House, and this time its Ryan Shelton's turn.

The Vulnerabilitea House, is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, where we share something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all over a nice cup of tea.

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The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 20:00:00 -0000

Welcome to the very first episode of The Academy of Imperfection!

Presented by The Imperfects, this new series of conversational lectures will feature experts talking about different areas of imperfection with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you.

The inaugural guest lecturer is someone we are extremely excited about. Ben Crowe. Along with Brene Brown, Ben has easily been the most mentioned person on The Imperfects over the last few years.

Since working at NIKE for decades, Ben has worked closely with everyone from Andre Agassi to Cathy Freeman and surfing champion Steph Gilmore. And more recently with our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg and Ryan Shelton!

Here, Ben talks to the class about the importance of self-compassion, connection and purpose. We dare say, this is the one that might just change your life - or at the very least, help you embrace your weird for a few days.

For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

Ted Talk - Finding your purpose in 5 minutes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVsXO9brK7M

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The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 14 Mar 2021 20:00:00 -0000

The most hyped pun in podcasting, well, sort of...

This is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, something a bit shorter than normal, which we’ll scatter between the longer eps. As you’ll see from the title of these episodes (pun revealed in the ep!), they’re designed to encourage vulnerability.

First up. it's Hugh's turn to be vulnerable, if all goes well, we'll try and get some more imperfect people sharing something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all shared over a nice cup of tea.

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Rick Davies - Living with OCD

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 01 Mar 2021 10:13:00 -0000

Best known for his role as ‘Jimmy’ on TV show, Offspring, actor Rick Davies doesn’t remember a time in his life without Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Despite that, this is the first time Rick is speaking publicy about it. Rick selflessly shares a number of uncomfortable (and slightly embarrassing) stories from his life with OCD, and afterwards Hugh chats with Ryan and Josh about some resources for anyone who has OCD or knows someone who does.

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Trailer - Season 3

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -0000

In preparation for what they “promise” will be the biggest year yet for The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a short warm-up episode. Yes, there’ll of course NEW episodes in Season 3, but also there’ll be new TYPES of episodes, including one that involves an extremely overhyped pun.

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Steph Claire Smith - Body Image, Modelling & Instagram

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 00:18:00 -0000

Steph Claire Smith is one of Australia's most successful models. She rose to fame as the Instagram 'it girl' and has managed to transform this fame into a highly accomplished international modelling career; and with the help of best friend Laura, a fast growing health & fitness brand, Keep It Cleaner.

If anyone's life looks perfect, it's Steph's. However, as she bravely details in this fascinating chat with Hugh, we shouldn't always believe what we see on Instagram.

Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable insights from their conversation, as well as discussing Hugh's own flash-in-a-pan modelling career.

WARNING: This episode of The Imperfects contains references to eating disorders and behaviours.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Will McMahon - Depression & High School Expectations

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 22 Oct 2020 23:52:00 -0000

In 2019 Will McMahon and Woody Whitelaw (of Will & Woody fame) released the video, "Best Mates Sit Down For A Heart To Heart About Depression". If you haven't seen it, you really must. It's a fantastic example of the power of vulnerability.

Will McMahon has enjoyed a phenomenal career in radio, currently co-hosting the drive slot on the KISS network. He's at the top of his game, yet Will has achieved all this whilst enduring the undulations of living with a mental illness.

Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh explore some of these valuable lessons a little further, surrounding the topics of ‘male friendship’ and ‘expectations’.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Sam Willoughby - The Tragic Injury That Changed His Life

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 01:53:00 -0000

On this week’s episode, Hugh chats with Australian BMX racer, world champion, multi-Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him with tetraplegia. At 29 Sam has lived a remarkable life and is an incredible person who tells his life story with candour and honesty.

Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss Sam's journey whilst exploring some of the life lessons we can learn from this incredible person.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Steen Raskopoulos - Comedy & Depression

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Sun, 13 Sep 2020 23:22:00 -0000

This week we talk to the wonderful Australian comedian, actor and improviser Steen Raskopoulos. Over the past 8 years Steen Raskopoulos has enjoyed a remarkable career with acclaimed stand up shows, starring roles on tv shows, working with his comedic idols, copious awards...the works. In this episode Steen talks candidly of the mental health struggles going on behind the scenes during this meteoric rise.

Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Steen's story.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Catriona Bisset - Exercise, Anxiety & Female Empowerment

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 01:18:00 -0000

This week we talk to Australian athlete, the incredible Catriona Bisset. Catriona talks candidly of her unconventional...almost unintentional journey of becoming the fastest woman in Australian history over 800m.

Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Catriona's fascinating journey.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 17 Aug 2020 04:49:00 -0000

In the first episode of season two, Hugh chats with international best-selling author, Johann Hari.

For those of you who listened to season one, you will have heard us mention Johann Hari, and his book Lost Connections, ALOT. We’re big fans.

In fact, he’s had a huge influence on not just us, but some of our previous guests (see Missy Higgins Ep. 1). So, even though it’s a bit of a different episode than what we’d usually do, we couldn’t be more excited to be starting the season with Johann as our first guest.

Hugh and Johann have a fascinating discussion around anxiety, depression, addiction, connection and how our mental health is connected to the work around us.

Following this, Ryan and Hugh try hard not to completely fanboy over Johann as they attempt to further explore some of these powerful ideas.

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg and Josh van Cuylenburg. A very very special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Trailer - Season 2

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 12 Aug 2020 03:34:00 -0000

Hugh and Ryan take a quick look at season two of The Imperfects. With guests like Johann Hari, Steen Raskopolous and Catriona Bisset (plus many more), there's a lot to look forward to. Hugh and Ryan also discuss some exciting changes for The Imperfects in 2020. As always thanks to No Mono (Pie Eater) for allowing us to use Keep On as the theme to this podcast.

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Penny Moodie - Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 30 Apr 2020 03:23:00 -0000

Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - It's often quoted yet misunderstood. In this special bonus ep, Hugh talks to Penny Moodie about what living with OCD anxiety is really like. Penny, amongst other things, is also Hugh’s wife, so we get to know what living with Hugh is really like! If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Coronavirus & our mental health

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 02 Apr 2020 11:33:00 -0000

A different episode for very different times. In this special episode, Ryan & Hugh take a break from our standard format to discuss some tools & strategies we can implement to increase our resilience and improve our mental health during these unprecedented times. This episode was recorded prior to the increased quarantine measures implemented but the Australian Government. All necessary precautions and procedures were taken to adhere to appropriate social distancing at the time of recording this podcast.

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Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Fri, 20 Dec 2019 00:09:00 -0000

This special, end-of-season episode sees co-host Ryan Shelton step into the interviewee's chair. Ryan talks about his bold career ambitions, and the complex feelings of jealousy and shame when he didn't feel like he was successful enough and how uncovering his purpose has freed him from the vicious cycle of feeling inadequate.

To watch the Ted talk on purpose, click here

If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. For more info please visit: theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 23:03:00 -0000

This week, Hugh has an incredibly moving chat with the wonderful Clare Bowditch. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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Georgie Gardner - Parenting & Living in the Spotlight

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 03:48:00 -0000

Hugh sits down for a fascinating chat with Georgie Gardner, host of The Today Show. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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Erin Deering - How Money Doesn't Always Make You Happy

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Thu, 26 Sep 2019 05:43:00 -0000

In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Erin Deering. Erin is the co-founder of Australian swimwear company Triangl. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 11 Sep 2019 07:36:00 -0000

In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his biggest mistakes and the pressures of professional sport. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 09:01:00 -0000

In this first episode of The Imperfects, Hugh chats with Australian singer-songwriter Missy Higgins, who makes herself vulnerable in a way she never has before publicly. In sharing her battles with her own mental ill-health and how it drove her to temporarily quit music, Missy explains why ‘connection’ was ultimately her saviour. Following the interview, Ryan quizzes Hugh on what we can learn from Missy’s story, and how these lessons can be applied to our own imperfect lives.

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An introduction

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 05:08:00 -0000

The Resilience Project's Hugh van Cuylenburg chats to a variety of interesting people, sharing their struggles and imperfections. Hugh and Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives. Guests include, Missy Higgins, Jack Watts, Georgie Gardner, Erin Deering and Ryan Shelton. If this episode has triggered anything for you, we strongly recommend lifeline 13 11 14. A 'The Resilience Project Pocast'. . Music - No Mono - Keep on.

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